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Recently Cosmo conducted a large-scale survey of guys to help us figure out what males want. You don't want to miss what these psychologists, anthropologists, sex therapists, and sociologists revealed...

1. Men today think they have it harder than previous generations did

"On the one hand, [men] are told to be thoughtful, caring, passionate, connected, fathering types. On the other hand they're still expected to be 'macho'," explained William Pollack, PhD, the founding director and president of the Centers for Men and Young Men at McLean Hospital, in Massachusetts, who cites these conflicting messages as a major stressor for guys.

2. All that pressure affects their sex life
"The number one issue I deal with is low desire," said Ian Kerner, PhD, sex therapist and author of numerous books, including She Comes First. "Ten years ago, it was always women that were mainly experiencing loss of libido. Today the amount of male patients with low desire outstrips female patients." And

Think you're long overdue for a financial upgrade? Then you must speak up or risk going into a downward spiral.

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"If you don't feel you're getting the money you deserve, you'll become increasingly dissatisfied, which will affect your morale and performance," says Dr. Amador. However, bear in mind that you ask for - don't demand a raise. When knocking on your boss's door, be ready with solid reasoning as to why you should be making bigger bucks.

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"Employers want to see that you've gone far above and beyond the minimal requirements that your position entails," says Schroeder. Remember those e-mails where your clients ooh'd and ahh'd about what a fabulous job you did? Unleash them. Having backup documentation on hand is super-helpful as you make your case. And be sure to have a particular (realistic!) percentage in mind. (According to Dr. Amador, "10% raises are pills

There have been a number of reports of college kids hospitalized after drinking something called Four Loko, an increasingly popular type of beverage that's high in alcohol (12 percent, up to three times more potent than beer) and contains as much caffeine as a cup of coffee. Students at Ramapo College in New Jersey and Central Washington University consumed the beverage and ended up in the ER with signs of alcohol poisoning. And now alarm is spreading-and not just on college campuses-about the dangers of mixing alcohol and caffeine.

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Four Loko isn't the only dangerous mix out there. Ordering a vodka-Red Bull or a Sparks (an "energy beer") can spell disaster too. You want to steer clear of any alcoholic drink that also keeps you stimulated and awake, explains Phillips.

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Have you or your friends ever tried Four Loko? What about energy-alcoholic drinks? If so, will this make you reconsider mixing

Snuggle up to this cozy trend: skiwear-inspired clothes that are comfy enough to lounge around in yet chic enough to unleash on Saturday night.

BONUS TIP: Balance out chunky styles with formfitting pieces: a faux-fur vest and skinny jeans, sweats plus a sleek tee tucked in.

Hat Hat Attack, Kiwi Designs, 718-622-5551, $66

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Jacket New York & Company Collection, nyandcompany.com, $189


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Vest Loft, loftonline.com, $98


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Vest Say What, shopsaywhat.com, $25

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• 8 Things Men Notice About You Instantly
• Kissing Dos and Don'ts
• 30 Sexy Things to Do Before Sex
• Why Guys Dump Girls They Dig
• How to Decode His Body Language

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The book, The Snuggie Sutra, by Lex Friedman and Megan Morrison aka "The Snuggie Sutrists", claims it will "guide you...on a fuzzy and warm sexual awakening" and includes 100 sex positions. Here are a few of those...

The Drunken Sailor

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Pigs In a Blanket

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The book and the its website thesnuggiesutra.com are hilarious, but if you're looking for sex positions that feel good, will get you off, and don't require an as-seen-on-TV product, we suggest you stick with The Cosmo Kama Sutra.

Would you ever try any of the Snuggie Sutra positions? Do you think the Snuggie craze has gone too far or are you kinda obsessed with the sleeved blanket?

Images courtesy of The Snuggie Sutra

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Thank you, Eva Mendes, for proving that when it comes to hair, it's the simple things that can make it super sexy. The gorgeous actress showed up to the Rome Film Festival recently sporting some serious bombshell hair. Notice how she tucked the front pieces behind her ears and let her hair fall only in the back - instead of down her chest like most stars are doing these days. See other celebrity hairstyles you'll want to steal.

This small little tweak (that we're all capable of doing) instantly gave her the best of both worlds: the man-magnet appeal of long flowing hair in the back, and the face-framing effect of an updo in the front.Check out 8 other hairstyles men love.

I've totally been in a hair-in-the-front rut lately and can't wait to switch things up a bit by copying Eva's hot style. Check out these easy tips to always have a sexy hair day.So - do you think you'll try Eva's simple but sexy look for an upcoming event or holiday occasion? Tell us!

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If you use contraception, you know that paying for it can make a serious dent in your cash flow. Even if you have insurance, the copay for the Pill tends to be in the $5-$15 per month range. And without insurance, the cost can be so high that it may not even be an option.

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This month, a panel of experts who advise the government will get together to discuss whether or not contraception should be free.

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But some people debate that contraception can't be considered "preventative medicine" because pregnancy isn't an illness or disease. It's important to remember, though, that many women are on birth control for medical reasons. According to a representative for Planned Parenthood, certain contraceptive pills can be used to prevent endometriosis, ovarian cancer, breast and ovarian cysts, iron deficiency anemia, bad premenstrual symptoms, and a number of other

CJ Wilson, Texas Rangers

The closing pitcher is proof that jocks aren't dumb: He started his own blog and fires off funny tweets like, "Waitress just accidentally dropped a knife on me. Accidentally. #giantsfansareeverywhere

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Travis Ishikawa, San Francisco Giants

Here's some motivation to go to baseball games: He met his now-wife (a dental assistant) the first time he took to the field for the Giants.

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Elvis Andrus, Texas Rangers

The shortstop became famous this season for reaching first base every single game he played. It's no wonder they call him "The King" and he dons the number 1 on his uniform. Oh yeah, and he's single too.

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Jonathan Sanchez, San Francisco Giants

This cute pitcher made headlines recently for throwing a no hitter and almost a perfect game, giving women everyone a reason to perfect their game.

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