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Don't feel bad about being selfish with these things...Sure, you should always give to others whenever you can. But sometimes, you've just gotta do you. And research backs that up: Studies have shown that being a little selfish can actually make you a happier person. Olga Levancuka, author of How to be Selfish (And Other Uncomfortable Advice) says you should be a little more self-absorbed in these areas.

By Dara Adeeyo

1. Your Relationships
Finding the right guy can be hard work. However, you shouldn't settle for just any dude. If he's doing things like canceling plans last minute or picking silly fights, you need to ditch him.

2. Your Body
So you have a weekly exercise class you like to go to after work. But, ugh. Your friends hit you up with spontaneous plans for that night. Take a rain check. Don't skip out on getting in a good workout like you normally do. There will be plenty of other opportunities for you to hang with your friends-and those workout-induced endorphins will make you more fun to be around.

Find out what that sexy dream of his meant..Researchers recently identified the five most common man-dreams. We asked Gillian Holloway, PhD, author of The Complete Dream Book, for her expert take.

By Cosmopolitan

1. Intimacy
If he dream-cheats on you with another woman, it's because he's attracted to one of her nonphysical qualities, like her ambition or quick wit. And if he dreams about a fictional person he's never met, pay attention to the particular sexy adventure. That's what he really wants to do--but with you.

2. Being Chased
He's feeling pressured by something, but that doesn't mean he's necessarily running away from it. The pursuer could be a symbol for something that motivates him and is merely pushing him in a certain direction.

Related: What His Sheets Say About Him

3. Falling
He is overwhelmed and feels out of control, either at work or in his personal life.

4. Studying for a Test
Surprisingly, this dream becomes more frequent once guys have graduated and entered the workforce,

Some cultures believe that everyone has a doppelganger (ie, somehow who looks exactly like you) somewhere on the planet. This seems to be especially true in Hollywood! Check out our favorite faux-twin celebs-from two redheads you'd swear were sisters to a pop icon and New Girl who appear to be separated at birth.

By Tia Williams

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These moves will wow him.Heidi Klum talked about how important it is to be experimental in bed-and we couldn't agree with her more. After a while, intimacy can get kinda, you know, typical, if you don't think outside the box a little. So, to help you find your freaky side, we asked experts for some hot-but totally doable-tips for spicing things up.

By Natasha Burton

1. Play a Game
Jennifer Landa, MD, author of The Sex Drive Solution for Women, suggests that you each jot down a fantasy on a piece of paper-since it's usually easier to write down your deepest desires than talk about them. Then play any kind of competitive game (think: strip poker). The winner gets his or her fantasy acted out but, really, you both win in the end.

2. Think Outside the Bedroom
Simply switching up your location is a novelty and will up the lust factor, says expert Emily Morse. She suggests climbing on the washing machine during the spin cycle, jumping in the shower for some steamy intimate time, or taking the action to the couch,

Would you elope?Who knew: Couples can marry themselves, no priest or rabbi in sight, in the state of Colorado. One daring couple did just that on 12/12/12, with only two guests. Each other.

By Danielle Hult

On Dec. 13, 2012, I took a deep breath and told the world via Facebook status update that my fiancé, Steve, and I, had eloped.

"I did this really sneaky thing yesterday," I said. "I married my best friend. On a mountain. In the cold. Just us two!!!"

"There's this funny thing you can do here in Colorado," I continued, as 144 "likes" started popping up. "You can marry yourselves. No priest, no rabbi, no justice of the peace, no witnesses. Just you and the person you love."

Steve and I got together 10 years-to the day-before our mountaintop marriage on 12/12/12. We met the very first day of college at New York University, and were soon friends. I thought he was handsome but strange, largely due to him wearing Hawaiian shirts every day (even though he's from New Jersey, not far from my hometown in

Try to avoid sharing things when he's sick.So…we're in the worst flu season of the decade. Not only that, sucky colds have been circulating, too. Fabulous. So are you screwed when your guy gets sick? Not necessarily. Nieca Goldberg, MD, director of the Joan H. Tisch Center for Women's Health, gave us some tips on how to avoid your dude's illness.

By Emma Barker

1. Keep Your Lips to Yourself
The flu is mostly spread through spit and mucus, so definitely don't kiss him. Since the odds are high that he's carrying germs on his face, too, it's prob best to avoid smooching him on the cheek as well.

2. …But You Can Get Busy
That said, if he's feeling up for it, you could get intimate and be okay. Just know that if you're that close to you him you're probably breathing his germy air, too, so it's safest to stick with a position like reverse cowgirl where your mouth is facing away from him.

Related: The Benefits of Being Intimate

3. Air Your Dirty Laundry
If you're sharing a bed with your man, wash the

If you're single, v-day can be just as fun.Who says V-day is for couples? Defy Cupid by indulging in these seven solo pursuits, inspired by e-mails from other single Cosmo girls!

By Christie Griffin

1. Just because you're single doesn't mean you're alone! Round up some unattached chicks and hit the bars, a restaurant, the local karaoke joint, the bowling lanes, whatever. Revel in your ability to have an amazing time, no men needed. -Katriona, 30

2. Whether it's George Clooney or Johnny Depp, spend the night with your ultimate celeb crush. Rent a handful of his movies and treat yourself to an eye-candy marathon. -Jillian, 22




Related: 18 Reasons to Love Being Single

3. Organize a Secret Admirers gifting sesh, à la Secret Santa: You and a group of friends draw names and then deliver items like chocolates, flowers, and teddy bears to each other. That way everyone can have a Valentine... -Mary, 23

4. Since you aren't spending your dough on some dude, might as well spend it on yourself. Give yourself some

Experts explain why men cheat. (photo: Thinkstock) Experts explain why men cheat.Could it be intimacy, control, or…just being a sex addict? Sex and relationship experts spill on the top reasons why men cheat. (Besides, you know, being total jerks.)

By Pat Sandora

1. They're Avoiding Intimacy
"Some men cheat to avoid any real intimacy. Intimacy scares them, so they distance themselves from their wife or girlfriend by cheating on her," says psychiatrist Gail Saltz, MD. This way they never have to fully rely on someone else, so they can't get hurt. Yeah, it makes sense in their minds…

2. They Crave Intimacy
On the flip side, some men are searching for intimacy outside of their relationship. According sex expert Emily Morse, some couples drift apart over time and don't communicate about their lack of intimacy. When that happens, some men think it's easier to just cheat instead of talking about it.

Related: 8 Ways To Tell That He's Lying

3. They're Hooked on the Honeymoon
You know how it goes-you can't get enough of each other at the