No matter how fabulous you are, there's a decent chance that your man's mom might be a total beast to you. According to Terri Apter, PhD, author of What Do You Want from Me? Learning to Get Along with In-Laws, 60 percent of women report having a negative relationship with their guy's mother (compared to just 15 percent of men who say they have tension with their significant other's mom). It may not be that she doesn't like you so much as that she's worried he'll need her less with you in his life. And sometimes she "adapts" by being critical, controlling, nosy, invasive...you name it. Save yourself the fury and headaches and be strategic right from the start.
Problems with your own mother? Here's how to talk to her
Some women make the mistake of bending over backward to win a difficult mother's approval. This approach risks her taking advantage of your niceties and becoming a bully. You have to walk the line between acting like an alpha female while also being respectful to
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No matter how fabulous you are, there's a decent chance that your man's mom might be a total beast to you. According to Terri Apter, PhD, author of What Do You Want from Me? Learning to Get Along with In-Laws, 60 percent of women report having a negative relationship with their guy's mother (compared to just 15 percent of men who say they have tension with their significant other's mom). It may not be that she doesn't like you so much as that she's worried he'll need her less with you in his life. And sometimes she "adapts" by being critical, controlling, nosy, invasive...you name it. Save yourself the fury and headaches and be strategic right from the start.Read More »from How to Make Nice With His Mom
Whether you've been stood up or are trying to get a creepy guy to lay off, commit the tips to memory and you'll be able to tackle any situation.
IF YOUR DATE DOESN'T SHOW UP: Resist the urge to call or text him to b---- him out. Instead, go ahead and finish your drink or enjoy that solo meal you've always said you'd have. If you tell your waiter or bartender your date didn't show, you may even get a free drink or app for being such a good sport and not bolting. If it turns out that he doesn't even have a good excuse for bailing, feel free to call him out on his inconsiderate behavior.
IF THAT CREEPY DUDE WON'T LEAVE YOU ALONE: Take a deep breath, straighten your spine, and be brutally honest. Women tend to feel guilty about being harsh, so they try to gently shoo a guy away- but it's tone that men respond to, not words. So wipe the polite smile off your face and bluntly say, "I'm not interested." Don't slip it in an apology or keep babbling. Just those three words - with aRead More »from 5 Quick Fixes for Dating Dramas
Some beauty looks are strictly for ladies night out. When you want to get your guy's attention, steer clear of these over-the-top trends and focus on what turns him on.
1) Fake Eyelashes
Hot date? If you're not skilled with faux lashes and glue, you may want to rethink falsies. "Men don't like anything that looks fake," says Fisher. "It's distracting, and they want to see the real you." Try one of these guy-approved beauty products.
2) Putrid Polish
The smell that turns off approximately 52 percent of guys? Nail polish! You know it's not his favorite thing, but you might not know how much those fumes bother him. "I can't stand the smell. It gives me an instant headache," says Scott, 28. Plus, it's a beauty ritual that doesn't resonate with most males. Not that you gotta bag your bright nails on his account-just try not to whip out the polish when you're watching TV together (or at least crack a window!). Plus: Find out what guys think about funky polish.
Putting on a bikini after a long winter doesn't have to be a torturous event. It helps to start with the right suit for your shape.Here's how to look smooth, bronzed, and gleaming all over. And check out Cosmo's fail-proof tips to looking amazing this summer.Beat Body Acne
Don't let eruptions on your back, shoulders, chest, or butt force you to eliminate slinky tops and skimpy bikinis from your warm-weather wardrobe. To ward off new spots while dealing with existing ones, start this daily blemish-busting regimen: First, cleanse the offending areas with a body wash that contains salicylic acid like Murad Acne Body Wash. Let the cleanser sit on your skin for a few minutes before rinsing it off so you can reap all the antiacne benefits. Postshower, spot-treat your zits with the same drying potion that you use on your face. These acne attackers will make your breakouts vanish.
2) Take Your Time with Hair Removal
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- Cosmopolitan.com | Love + Sex – Tue, Apr 13, 2010 6:45 PM EDT
It's no shocker that women are known for judging others, but did you ever think men might be guilty of it too? It's true...and you might be surprised to learn exactly what they're honing in on. Here are three things he notices the moment you meet.
You can work your butt off to come across well-a flattering, flirty outfit, big smile, witty conversation-but you can't do the same for your friends. Men know this, so if you're out with the gals, men look at them as representatives of all your personality traits-including the not-so-good ones. "I met a girl who seemed sweet at a bar. We chatted, and she invited me to hang with her friends," says Stan, 26. "Within 10 minutes, I realized they were all gossipy drama queens, and I bolted." If your friends aren't on the same win-him-over page as you are, head to your own corner of the bar.
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Guys pride themselves on being funny, so they look
This week marks one of our favorite times of year, Spa Week. During the week of April 12-18th, you can book a signature treatment (like a massage, scrub, or facial) for just $50 (that's more than half off in some cases!). It's the perfect excuse to get pampered without worrying about your wallet.
More than 800 spas nationwide are participating, so visit spaweek.com to find a spa in your neighborhood.Read More »from Four Ways to Make the Most Out of Spa Week
And so, in the spirit of pampering, here are a few tips to get the most out of your Spa Week experience:
Ask for samples: If you like certain products they used during your session, ask if the spa has any samples. That way you can apply them on your own to prolong the effects on your skin. Stretch your beauty dollars even more with these budget-friendly buys.
Steal a move: If there was a particular massage technique that felt amazing, ask the massage therapist to show it to you afterward-you may be able to get your guy to repeat it at home! Find out how to get even more
Between chronic stomach rubbing and throwing parties for their unborn babies, these expectant moms have forgotten that there's a world beyond their burgeoning bellies. Hey, at least your mom isn't the only one who makes annoying comments.
"When my cousin Maggie found out she was expecting, she threw a surprise party for her unborn baby. The whole thing was a joke. After a hired clown painted a face on Maggie's tummy and attempted to entertain the adult guests, Maggie gave us paper and crayons so we could draw pictures of what we thought the baby would look like. Then, she busted out her guitar and sang a tune she'd written for the baby, complete with tears. Before we left, we ate a repulsive-looking baby-shaped cake and received goody bags filled with candy pacifier rings, photocopies of the baby's first sonogram, and a tiny frame for her picture to go in after she was born." -Julie, 29
"During my friend Amy's pregnancy, she developed what my friends and I would later callRead More »from Pregnant Chicks Who Brag Too Much
We've ID'd the 10 reasons it's time to kick some so-called friends out of your social-networking life.
1. She's a firm believer that you can learn a lot about your health from your poop - and has the status updates to prove it.
2. You've only met him once but he "likes" everything you do on Facebook. Uh, stalk much? (Here's how to stalker-proof yourself online so you can keep your life creep-free.)
3. You're pretty sure she doesn't wear her dress and veil every day, but the girl can't stop posting pics from her wedding two years ago.
4. He changed his relationship status to single instead of breaking up with you in person.
5. One word: Farmville.
6. She might not be on The Biggest Loser but for some reason she wants the entire world to know what she had for lunch, how many miles she just ran, and when she is sweating it out at the gym.
7. She has a photo album of your days as a teen beauty pageant queen, a scanner, and a passion for tagging. It's always moreRead More »from Spring Clean Your Facebook Friend List
Sure, you hit it off with his parents and bonded with his buddies. But a less conspicuous milestone awaits you: your first vacation together. You're thinking about moonlit beach walks; he's thinking about whether he can handle the round-the-clock togetherness. Although we'd never let on, men are always searching for signs of whether we'll click with a girl long-term or clash and burn, and traveling provides the perfect opportunity to collect that crucial info. Here are four ways to guarantee smooth sailing ... and a return trip. Plus: Find out the most romantic places in the country to kiss
1) Pack Lightly
Men don't want to date women with baggage ... especially when we have to lug it. As much as we love to flex our muscles (real or imagined), we don't want to risk a back injury because you insist on bringing 10-pound dumbbells for your daily toning session. Besides, when you pack six bags for a four-day trip, we wonder if every outing will be a major undertaking. Learn howRead More »from Survive Your First Vacation as a Couple
From uncensored opinions of men to scientific evidence about what turns them on, here's what dudes are paying attention to. We asked 100 guys on the street about these hair trends- and were a little surprised by their answers.
Plus: Watch this video to find out how to get a big, bouncy blowout that guys go crazy for.
We asked, do you care if a girl styles her hair the same way every day? 71 percent said no. 29 percents said yes. Jennifer Aniston sticks to her signature style, and hey, it works! Check out Jen's best styles since 1992.
Are boho braids cute or cuckoo? 83 percent of our guys said cute. 17 percent said cuckoo. Here's how to make sexy spring braids.
Hair Up? Or Down?
Actually, it might be the action that matters just as much as the style! 43 percent of guys said they love watching a girl put up her hair, while 37 percent said they enjoy watching a girl let down her hair. 20 percent said both are equally hot andRead More »from What Men Really Think About Your Hair