Here are some dating tips you should probably ditch.Paul Carrick Brunson, matchmaker and author of the new relationship book, It's Complicated (But It Doesn't Have to Be), IDs the dating advice and myths that are total B.S.
By Casey Gueren
Myth No. 1: It's All About Quality, Not Quantity
Brunson says he sees the same thing happening online and in real life: Women will go on a few dates with a guy and only pursue someone else when things start to fizzle, while men cast a wider net and casually date several women at once. "There's no need to be committed from day one," he says. "A guy needs to prove that he's worthy of your undivided attention before you give it to him."
Myth No. 2: You Should Ditch the Checklist
Writing down (or at least thinking about) what you're looking for is actually a good thing-it keeps you focused on what's really important to you in a long-term boyfriend (such as he wants to get married eventually, likes kids, dislikes prison...you know, the little things). But here's the deal: Most of us end up loading that
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These tips will help you view yourself in the best light.We love how Lady Gaga and Christina Aguilera have talked up how much they love their bods. Want to steal their body image? Try these quick and easy tricks. They'll help you eat better, exercise harder, and love your bod more, so you can feel crazy-confident 24/7.
By Malia Griggs
1. Before you leave your apartment in the morning, take a moment to strike a ridiculous (-ly attractive) pose in the mirror. It's silly, but it's good to take a moment and remember how hot you are when you're just out of the shower and freshly primped for the day.
2. Skip diet products. These types of food leave you feeling unsatisfied because they usually don't fill you up. Stick to real, non-processed foods to satisfy your cravings.
3. Don't go more than three to four hours without a meal or snack. You'll get super hungry and freak out and eat everything in sight when you finally have a second to settle. And then you'll just feel nasty and bloated. Try an apple with peanut butter, whole-fat cheese with a6 Tricks to Get a Flat Stomach Fast
By Cosmopolitan.com | Healthy Living – Mon, Nov 5, 2012 10:56 AM EST
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Do the windmill!Yeah, you're probably not after six-pack abs, but a flat stomach? Um, yes please. Patrick Frost, a trainer at Barry's Bootcamp, swears these exercises will give you one in no time.
By Korin Miller
1. The Elbow Plank
Pull your body into a plank position, and then lower yourself onto your elbows. Keep your shoulders over your elbows, make sure your abs are flat, and clench down there like you do when you do your Kegels. Remember to breathe but don't allow your stomach or lower back to drop. Hold this for 60 seconds.
2. The Side Elbow Plank
Start in the same position as the elbow plank, then turn your body to the side so that your hips are stacked above each other and straighten your arm that's in the air. Hold this position for 60 seconds and add a hip pulse after you've held it for 30 seconds. Then flip and do the same on the opposite side.
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3. The Basic Crunch
There's a reason why crunches are an oldie but goodie: They're great at flattening10 Foods that Help Your Sexual Health
By Cosmopolitan.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Nov 1, 2012 4:30 PM EDT
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This will get you going.No doubt you're all about using condoms and practicing safe sex-and you should be. But experts swear that eating right can also boost your sexual health. Nosh on these foods to keep your boobs, uterus, va-jay-jay, etc, working right.
By Korin Miller
1. Plums and Peaches
These delish fruits are packed with antioxidant polyphenols that may help kill breast cancer cells.
2. Vitamin D
Some studies show that foods rich in Vitamin D-eggs, salmon, shitake mushrooms, and tuna-can help keep your breasts healthy and lower your risk of breast cancer.
3. Probiotic Yogurt
Yeast infections suck…and they happen when there's an imbalance of bacteria in your vagina. The probiotics in yogurt can help restore the bacteria and stave off infection.
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4. Walnuts
These nuts are great for your breast health. In a study from the Marshall University School of Medicine, one group of mice was fed two ounces of walnuts each day and a separate group was fedNew Study: Facebook is More Tempting Than Sex
By Cosmopolitan.com | Love + Sex – Wed, Oct 31, 2012 5:39 PM EDT
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Try resisting this...We definitely lose track of how many times we check Facebook and Twitter every day. But a new study found that social media might be harder to resist than…pretty much everything else.
By Korin Miller
In the study, researchers from Chicago University monitored 205 people for a week to suss out their cravings. Scientists checked in on participants seven times a day, asking them to report back on what urges they had at that particular moment or within the last 30 minutes, how strong they were, and whether or not they gave in to them. Overall, there were 10,558 responses and 7,827 desires reported.
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Researchers discovered that people were most likely to give in to their urge to check their Twitter or Facebook pages-even more than they were to have sex and go shopping.
Sure, it's easier (and faster) for most people to check their Twitter feeds than seduce someone or hit the mall, so we get why you'd give in so easily. But wow.
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Try these moves next you're in the sack.Robert Pattinson swears Breaking Dawn: Part 2 will have steamy vampire sex, which made us think…vampire sex could be pretty damn hot. We're thinking spicy, passionate, insatiable sex. Since it's Halloween and all, we consulted relationship expert Ian Kerner, PhD, author of She Comes First for tips on how to heat things up, vamp-style.
By Korin Miller
1. Light Candles
Setting the mood is key here, so turn off your overhead and light a bunch of candles around your bedroom. Think: Just enough to cast a sexy glow on your and your man, but not so much that your room is bright.
2. Be in Control
When you watch True Blood, the women are always crazy-confident in bed. With that in mind, you call the shots tonight. Your man will freaking love it.
3. Wear Red Lingerie
Yeah, red and vampires go together, but studies have shown that men are drawn to the color. Try a hot red bra or sexy negligee.
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4. Rip Off His Clothes
Vampires want what they want, when they9 Ways to Have a Threesome Without Actually Having One
By Cosmopolitan.com | Love + Sex – Thu, Oct 25, 2012 5:10 PM EDT
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Give him an experience he'll never forget.When it comes to fantasies, you can't get much kinkier than a threesome. But experts agree that actually engaging in ménage-a-trois action can totally wreck your relationship. So clinical sexologist Patti Britton, PhD, cofounder of SexCoachU.com, shared sexy ideas to satisfy that dream in a fun and harmless way. They start off tame and get increasingly risqué, so click away and see how far you feel like pushing the edge.
By Molly Triffin
1. Tell a Sexy Story
Have a sultry conversation with your guy about bringing a third person into the boudoir. Lead into it by playfully saying, "let's try something fun and different tonight." Then take turns vividly describing a hot scenario. When you imagine yourself performing a sexual act, your brain actually goes through the same mental process it would if you were doing it IRL. That, in turn, triggers physical arousal. The more details you use, the more engaged your brain becomes, and the stronger your body's response.
2. Put on a Show
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Doing this will help you get more moolah.Want to snag a raise? Start acting crazy-confident.
By Korin Miller
Here's why: According to new research from Australia's University of Melbourne, people who are confident earn more money.
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In the study, researchers asked people about their confidence levels in elementary, middle, and high school, as well as college and how they feel now. Those who were more confident earned more-and got promoted faster.
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Not only that, people who described themselves as extroverted, open to experiences, agreeable, and neurotic were also more motivated and earned more than other people. We don't really get the neurotic part, but okay…
So, if you want to earn more cash (and, really-who doesn't?), be confident around the office. That means not being afraid to talk to your boss or speak up in a meeting. Your wallet will thank you.
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By Cosmopolitan.com | Beauty on Shine – Wed, Oct 24, 2012 5:48 PM EDTWe always rely on the runway for inspiration when it comes to beauty and fashion trends, but the shows in September gave us lots of thoughts for Halloween costumes too. Take your ideas from some of fashion's finest designers and make them your own.
By Carly Cardellino
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By Cosmopolitan.com | Beauty on Shine – Tue, Oct 23, 2012 5:29 PM EDT
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Zap that zit before it even has a chance to surface.The secret to a gorgeous complexion: Prevention. Stop breakouts before they start with simple tweaks to your daily skincare regimen-as well as your lifestyle (hint: what you eat could be sabotaging your skin). Dermatologist Howard Murad, MD, associate clinical professor of medicine at UCLA and founder of Murad, Inc. skincare line, shares just how to get clear skin so you can rock a flawless complexion every single day.
By Nicole Catanese
1. Do the One-Minute Rule
Using a face wash laced with salicylic acid (from one to two percent depending on how bad, and how often, you break out) is a surefire way to stop pimples from forming. It's simple: Instead of spot treating after one pops up, you're keeping every single pore clear from the get go. Suds up in the morning and night, and then wait one full minute before rinsing so the gentle exfoliator can work its pore-clearing magic.
2. Wipe Away Oil
If your T-zone typically resembles an oil slick 24/7-or you've worked up a sweat crossing
