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Here's how guys get over a breakup.When Seal started making the talk show rounds, most people were surprised at how calm and mature he seemed about his split from Heidi Klum. He even told Ellen DeGeneres that he's keeping his wedding ring on because it makes him feel "connected" to his ex.

By John Devore

Of course, what he says in public and how he privately feels could be two totally different things. Even though guys usually play it cool after a split, what happens to a man after a break up depends on who did the breaking up.

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If he did it, he's sad for one-billionth of a nanosecond before he starts daydreaming about the new chicks he's going to hook up with. If he's the one who got run over by the dump truck, however, his post-breakup behavior is far different. Yes, psycho guys do psycho things. But normal dudes like Seal, who are saddened by the end of a relationship, focus on fighting that soul-crushing feeling-figuratively and literally.

Here, a guy tells us the real deal

More the reason to want to do the work yourself.Know those mind-numbing meetings you're forced to sit through at work? They could actually be screwing with your smarts.

By Korin Miller

According to new research from Virginia Tech, working together in small groups can make some typically smart people less intelligent in the moment. To get the results, scientists gave university students IQ tests, then paired up those who had similar levels of higher-than-average intelligence, and had them solve problems as a team.

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Overall, most participants ended up with worse scores than they did on their individual IQ tests. For the next part of the study, scientists told the students how they were doing in comparison with their peers. Those who were told they weren't doing so hot ended up getting even lower scores.

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The crummiest part? Women were way more likely to be affected by the group dynamic than men-even though they had the same scores on their

Marriage vs Cohabiting Good news for commitment-phobes: A new study found getting married won't make you any happier than just living with your guy.

By Korin Miller

For the study, researchers from Cornell followed 2,737 single men and women-896 of whom got hitched or moved in with a partner during the study. Over the next six years, they were polled on happiness, health, and how much they socialized with friends and family.

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Researchers found that all couples had a honeymoon period right after they got married or moved in together-they were happier and less depressed than those who stayed single. But eventually, both the married couples and cohabitators had less contact with their friends and family than single people, which can definitely put a dent in your social life.

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The study also found that couples who just lived together had bigger leaps in happiness and more self-esteem than they did when they were

Photo: Jon Kopaloff/FilmMagic Over the last few years, we've noticed a growing trend in Hollywood: Stars are getting pregnant before they get hitched. Jessica Alba, Nicole Richie, and Ashlee Simpson are just a few who went that route. And it seems to be gaining steam again-Jessica Simpson and Kristin Cavallari are currently engaged and preggers.

By Korin Miller

The whole "baby before marriage" thing looks like it worked out for most of these celebs, but they also have loads of disposable income to spend on nannies, diapers, etc., which, let's be honest: most regular people don't have.

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Naturally, we wondered what you thought about going this route, so we conducted an online poll. The verdict? A whopping 70 percent of you think you should get married before you have a baby. A lot of celebs have been engaged when they got pregnant or got engaged soon after, but 59 percent of you said having a diamond ring on your finger still isn't a good enough reason to

Gossiping is actually good for you?If you're like us, you're practically the first to know when a celeb gets divorced, knocked up or is caught stepping out on his or her longtime boo. And you know what? According to a new study, it may be okay, because gossip makes us better people-seriously.

By Kelly Thore

A team of researchers at the University of California, Berkeley found that socially discussing the "bad" things other people do actually makes us less likely to do questionable things ourselves.

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The researchers conducted a series of experiments to test the effects of "social gossip" on various participants. During one experiment, participants played in an economic raffle, and a select few were allowed to share "gossip notes" about those who weren't being generous with their fake cash. Researchers found that the threat of earning that negative rep amongst other participants kept most players from being stingy.

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She'll say yes if you propose to her like this.We polled hundreds of women to see if they think these proposal styles are awesome or lame. See if your take matches theirs-so you don't eff up the big moment.

By Annie Daly

OVER CANDLELIGHT AT A ROMANTIC DINNER
VERDICT: Awesome
It's cliché for a reason: 73 percent of women say it's swoonworthy. When you bring a girl to an elegant restaurant, the atmosphere makes her feel really special. Call ahead to let them know your plans, and reserve the most romantic seat in the house, whether it's overlooking the water, fireside, or a private corner table. Secretly order champagne to be delivered to the table when she says yes.

AT THE STROKE OF MIDNIGHT ON NEW YEAR'S EVE
VERDICT: Awesome
It's not cheesy to propose on this special occasion: 79 percent of women think it's a great call. Why? Mile-marker days are loaded with sentimental value, and proposing on day one of a new year says that you're eager to start a new life with her. It doesn't get much sweeter than that.

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These things will help you get over a breakup quick.Katy Perry seems to be moving on from her divorce from Russell Brand, but that doesn't make the sting of their breakup hurt any less. While we were mourning the demise of our favorite rocker couple, we spoke with relationship therapist Rachel A. Sussman, author of The Breakup Bible, for her tips on how regular girls can

By Casey Gueren

1. Strip Your Sheets. Buying all new bedding gets rid of bad bedroom energy from your room and helps you start fresh, says Sussman.

2. Get sweaty. Pump your mood with a Zumba or boot camp class at your gym, then switch to yoga or Pilates at night to help you relax. And consider the amazing body you'll have in a few short weeks.

3. Indulge at the makeup counter. Updating your look helps you feel sexy and desirable again, says Sussman. While the perfect smoky eye may not heal a broken heart, it's bound to keep you from crying for a while.

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4. Obsess over the breakup…for 15 minutes. "Obsessing over something is

This is the biggest lie women tell.Sure, honesty is the best policy…most of the time. After all, little white lies happen, and often they're totally harmless (telling your aunt you love the crazy birthday gift she gave you, saying you had fun at the end of a lame date, etc).

By Korin Miller

But according to a new survey of 3,000 women by Timex, most of us are lying to ourselves and other people on a regular basis about something that isn't totally harmless: What we eat. And we do it often-the survey found we lie an average of nine times a day about our diet.

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According to researchers, the foods most likely to prompt a lie were chocolate, cookies, cake, wine, cheese, and bread. Of course, the occasional fib doesn't hurt anyone, but regularly deceiving yourself can be bad for your health.

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Check out the top lies:
1. It was only a small portion
2. I'll have a big lunch so I won't eat much after this
3. I only treat myself once in a while