Sometimes a mother's statements are totally perplexing, biting, or flat-out irritating. So we decided to clear up a few things for you.
By Sara Bodnar
There tends to be a communication breakdown between mothers and daughters, says Deborah Tannen, PhD, author of the buzzed-about book You're Wearing That? Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation. So we had Tannen translate common (and confounding) "momspeak."
"Where did you buy that shirt?"
This most likely means: "That top isn't flattering - I wish you'd wear something else." "She's softening a negative point with vague phrasing," explains Tannen. But there's something deeper she probably won't own up to: When she homes in on your looks, your mom is also thinking about herself. "She assumes your appearance is a reflection on her," says Tannen, "so she wants to help you become someone she's happy with." Tell her you know she has great advice, but you have to expressRead More »from 5 Hurtful Comments Moms Makeâ€¦and What They Really Mean