grade fI have a very tough time being criticized, corrected, or accused - of even the smallest mistakes - and I react very angrily. I've wrestled this instinct under control in a professional context, more or less, but I have more trouble with it at home. All it takes is for my daughter to make a mild comment such as, "You forgot to remind me to bring my library book," to set me off. "What do you mean…it's not my responsibility…I didn't know Wednesday was Library Day…" etc., etc.
More and more, I see the connection between perfectionism, control, and anger. Zoikes, how I struggle to keep my sense of humor and light-heartedness! Here are some of the strategies that I try to use to accept criticism. If I manage to use them, they never fail me, but I don't always manage to put them to work.
1. Listen to what a critic is saying. Really listen, try to understand that point of view, don't just nod while I formulate my retorts. Accept just criticism.
2. Don't be defensive. This is theRead More »from Tips for Handling Criticism