Assay: I get a tremendous intellectual and emotional satisfaction when I hear someone give exactly the right answer to a difficult question. I was trying to remember some of my favorite examples of this kind of response, because just thinking about them makes me happy.
Here are four examples that sprang to mind.
1. My very favorite parenting book (its principles that apply equally to adults) is Faber and Mazlish's How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, and I also love their book, Siblings Without Rivalry. It has a terrific section about dealing with a child who says, "You love Joe more than me!" The authors point out that the answer "I love you both equally" isn't satisfying, because we all crave to be loved uniquely. They tell a story to give an example from the adult context. When a wife turned to her husband and said, "Whom do you live more? Your mother or me?" she didn't want to hear him say, "I love you both the same." Instead he said, "My motherRead More »from Happiness Challenge: Saying the Right Thing