With any kind of happiness project or habits change, we need to figure out what kind of change at which to aim.
For instance, I think it's important to be very concrete and specific about what you're asking of yourself: "Plan lunch with a friend once a week" instead of "Have more fun."
Along the same lines, research suggests that some people have better success changing a habit when they start small. A series of small but real accomplishments gives people the energy and confidence to continue. For instance, a person who wants to write a novel might resolve to write one sentence each day. Or a person who wants to start running might resolve to run for one minute.
These little steps also help to shape the patterns of our days, to make room for the new activity. The habit of the habit is even more valuable than the habit itself; that is, being in the habit of going to the gym is more valuable than any one particular work-out (this is related to the tricky one-coin argument).Read More »from Do You Prefer to Aim Big or Aim Small?