Do you sometimes feel as if you're two people? For a long time, I struggled to identify the metaphor to describe the tension between my two selves-between now-Gretchen and future-Gretchen, between the want-self and should-self. Is it Jeckyll and Hyde? The angel and devil on my shoulders? The elephant and the rider? The ego, the id, and the super-ego?
Then in a flash, I saw how to think about the two Gretchens, and how to think of myself in the third person, as a way better to understand myself and direct my actions. There's me, Gretchen (now-Gretchen, want-Gretchen), and there's my manager.
I think I was inspired by my sister's Hollywood workplace lingo.
Who is my "manager?" Well, I'm like a fabulous celebrity. I have a manager. I'm lucky, because I have the best manager imaginable. My manager understands my unique situation, interests, quirks, and values, and she's always thinking about my long-term well-being.
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