In marriage, or any partnership, chores are a huge source of conflict. How do you get your sweetheart to hold up his or her end, without nagging?
It's annoying to hear a hectoring voice, so suggest tasks without words. When the Big Man needs a prescription filled, he puts his empty medicine bottle on the bathroom counter. Then I know to get it re-filled.
If you need to voice a reminder, limit yourself to one word. Instead of barking out, "Now remember, I've told you a dozen times, stop off at the grocery store, we need milk, if you forget, you're going right back out!" Instead, call out, "Grocery store!" or "Milk!"
Don't insist that a task be done on your schedule. "You've got to trim those hedges today!" Says who? Try, "When are you planning to trim the hedges?" If possible, show why something needs to be done by a certain time. "Will you be able to trim the hedges before our party next week?"
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