In doing my happiness project, I've been repeatedly struck by how hard it is to follow the first of my Personal Commandments, to "Be Gretchen." Why is it so difficult just to accept my own nature?
Two of my favorite Secrets of Adulthood remind me to Be Gretchen: "Just because something is fun for someone else, doesn't mean it's fun for you - and vice versa" and "You can choose what you do, but you can't choose what you like to do."
I've noticed that people often assume that everyone enjoys the same activities that they enjoy, because they believe those activities are inherently enjoyable. For example, when I commented on how well a friend had arranged some flowers, she explained, "I needed a part-time job during college, so of course I tried to get a job at a flower shop."
"Why did you try to work at a flower shop?" I asked, puzzled.
"Well, everyone loves working with flowers," she answered matter-of-factly.
Well, actually, nope. I would never try to get a job inRead More »from Happiness Quiz: How Well Do You Know Yourself?