I've written a lot about abstainers vs. moderators. In a nutshell, the difference is: abstainers find it easier to resist temptation by giving up something altogether, while moderators find it easier to indulge in moderation.
I'm an abstainer. I find it very easy to give something up, but I drive myself crazy when I try to indulge in a limited way. I wear myself out with "Does this count?" "Today, tomorrow?" "Just one more."
Every time I write about the subject, I hear from abstainers and moderators alike, and I talk to my friends about this issue all the time (I'm a bit of a happiness bore, I confess). I do believe that both camps exist, and many people are a mix of both. But here's my latest conclusion: More people would benefit from abstaining.
Abstaining sounds demanding and rigid; people assume that it's easier to be moderate. But in fact, abstaining is easier. At least, for lots of people. From what I've seen, many people who try abstaining are surprised to find outRead More »from Want to Be Free from French Fries? Or, Why Abstaining May Be Easier Than You Think