Do you ever wonder if feeling bad about our bodies is a placeholder for all the ways we feel bad about life in general? Maybe you hate your job or had a terrible father or shrink from opportunities at work. It's much easier to just say, "I hate my thighs," than it is to dig into what's really keeping your self-esteem in first gear. But there's a silver lining to this predicament. What if tonight we threw our self-loathing to the floor along with our cardigan? If we're using our bodies as shorthand for our life as a whole, then maybe they're also the quickest way to feel pretty bad ass tonight. It's worth a try, don't you think?
Luxuriate some kind attention on your body.
Here's a word we don't use enough in modern life: toilette. It brings to mind an old-fashioned daily ablution with potions, fragrance, and creams. Not a mad dash five-minute teeth-brushing and hair-combing, but a slow, daily ritual that is about attention and care. And it doesn't have to be time-consuming. It could
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- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Mon, Sep 20, 2010 4:58 PM EDT
Do you ever wonder if feeling bad about our bodies is a placeholder for all the ways we feel bad about life in general? Maybe you hate your job or had a terrible father or shrink from opportunities at work. It's much easier to just say, "I hate my thighs," than it is to dig into what's really keeping your self-esteem in first gear. But there's a silver lining to this predicament. What if tonight we threw our self-loathing to the floor along with our cardigan? If we're using our bodies as shorthand for our life as a whole, then maybe they're also the quickest way to feel pretty bad ass tonight. It's worth a try, don't you think?Read More »from How to feel better about your naked bod (and maybe your whole life) by tonight
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Fri, Sep 17, 2010 4:35 PM EDT
AMCTV.COMY'all know we're crazy Mad Men fans, even if the office politics make us die a little inside. But watching Sunday's episode, you could have knocked me over with a feather: even rapscallion Don Draper wants a Real-Life Makeover! Here, six universal truths evident in his makeover and applicable to yours.Read More »from 6 truths we can learn from Don Draper's Real-Life Makeover
It's never too late, and you're never too far gone.
So you've been lying to everyone about everything for your entire adult life. So you took a wrecking ball to your wife and family. Your whole life can be in ruins, but let this be a lesson to all of us: you are never too far gone for a change. Things are never too bad to get better, and it's never too late to make over yourself or your life. If Don can do it, any of us can. Change can happen whenever we have the will.
Write in a journal.
How surprised were you when Don sat by the window in his apartment and started writing about his feelings? Dude is sad. But instead of temporarily drinking his troubles away, he's working through his
MiramaxIf you're like me, you often wish life were more like the movies. We would make excellent use of the hair and makeup people and have that marvelous movie advantage called I-can-walk-all-day-in-impractical-shoes-and-my-feet-never-hurt. There would be a soundtrack, of course, that followed us as we--so full of vim and vigor, spilling charm onto the sidewalk there's so much to spare!--bopped down the street carrying dahlias, a baguette, and The New Yorker. You know, movie heroine stuff. This isn't my daily reality. But would it be wrong to have a little more movie magic in our day-to-day?Read More »from What would the heroine in your life movie do?
One night a few years ago, feeling sad and depleted about something I can't even remember now, I called my friend Alison. I sat in my bedroom with the lights turned off, holding the phone tightly to my ear. That night, she offered the kind of advice that was perfect in that moment, and which, years later, I still fish out on rainy days. "What would the heroine in the movie version of your life do?"
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Wed, Sep 15, 2010 4:04 PM EDT
Why should only school kids get the excitement of a new lunch box? Our lives are way harder, and besides, aren't you tired of toting your lunch to work in that leftover Sephora bag? These ten lunch boxes are super cute, of course, but equally important, they solve the age old problems of where to put the dressing on your take-to-work salad and how to keep your sandwich from getting squished.
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Mon, Sep 13, 2010 5:22 PM EDT
A new study in the journal Frontiers in Aging Neuroscience shows that walking for forty minutes three times a week can improve the connectivity between brain circuits that tend to erode as we age. The study took a group of couch potatoes who reported fewer than two 30-minute bouts of exercise in the past six months (!), and found that at the end of twelve months, their brain connectivity had improved.Read More »from New study: walking can make over your workout and your brain
Dr. Arthur F. Kramer, who led the study, explained to Reuters: "Patterns of connectivity decrease as we get older. Networks aren't as well connected to support the things we do, such as driving," he said. "But we found as a function of aerobic fitness, the networks became more coherent."
Walking became the ultimate brain anti-ager, turning the clock back decades. "As the older people in the walking group became more fit, the coherence among different regions in the networks increased and became similar to those of the 20-year-olds," Kramer explained.
Kramer told Science Daily, that
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Fri, Sep 10, 2010 5:26 PM EDT
If you're looking for something to do, there's certainly a lot to worry about. Oil spills, religious intolerance, a crappy economy, and new health threats rear their heads every day. These are serious problems, worthy of concern and solutions. But no matter how many nights we lie awake staring at the ceiling, worry won't change anything. So why do we do it? And how can we stop? Here, what worry is and how to ease it out of your life.Read More »from Calling all worrywarts! How to fret less and live more
ETYMOLOGY: "Worrying may shorten one's life, but not as quickly as it once did. The ancestor of our word, Old English wyrgan, meant 'to strangle.'" --The Free Dictionary
Chronic worry can feel like strangling or even drowning. If your worry feels this life-threatening, it could be part of a generalized anxiety disorder. A trip to the doctor to ask about anti-anxiety medications is in order.
WHERE IT COMES FROM: "Psychologists believe that worry, defined as a person's negative thoughts about a future event, evolved as a constructive problem-solving
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Work + Money – Thu, Sep 9, 2010 5:28 PM EDT
Frankly, you probably feel lucky if you even get a date night. And tried-and-true though it may be, sometimes dinner and a movie needs an update. Your date together doesn't have to be wild, extreme, or totally wacko to be unusually delightful. Getting outside of the dating box is all about having a new experience with your partner--any new experience, whether it's dorky, silly, or sexy. Those new experiences can help simulate those first-time-we-laid-eyes-on-each-other butterflies, no matter how many kisses you've stolen over the years. Here, twenty unconventional date ideas for the lazy, foodie, retro-loving, and high-octane among us.
- B-I-N-G-O! Hey, it's not just for old ladies. Or maybe it is. But think how young and attractive you'll feel!
- Wine tastings, classic or DIY-style. There's likely a winery or microbrewery within striking distance to you, but if there's not, many wine stores will offer afternoon tastings on the weekend. Or create your own tasting by sampling
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Wed, Sep 8, 2010 8:46 PM EDT
If you're like me, you'll grab any opportunity that comes your way for a fresh start. And you don't have to be Jewish to seize the opportunity of the new year today, wipe the slate clean, and reboot our resolutions for health and happiness. A new beginning for everybody who needs one!Read More »from How can you resolve to make your September healthier?
I have a friend who does this each month. Every thirty days, she takes stock of where she is in her life. She kicks it up a notch on the yoga mat, signs up for a running class, or resolves to run her first race. She's always challenging herself, and it's a quality I really admire. Because she keeps striving, she never ends up in that oh-please-not-another-minute-on-the-elliptical rut.
There's no reason not to do this every month--or even every week--and we've already asked what other areas of your life are getting a fresh start. But September, with the wind of Rosh Hashanah and a new season at our backs, gives our goals for health even more invigoration. With the last hurrah of summer celebrations,
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Work + Money – Wed, Sep 8, 2010 4:58 PM EDT
September stirs up something. Call it a longing for the way things were or an unwillingness to let go of the summer and all its carefree fun, but fall dramatically ushers in change (back to school, back to the grind), and brings to a head our ability or, well, inability to deal. You don't have to be a Buddhist monk to know that change is one thing we can rely on. So how can we cope with whatever comes our way? Here, five ways to deal with life's curve balls.Read More »from 5 ways to cope with the change that comes your way
Realize your power....and your limits.
We walk around trying to exert our power over the world, and sometimes we do a really good job of convincing ourselves that we have any control over anything at all. We write lists, keep calendars, implement systems of organization. But the truth is, life is one big steaming pot of chaos and unpredictability. The only thing we have control over is ourselves. You can't control when the television repair man will finally make it to your house. You can't control whether your dream guy will call
New studies reveal that money can, in fact, buy happiness. But only up to a point. The Center of Health and Wellbeing at Princeton University reviewed a survey taken by 450,000 Americans for the Gallup-Healthways Well-Being Index, and found that people's overall emotional wellbeing increases along with their income up to about $75,000. So why does this study annoy us so much?Read More »from Wait...now money can buy happiness?
Many of us hold dear the idea that the best things in life are free. You can't buy a cupcake delivery from your sister when you're heartbroken or a sunset so pretty in stirs up a deep quiet in you. Some things are priceless and accessible to all of us no matter how little money we have: love, family, friendship, and a belief in something bigger than ourselves.
This study flies in the face of that feeling. But it also brings something home anyone who has struggled to rub two nickels together knows to be true: it is really hard to be happy when you can't stop worrying about money.
This study suggests that when