Here's one of my favorite stories: when one of my friends was a little girl, her mom took her out for one of those special mother-daughter days. My friend looked around the room of the restaurant they were seated in and said, "Mom, that woman is acting beautiful, even though she isn't." If there was ever any doubt about it, our behavior really does influence the way others see us. A child might notice a discrepancy between confidence and physical beauty (they say the darndest things!), but an adult would likely take the behavior as fact. Because she herself was convinced of it, the woman in the restaurant was a knock out. Here are three ways to get such enviable confidence flowing yourself.
Set yourself an achievable goal.
Confidence comes from competence (at least that's one of the places it comes from). Set yourself up for success with an achievable goal, like running a 5K or organizing your digital photos. Or give yourself several smaller goals, like cleaning out a junk drawer,
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Here's one of my favorite stories: when one of my friends was a little girl, her mom took her out for one of those special mother-daughter days. My friend looked around the room of the restaurant they were seated in and said, "Mom, that woman is acting beautiful, even though she isn't." If there was ever any doubt about it, our behavior really does influence the way others see us. A child might notice a discrepancy between confidence and physical beauty (they say the darndest things!), but an adult would likely take the behavior as fact. Because she herself was convinced of it, the woman in the restaurant was a knock out. Here are three ways to get such enviable confidence flowing yourself.Read More »from 3 ways to boost your confidence
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Thu, Aug 12, 2010 4:22 PM EDT
Ah, the smell of freshly sharpened pencils and the feel of a new backpack. You may not be the one going back to school (and if you are, congrats!), but when you're the family captain, you have to be even more organized than the kids shuffling off to the school bus. There are soccer practices, piano
You're probably thinking, "there's a holiday for everything," and you, my friend, would be right. But the reason Lazy Day is one that gets my vote of approval more so than Create a Vacuum Day (huh?), is evident in who we are: human beings, not human doers. If the ambitious, striving, workaholic, perfectionist part of ourselves need a holiday to embrace the joy of being lazy, who are we to argue? Let's just kick off our shoes and do nothing.Read More »from The holiday we're so glad exists: Lazy Day
I'll never forget a speaker who came to give a lecture at my college on the value of leisure. What he said made such an impression on me, I scribbled it down in my notebook. Many of us are so focused on achieving and scratching off every item on our to do list that we've overlooked a simple truth: we reveal ourselves in leisure as much as our work. Our Puritan work ethic is mixed in with the American soil; people go halfway around the world just to learn how to do nothing. But our deepest held values and personal truths are evident in the way we
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Mon, Aug 9, 2010 5:44 PM EDT
Last week wasn't a good one for weight-related news. First, there was the news that obesity had reached "major public health threat" proportions, and now new research shows that as our weight rises, our quality of life declines. The study shows that Americans are losing healthy days off their lives due to obesity, and that number has doubled from 7.5 in 1993 to 17 in 2008.Read More »from Has your quality of life improved since you lost weight?
"The gains being made on the burden on our health-care system by decreases in smoking could be eroded by the progression of obesity if we don't have lots of interventions in place," said Dr. Erica I. Lubetkin, co-author of the study published in the September issue of the American Journal of Preventive Medicine. "Getting junk food out of the schools, having more recess and gym, discouraging television and computer use" would all be a good place to start, she said.
We're about nothing if not quality of life on Real-Life Makeover, so this news cut us to the quick. What use is it thinking about how to be happier and
Eat Pray Love / Sony PicturesLet's play a really exhilarating game of pretend, shall we? Imagine you have money enough and time to take off on a life-changing adventure. Where would you go? What would you do?Read More »from What would be your version of Eat, Pray, Love?
When it comes to a Real-Life Makeover, asking questions like this can help you see what you really, truly want from life. You don't have to actually set your plan in motion. Sometimes just the very act of imagining a dream life can bring to the foreground parts of yourself you've been neglecting.
Advertisements for the film feature women sharing their own version of Elizabeth Gilbert's adventure, and to imagine your own, let's for a moment put aside any feelings you might have about this book, its author, the movie, or its star (although if you have ill will towards Javier Bardem, you can just move right along).
Here's something important to remember before we begin: taking care of yourself is never selfish. You're never going to be as great as a mom, partner, employee, or friend as you could be if your
Yesterday I was in a shop being rung up by a lovely woman about my age. She was waiting for the credit card slip to print, and we were just kind of looking at each other smilingly benignly when, without my thinking about it, my innermost subversive thoughts came tumbling out onto the counter between us: "I'm over the summer," I declared. From here, it could have gone either way. She could look at me like I just offered her a puppy for dinner. But she didn't. "I know, right?" she said. "I can't take another day of this humidity." The wilting types had bonded.Read More »from The upside to being in a rut
The truth is, I believe in making the most of what's at hand. Your usual Girl Scout-Little House on the Prairie resourcefulness. But every season has its growing pains, that moment when it feels like it's gone on just a little too long. And August, at least this August, is that time. It might be different, the shopkeeper pointed out, if she lived on the seashore and could dip her overheated limbs in the ocean everyday. But we live
Do you have champagne tastes on a beer budget? You're not the only one. But the good life doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg--it's all about spending your money on what makes you feel like a million bucks. If you want to eat well, be surrounded by beauty, and smell like a dream, then we've got some ideas on how you can start living the good life for less right this very second.Read More »from 7 ways to live the good life for less
SPLURGE AT THE GROCERY STORE
Have you noticed how your price point at the grocery store is lower than everywhere else? $4.95!, we think, that's outrageous! Even though we will spend that at the coffee shop for an afternoon pick-me-up without blinking. Give yourself more wiggle room at the market. Even the most beautiful fillet of fish or wondrously stinky wedge of cheese will set you back less than its counterpart in a restaurant. Treat yourself to beautiful berries and the finest chocolate.
You don't have to be a collector of velvet paintings and sad clown portraits to start hanging affordable art
The other day I saw a medical professional walking down the street on a gorgeous sunny day in scrubs and clogs smoking a cigarette. It's a sight that, no matter how common, never fails to stop me in my tracks with its pure weirdness. It's like seeing Santa Claus strolling with the devil.Read More »from Why haven't you quit smoking yet?
I understand why they do it: it's a stressful job and stepping out for a cigarette is probably the only way to get a quiet moment alone in a hospital. But what I don't understand is why they don't do it. That moment of peace will have them resting in peace for eternity.
But we're not here to list the well-known reasons why smoking will kill you. We're after the other side of the story. When we see doctors and nurses walking down the street puffing away, we get curious about the psychology of smokers. You know all the risks, but you do it anyway. Why?
- Sarah McColl, Shine staff | Makeover – Mon, Aug 2, 2010 5:39 AM EDT
Summer's almost in its wind down phase which means the time to eat a perfectly ripe peach or go to an outdoor movie is now or next year. If you're having trouble prioritizing a summer slow down, here are some easy-peasy ways to make sure you enjoy the best thing that summer offers: time.Read More »from How to make your free time feel utterly restorative
DO ONE THING AT A TIME
You know what the summer antidote to multitasking is? Mono-tasking. Whether you're at home or on vacation, tackle only one thing at time. Devote all your attention to packing a picnic, swinging in a hammock or collecting seashells. (The same principle applies at the office, too, but let's not talk about work right now...) When your attention's not pulled in twenty different directions, you'll be able to more fully be present in the moment and really enjoy it.
Summer has a tendency to get quickly packed with plans, but it's important to leave yourself time to indulge your whims. Make certain times sacred--Wednesday evening, say, or Saturday afternoon--when even an
Yesterday I was Tweeting away when I was confronted with yet another measure of the online popularity contest. With algorithms and internet fairy dust, Klout measures your online influence. I found myself balking at the this new way to measure online role models (and not just because of my own pathetic little rating, I promise). What happened to our real-life role models? And why aren't we developing more of them, instead of developing software to keep score?Read More »from Who is there to look up to these days?
I always think of Julia Child. Talk about a Real-Life Makeover. Here's a woman who didn't even know she liked to cook, let alone could, until she was in her late 30's. That she went on to write what is still considered the bible of French cuisine for the home cook and star in a beloved television show with her towering frame and warbly voice is a testament to what anyone can achieve with passion and study. "Find something you're passionate about," said Child, "and keep tremendously interested in it."
I love the online sphere, of