By Tina Case
I can clearly see that the role of parenting evolves as our children get older and more self-reliant. But one thing that will always be top of mind is protecting your children from harm. When they are very little and so dependent on you, the role of protecting can involve holding their hand to cross the street, buckling them up in their car seat and ensuring everything is tightly secured, and tucking them in bed at night an assuring them there is no boogie monster under the bed.
Now that I have three teenagers in the house (which is an endless source of anecdotes worth writing about later) I realize that my role to protect them has become even more involved, more engaged. When they were toddlers things we simpler in many ways; they were always in my line of sight or within earshot. Plus they had fewer complicated technical items that I had to warn them about. Now that they are older they are often away from home, hanging out with friends, biking to the corner Stop 'n Go
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- Tina Case | Parent Grapevine | Work + Money – Fri, Apr 1, 2011 8:22 PM EDT
By Tina CaseRead More »from User Post: The Never-Ending Role of Protector and Worrier
- Tina Case | Parent Grapevine | Moments Of Motherhood – Sun, Mar 6, 2011 6:52 AM EST
My Dearest Danielle,
These past 19 and a half years seem to have gone by like the blink of an eye. You've gone from a newborn baby cradled in my arms to a young woman experiencing the independence of college life. When I recall the momentous day you were born, I became the happiest mother on earth. Your father and I marveled at the angel kisses on your cheeks, your tiny, wrinkled fingers and your intense eyes. I'm not embarrassed to admit it, but I cried. Deep tears of joy. Buckets of tears. Because all my life the one thing I always knew was I wanted to be a mother. Other than that I was often rudderless, trying to navigate the ocean of life and figure out what my path in life was to be. But I never wavered in my hope to be a mother. So when you were born you gave me the experience of a lifetime. The experience that holds the deepest most treasured place in my heart.
When it comes to the people who have influenced my life the most I would declare, without a moment'sRead More »from Parenting Guru: A Letter to My Daughter - What You've Taught Me
- Tina Case | Parent Grapevine | Parenting – Sat, Feb 26, 2011 1:22 AM EST
I'm too practical for my own good. As a parent I should have realized that part of being a good parent was perpetuating the belief with my three daughters that Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny and Leprechauns were real.Read More »from Parenting Guru: Unleashing the Truth About Santa Claus (and All His Cohorts)
My husband and I played the role of deceptive parents for years. Our three daughters were fooled by the bite taken out of the Christmas cookie next to the opened fireplace grate, the special gold coin left in the place where they left their baby tooth, and the Easter eggs that were hidden in the nooks and crannies in our backyard. At least I think they were.
My oldest daughter was about ten years old when she remembers analyzing the various holiday and magical figures and asked me "Is Santa Claus real?" It was the first time she asked me something where I wasn't prepared to deceive. In my practical mind a thought flashed by figuring that if she were smart enough to ask this question she was probably on to us. We must have left clues or she wasn't really
- Tina Case | Parent Grapevine | Yahoo Motherboard – Fri, Feb 25, 2011 3:14 AM EST
by: Kristina Rust
I thought we had good rules in place for online safety in my family but I recently found out despite our efforts to monitor our kids' online consumption, it only takes a few seconds for your 10 year old twins (along with their birthday party guests) to stumble upon an Andy Samberg song parody about sex on YouTube or your 11 year old daughter to unknowingly register herself for an online dating site (as well as send out spam invitations to all of her email contacts to also join).
Yes, this past month my eyes were opened to the harsh reality of how easy it is for kids to accidentally stumble upon adult related content no matter how many rules you have regarding Internet usage or what parental control software you have in place.
What I learned from these incidents is that wrong turns will happen on the information highway no matter how hard you try to prevent it. The key is using these bumps in the road as learning opportunities for your kids andRead More »from User Post: When Your Kids Stumble Upon Adult Content on the Internet
To my little Valentine:Read More »from Parenting Guru: My Tiny Valentine
I wanted to write the story about how you are my special Valentine. After the birth of your second sister I wasn't sure if I'd ever have any more children. I had a traumatic labor with your sister "S". I was in labor for over 18 hours and by the time she was delivered I was totally exhausted. Daddy left me in the delivery room after about two hours to check on your oldest sister old who was being watched at home by Grandma. Daddy expected by the time he returned that I'd be in my maternity room.
He was shocked to find out that I was still in the delivery room six hours later because my bleeding had not stopped. In total, I was bleeding for nine hours, my uterus just would not contract as it should have after the delivery. I was completely wasted and they told him either I'd need a transfusion or they would have to perform a hysterectomy. Daddy hesitated. What would happen if the blood transfusion had issues? Or the decision to have a hysterectomy would mean no
by Kristina Rust
In middle school and high school, I was the kid who was involved in everything. I was on the softball team, a cheerleader, a student council member and part of the German and Accounting clubs. I was very social and loved being involved in my school. So when my son started middle school, I assumed that he would be the same way. I was wrong.
It is not that my son is an introvert, he has friends and enjoys school but he'd rather come home after school and play video games than try out for the basketball team. He'd rather watch movies with his siblings on a Friday night than attend a school dance and running for the leadership team is something that would never cross his mind. He is a less is more kind of kid.
I know that I should be elated that he still wants to be with his family and that the day will come where he won't want to hang out with his brothers and sisters, but I can't help but wish that he were a tad more social and outgoing.
At times IRead More »from Wishing for a Social Butterfly
Chinese Immigrant MotherBy Tina Case of Parent GrapevineTina first published this article as Are Western Mothers Inferior? on Technorati.
There is no doubt we live in a global society competing with world powers such as India and China. At question is whether our Western way of educating is creating an ineffective and inferior generation of children who will be unable to compete. If our current education system prevails will our society fall further into the recesses of our academic bowels? Recent documentaries underscore our ineffective education system and the academic pressure we place on our children in "Race to Nowhere" and "Waiting for Superman."
Yet study after study (reference the Education Trust) confirms that American students are not prepared to compete internationally in this digital world we live in. So this begs the question, are Chinese mothers superior in terms of how they parent and how they educate their children? After all, how many of us know of a stereotypical Chinese studentRead More »from Parenting Guru: Are Western Mothers Inferior?
- Tina Case | Parent Grapevine | Moments Of Motherhood – Sat, Jan 8, 2011 5:38 AM EST
As a full-fledged "Baby Boomer", I grew up during a time where women were just liberating themselves, bra-less and all, and were overcoming relationship, educational, political and workplace boundaries. I believe my parents expected me to marry in my twenties, work in a low-key job, become a housewife and have children. My own aspirations were non-existent.
My husband would say I was "rudderless", there was no direction in my life. At the encouragement of my ex-husband I obtained a B.S. in computer science. That path lead to a 24-year stint at a high tech company and is where I met the true love of my life (that's another story) and resulted in three beautiful daughters.
With that quick background in mind and the frame of reference that stems from the "Women's Liberation Movement", I knew raising three daughters who would have a strong sense of self would be critical (if not for me, definitely for them).
My daughters are now ages 19, 16, and 13. I am starting to see the fruits ofRead More »from Parenting Guru: Tips for raising happy and responsible children
- Tina Case | Parent Grapevine | Moments Of Motherhood – Tue, Dec 14, 2010 11:47 PM EST
By Tina Case of Parent Grapevine
A few weeks ago my daughter asked if she could interview me for a school report. The requirement was for each student to inteview any mother they knew to gain insight about them as a person. They were to develop their information in a slideshow presentation. Other than that they had free reign with what they presented to the class.
Based on the questions she asked I thought she was going to present the information as a biography. I was delighted when she came back from school the day she presented and showed me the attached presentation. Imagine my surprise when I read what she wrote. It was a simple and honest assessment of me, her mother, and what I hope she takes with her when she becomes a mother herself.
Herewith are the top seven tips and tricks she gleaned from our interivew, her full slideshow is below:
How to be a good Mother:
- Step 1: Know that you want to have kids
- Step 2: Know what you are in for
- Step 3: Be prepared for
- Tina Case | Parent Grapevine | Moments Of Motherhood – Tue, Nov 30, 2010 10:47 PM EST
[Editor's note: This month, Shine Parenting Gurus are sharing their tips on how they get through the holiday season without losing their wits and patience. Have a tip to add? Join in!]
Black Friday signals the start of the holiday shopping and preparation frenzy. If you are smart (aleck) and frugal (cheap) you might have completed your shopping on December 26, 2009 during the "After Christmas Sales" last year. In theory, you could be chillin', throwing back a brewski, and laughing at everyone else as they scramble to find that perfect gift and get ready for the holiday season. But really, how many people are out there like that?
In my household, we have reserved the pushin'-and-shovin' shopping for our youngest child who still finds it more enjoyable to tear open the wrapping paper that's more expensive than the gift rather than receive that one classic item that last for years (like a cashmere sweater or electronic iGadget). So we endure the mallsRead More »from Parenting Guru: How to Stay Sane During the Holiday Frenzy