Even though she said her life was pretty good, Carol,* 48, came to see me because she couldn't stop worrying about what would happen if her husband lost his job or if her son's struggles in school would mean that he'd never get into college. "A lot of the time, I have this feeling that something terrible is about to happen, and really, I don't even know what it is," she told me. I call this a case of the "what-ifs." "What if I'm late to work and I miss my meeting?" Or worse: "What if this stomachache is actually an ulcer?" "What if my child is late coming home from school because she's been kidnapped?" The truth is, everyone worries. And some worrying actually helps you cope and function. Being stressed out about a big meeting, for example, can help motivate you to prepare for it. But too much worrying creates tension and anxiety, which zaps concentration, making you unable to cope.
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