By Gail Sheehy
Real Life: Going from Wife to Caregiver
In my books and speeches, I always tell women to look forward to the passage into midlife. Having checked off most "shoulds," women generally feel a new sense of mastery in their late 40s and 50s. You've done your best to please your parents, your boss and your mate, and to raise your kids. Now it's time for you.
Then you get The Call. Mine came in a beauty salon. I was getting ready for a concert that night with my husband, Clay Felker, a magazine editor and publisher, and founder of New York magazine.
"It's not benign."
"Not benign?" I repeated dumbly.
"The cyst on Mr. Felker's neck, it's not benign."
The caller was my husband's surgeon. I hadn't heard from him in two years.
"But two years ago when you did the biopsy, you told us-"
"The pathologist recut the old biopsy slides. It's cancer."
The cyst on Clay's neck had returned, which prompted the pathologist to take a sample from a different area of the original biopsy. And it wasRead More »from Real Life: Going from Wife to Caregiver