By Denise Schipani
The biggest misconception about couple's therapy? That it's a matter of he said/she said. It's not. "In individual therapy, you dissect your own baggage. But with couples therapy, you both have brought your baggage into the room," and it all has to be unraveled and sorted out, says Scott Wetzler, PhD, director of the Supporting Healthy Marriage program at Montefiore Hospital in the Bronx, New York. Want to know more? Read on to find out 10 things you may not know about couple's therapy.
1. Your marriage doesn't have to be on the rocks. Too many couples opt for therapy "when they're either on the verge of divorce or have already made the decision and need a way to formalize it," says Dr. Wetzler. Instead: Don't be afraid to think about marriage therapy the way you would about exercise: as something that's good for your ongoing health.
2. It's not all about "communication." When the two of you sit down on the couch, the therapist is not necessarily going to