By Beth Levine
You're so tired and distracted from your busy life that your sex life often amounts to a half-hearted kiss squeezed into the five minutes after the 11 o'clock news before you both fall asleep. Sound familiar? What happened to that hot, loving couple you used to be? Answer: The only difference between you then and now is that you let your intimate time slip down on the priorities list. "Couples who maintain a sexual spark are ones who have assigned value to it," says Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity.
I can hear you protest, "But I want to get back to the impromptu hot sex we had when we first got together. I don't want to have to schedule it." Perel calls this the "myth of spontaneity" because even back then, you were really anticipating it. Remember all that thought that went into the right restaurant, the right outfit, the right thing to say, the right music! Or maybe you were frank with each other: "I can't wait for Friday night to get you alone."Read More »from How To Make Your Sex Life a Priority