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Discover how discord in your relationship can actually bring you closerBy Jenna Birch

While "tension" sounds negative, it's really a sign your relationship is changing-possibly for the better. Even when all is status quo, infusing certain kinds of tension into your marriage can shake things up in a good way. Here, experts share how to use different types of tumult to get closer with your husband. Photo by Getty Images

1. Sexual Tension
When you're longing for your hubby, and vice versa, that natural, physical tension signals a need to be met. "We tend to think of sexuality as romantic, but sexual release is a human necessity," says clinical psychologist Andra Brosh, PhD. So occasionally, be a tease; holding out can turn up the heat between the sheets. "This could position you in a healthy place of power over him." Just don't withhold sex to get your way or because you're upset with him. Driving him crazy is only fun when it's playful, not punishment.

Related: Discover 8 secrets of sexually satisfied couples.

2. Conflict Tension
If you finally argue

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Get a flawless glow with this advice on using self-tannersBy Woman's Day Staff

A Better Bronze
The darker your skin tone, the less you'll notice lumps and bumps. Try this step-by-step guide to fake an even glow. Photo by Thinkstock.

1. Exfoliate.
Use a scrub to slough off dead skin cells so tanner won't adhere to dry patches.

2. Moisturize.
Put on your body lotion and let dry. To skip this step, opt for a moisturizer that gradually tans skin, like Jergens Natural Glow Foaming Daily Moisturizer. $8.99; Amazon.com

Related: Check out 75 timeless beauty tips.


3. Swipe on.
Apply the tanner as you would a moisturizer.

4. Skip knees and ankles.
Products travel up to an inch due to your skin's natural oils, so avoid these areas, which absorb and darken quickly.

Related: Discover 6 all-natural beauty fixes.

5. Wash hands.

A bronzed palm will give you away!

SOURCES: Sheri Feldman, MD, Beverly Hills dermatologist. Kate McCarthy, glominerals national makeup artist. Ariel Ostad, MD, New York City dermatologist. Joshua Zeichner, MD, New York

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Get back in the sack with these solutions for reigniting your man's libidoBy Dawn Papandrea

Has your husband been saying "not tonight, dear" a little too often? It's hard not to feel rejected, but it doesn't necessarily mean he's lost that lovin' feelin' for you. Learn about the most common reasons he may not be in the mood and what you can do about it.
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1. He wants to relax after a long day.
If he's retreating to his man cave each night, that could create a pattern of disconnection, says Debra Castaldo, PhD, a relationship expert and director of the Center for Couples and Family Solutions in Midland Park, NJ. He may not realize you're missing him, though, so tell him. Try: "It seems like we're spending most of our evening time apart. I know you want to chill out, but I miss being with you. Maybe we can do something relaxing together," suggests Dr. Castaldo. Find something soothing you both enjoy, whether it's drinking wine, reading side by side in bed or finding a new favorite TV show. Once there's togetherness,

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Learn which popular nutrition claims aren't as healthy as they soundBy Jessica Girdwain

What Does It Really Mean?
Pick up an innocent box of granola bars or a bottle of iced tea and you're hit with health claims-from less fat to made with real sugar. In fact, a USDA study showed that 43% of products introduced in 2010 splashed nutrition ads on their packaging. But despite their promises, you could be eating more fat, calories, salt and sugar than you think. Get the facts on the most deceptive claims so they never mislead you again. Photo by Getty Images.

1. "Cholesterol Free"

What you think it means: Heart-healthy!

What it really means: Cholesterol's only in animal products, but the cholesterol-free stamp is frequently used on plant-based foods that would never contain it. Plus, plenty of junk food is naturally cholesterol-free (think Red Vines and Fritos), which doesn't make it heart-healthy. "Besides, research shows that dietary cholesterol doesn't affect blood cholesterol levels the way we thought it did decades ago," says Darya Pino Rose,

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red cross psychologist in queensBy Tula Karras

On a blistering morning last June, Danelle Stoppel, a mental-health volunteer with the American Red Cross, spotted a man standing in front of a smoldering structure in Waldo Canyon, CO. It was his home, one of hundreds lost to the wildfires that scorched 18,000 acres. He was holding a burned gas cap in his hand. Something about the way he looked at it, turning it over and over, drew Danelle to him. "I asked him about it," she says. "He told me the cap was the only thing left from an old Datsun he and his 10-year-old son were rehabbing together. He was planning on giving the car to his son when he was old enough to drive," says Danelle.

Talking it Through
Danelle offered him what she says all disaster victims need: a chance to tell his story. "It's the first step in healing," she says. "They need you to hear it. It makes it real for them. And they need you to bear witness to all that they've lost," she says. The man explained that the fire had hit on his son's

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Learn which tips to dismiss so you can really live longerBy Anne Roderique-Jones

Extend Your Life
"Stop drinking coffee and alcohol." "Take an aspirin daily." How many times have you heard that advice for adding years to your life? Turns out, lots of long-held wisdom just isn't true. Read on to see which suggestions you should ignore and what actually ups longevity. Photo by Getty Images.

1. Lay off the java.
You've probably read that multiple cups of coffee a day can be bad for you (jitter city), but research published in the New England Journal of Medicine may prove the opposite. Male and female participants who had two or three cups a day and didn't smoke were 10% and 13% less likely, respectively, to have died during the 14-year-long study than those who never or rarely drank coffee. Men and women who drank a single daily cup were 6% and 5% less likely, respectively, to pass away. According to the researchers, more cups mean a lower risk of stroke, diabetes and heart and respiratory disease. But watch the cream and

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Learn which questions and statements annoy unattached women mostBy Arricca Elin SanSone

The next time you're tempted to advise single friends, bite your tongue. "You may believe you're empathizing, but intrusive comments may offend your friend," says Helen Friedman, PhD, a clinical psychologist in St. Louis who specializes in relationships. "Before you open your mouth, ask yourself what's more important: your opinion or your friendship?" Here's what to avoid saying to your single friends, what you can sometimes say or do instead and when to simply zip your lips. Photo by Getty Images

1. "Why aren't you married?"
This question almost universally pushes single people's buttons. "Perhaps the answer is 'none of your business,'" says *Grace from Detroit. In fact, it's rude to assume singles are looking for a relationship. "This question presumes that the single person is unhappily single," says Bella DePaulo, PhD, author of Singled Out and Singlism who blogs about singles. "Many unattached people live their best, most authentic

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Keep your canine looking and smelling kissable with this dog-grooming guideBy Woman's Day Staff

Dirty paws? Stinky coat? Gear up your grooming supplies and turn on the faucet-it's time for a good canine cleaning. Here, six steps to a stress-free suds session. Photo by Getty Images

Related: Learn about 15 clever uses for household items.

1. Lightly brush out your dog's coat before a bath.

This loosens debris and removes surface tangles, allowing bathtime suds to be more effective.

2. Place a mat or towel in the tub.
An uneasy dog is more likely to bolt during a bath, and this will help give her sure footing.

3. Choose the right shampoo.
If she smells bad, try one with rosemary, peppermint, lavender or lemongrass-all natural deodorizers that fight odor-causing bacteria. If she is itchy, look for one made with colloidal oatmeal, and without sulfates (which can be harsh on skin).

Related: Discover 6 all-natural beauty fixes.

4. Use a mitt.
Slip on a textured mitt, like the Rinse Ace Shampoo Mitt ($8.50; Amazon.com), while shampooing to help gather Read More »from 6 Simple Steps to Washing Your Dog