Kateryna Govorushchenko/iStock ImagesHE SAID: Absolutely and unequivocally, yes. I will never forget my first serious first kiss. I was fourteen, had a huge crush on a girl I went to school with, and when I kissed her for the first time I nearly passed out. To this day, I remember the hair on the back of my neck standing up, my heart beating out of my chest, my knuckles going white as I held her arms and pulled her closer to me.
Now, this wasn't my first kiss. It was, however, the first kiss where I saw fireworks. And honestly, the things I felt then are the bar that I measure first kisses against to this day. Here's the thing: after a first kiss, I should want to kiss you more to the point where I have to fight myself to pull away from you. A good first kiss validates the attraction between two people and confirms that sexual chemistry exists. After a good first kiss, I should know whether I want to sleep with you.
Not every first kiss, though, is a great kiss. They can be awkward, especially if the moment is not right
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Kateryna Govorushchenko/iStock ImagesHE SAID: Absolutely and unequivocally, yes. I will never forget my first serious first kiss. I was fourteen, had a huge crush on a girl I went to school with, and when I kissed her for the first time I nearly passed out. To this day, I remember the hair on the back of my neck standing up, my heart beating out of my chest, my knuckles going white as I held her arms and pulled her closer to me.Read More »from Is A Bad First Kiss a Relationship Killer?
Justin HorrocksHe Said...Read More »from He Said/She Said: Should You Google Stalk?
Dating and meeting a person for the first time is a vulnerable thing, and no one likes being rejected or spending time with someone with no possibility of a future. So if working Google for a few minutes can help you find out if he's got a stable career, whether he's married or single, what his ex-girlfriends look like, or if he's wanted by the police then do it. It can help put some of your fears to rest, or confirm a hunch you had. Call me a cynic, but people don't always tell the truth-and his friends will cover for him too. But while his best friend may keep his secrets, Google will never tell you "You can't see those search results because John's a good friend of mine and there's no way you should know that he subscribes to the following gay porn sites."
Let's suppose that instead of a man, you're looking for something else. A car. A vacation destination. Would you make that purchase after talking to someone about it for just a few minutes? Or would you jump online
- Marie Claire | Your Best Summer Body – Fri, Apr 24, 2009 4:18 PM EDT
Getty Images1. Myth: To get rock-hard, you have to work your abs every day.Read More »from Exercise Myths: 6 Ab Mistakes That Are Holding You Back
Why: Abs need rest and recovery: It's only during rest that your muscles build. "Three to five days a week of consistent, dedicated abdominal training should get you strong, sleek abs," says Kathy Kaehler, trainer and author of Kathy Kaehler's Celebrity Workouts.
2. Myth: A good ab workout takes half an hour.
Why: "If it takes you that long to feel them working, you're doing something wrong," says Kaehler. "I trained Jennifer Aniston about three days a week, and we did no more than five minutes of abs each time." Check your form, don't use momentum and focus on quality rather than quantity.
3. Myth: Super-slow crunches make you stronger.
Why: Taking as much as a minute per crunch doesn't make you stronger than regular crunches do. In fact, ultra-slow ab work is less effective. Ideally, your workout should help you do everything better, from kickboxing to picking up a suitcase - neither of which you do in slo-mo.
I hope you guys have been digging this week's flirting tips from Neil Strauss Here's the final and perhaps the best - piece of flirting advice.
- Pick a conversation starter: something fun that you want to discuss that will help you engage a little more with a guy. Maybe it's some article from a women's magazine that offers some kind of advice and you want to know if he agrees with it or not. Or maybe your friend just got a three-legged cat and you need a name for it.
- Immediately mention that you have some kind of time constraint, whether or not you do. Within the first sixty seconds of talking to someone, say "I can only stay for a second, because I'm late to hang out with friends or whatever.
- Let him make the first step towards escalating things. Although if he's just totally clueless - or maybe scared of rejection - say something specific to what you've just been talking about. Like "Yeah, we should go to that new sushi place sometime"
- Keep a balance
Chris MilitscherEarlier, I posted Part 1 of my interview with flirtation expert Neil Strauss. Today, we talk about what to wear and how to use your body language to say some flirtatious things you'd never be able to verbalize.Read More »from How to Flirt Like a Pro
ME: What should be next on my "Learn How to Flirt" agenda?
HIM: Try playing around with your appearance. When a human being sees you, he instantly makes some kind of judgement about whether he thinks you're uptight, or hot; the kind of person he'd like to marry, the kind of person he'd like to be friends with--that kind of thing. Do you know what people think when they see you?
ME: I haven't really given it much thought.
HIM: You might want to send a friend out with some photos of you, and have her say, "Would you go out with Maura?" Have them give her some back feedback, find out what they'd think.
ME: That sounds terrifying!
HIM: Yeah, I'd be scared too. But you'll get some honest feedback about what message you're sending, and how people react to you. Whether or not you
Chris MilitscherI spoke with Neil Strauss, author of the 2005 international best-seller The Game. The book, about his years spent training with professional pick-up artists, quickly became a cultural phenomenon - and single guys around the world who are endeavoring to turn themselves into the most suave of ladies' men swear by it.Read More »from How to Make Quality Small Talk
I first got interested in Neil way back in December, I was at a holiday party, gushing to a small group of people about how I excited I was to start working on my new blog "A Year of Living Flirtatiously" when a someone said: "You have to talk to Neil Strauss! If anyone can help you become a better flirt, it's he!"
But The Game was written to help men. Would Neil have any pointers that would work for women?
My chat with Neil started off with him asking me a question.
HIM: On your your first day, all you want to do is go out and make small talk with five strangers. Don't worry about whether they're people you want to date. Approach grandfathers, other women, someone who's
Though I'm in my 30s,I've never been in love before - and have started to wonder if I ever will be. I've decided to make dating my job if it's ever going to happen. So, welcome to my Year of Living Flirtatiously...
I went to the gym, to Whole Foods, and then hopped on the subway to head home, thinking Must flirt, must flirt, must flirt!
And sitting across from me was an attractive enough guy, who looked like he was of South-East Asian descent, reading a novel I've heard a lot of good things about: Roberto Bolano's 2666. A perfect opening, I told myself. Just ask him how it is. But he was too far away ... and he seemed so engrossed in his book ... and station after station passed ... and I couldn't open my mouth ...
At Times Square, a mob of Midwesterners streamed onto our subway car, and I took advantage of the diversion to slip across the aisle, and plant myself diagonal to Bolano. He didn't notice me ... but I noticed the ring on his finger. Married. The stakes were gone.Read More »from 5 Ways to Flirt During Your Morning Commute
Reach for these items next time you're feeling under pressure, under the weather, or just too close to that breaking point. Munching on these stress-free foods will help pull you back into the game.Read More »from 4 Foods That Reduce Stress
Sweet potatoes can be particularly stress-reducing because they can satisfy the urge you get for carbohydrates and sweets when you are under a great deal of stress. They are packed full of beta-carotene and other vitamins, and the fiber helps your body to process the carbohydrates in a slow and steady manner.
Apricots are rich in magnesium, which is a stress-buster and a natural muscle relaxant as well.
Diets high in omega-3 fatty acids protect against heart disease. A study from Diabetes & Metabolism found that omega-3s keep the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline from peaking.
The monounsaturated fats and potassium in avocados help lower blood pressure. The National Heart, Lung, and Blood Institute says that one of the best ways to
Last year some 8.5 million Americans brought their lunch to work, a figure that's likely to grow as more of us look for ways to cut costs. But are a few bucks saved really worth all that effort - especially when a new season of Dancing with the Stars beckons? We priced a hearty, healthy DIY sandwich versus our favorite 6-inch-with-chips-and-soda deal from Subway. Here's how the lunch-meat face-off went down.
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INGREDIENT INITIAL COST COST PER SANDWICH Arnold by Brownberry Dutch Country bread, 100% Whole Wheat
$3.89/18 slices $0.43 for two slices Hellmann's Light Mayonnaise $5.39/30-oz. jar $0.08 (serving size: 1 tbsp.; 64 servings/jar) Land O' Lakes Sliced Swiss Cheese $5.29/8 slices $1.32 for two slices Sara Lee Fresh Ideas Turkey Breast,
Courtesy of NarsIf you're like me, your makeup drawer contains a whole slew of junk, most of which you don't use - brushes someone convinced you were essential or lip glosses from seasons past - as well as items you do use, but know you shouldn't. Like that three-year-old mascara (because there's still a little bit left) or the gunky cream bronzer you just can't seem to toss. I solicited the help of model-turned-makeup artist Joanna Hathcock, who advises, "If you haven't used it in a year, get rid of it." She also says certain things - notably mascara and anything else with a wand - should be thrown out after three to six months, makeup brushes should get the heave-ho when the hairs start to fall out, and everything else should get the smell test (you'll know). Loose powders are really the only thing with real longevity - and even these should be replaced every two years.Read More »from Spring Cleaning for Your Makeup Bag
Having thrown out a good portion of my makeup, I chatted with the Dallas-based artist about the bare essentials for day and