You love your child. You have striven to meet his needs, make sure he knows he is loved, and provide him a nurturing home environment. When he has identified a need or want, you have done your level best to provide for him. Your loving intentions, however, have unintentionally created a child who seems a bit spoiled. On the occasion that he has not gotten what he wants, a protracted display of anger has ensued. So, you are now deciding that it is time to "unspoil" your child. How do you do this?
- Expect this to be a long and difficult experience. Brace for it.
- Meet with your child and discuss the situation. Tell him that you have sought to meet his needs and wants because you thought it was the best way to communicate your love for him, but that you now see that it has caused him to form unrealistic expectations about life and relationships. Let him know that people cannot always have everything that they want because timelines, budgets, and other people must also be