As Father's Day quickly approaches, we are often asked: How can I effectively parent (or co-parent) after divorce? Is it really possible?
A: Post-divorce, parents should endeavor to work cooperatively, supporting the ex-spouse in the role as parent. Frequent contact focusing on the children (e.g., progress in school, medical condition, behavioral problems, and upcoming events) is necessary for optimal coordination between the parents. The single biggest predictor of the child's post-divorce adjustment is the level of cooperation between the parents. Of course, if you and your spouse cooperated well, you might not have gotten a divorce in the first place. While cooperating with your ex-spouse is an ideal, it is difficult to bring off in reality.
It is probably self-evident, but we will remind you that frequent visitation and contact with your children is essential to maintain your bond with them. Children who have regular contact with both parents are much less likely toRead More »from Q & A for Divorced Men: How Can I Effectively Parent After the Divorce?