"It's not you, it's me..." you're right-it is you. Sometimes these are the truest words though most people who say them don't even mean it.
We spend too much time blaming ourselves instead of taking that statement at face value. We know those who say it are really saying, "You're not what I want. I don't like you, you did this or that and that really bothered me, etc." And we forget, that in reality, they do not want or desire or love or need the person we are. It doesn't have to be because something is inherently wrong with us. It truly means we are not what that person had in mind. It is them and their perception of us.
Most people believe it takes two to make or break a relationship. That isn't true either-not if we go into a relationship with the intelligent thought of no one-neither you nor me, is perfect. It takes two to build up a life together, but it really only takes one to knock it right down. It takes you or it takes me and sometimes it takes both of us.Read More »from The Blame Game