By Meghan Casserly
Identifying the frenemy
The biggest danger is that you never know where a frenemy is lurking. One mid-level employee at a New York City-based marketing firm turned to her close friend at a company-wide meeting to criticize the boss's address. "He's an idiot," she confided, "Everybody knows it." Two days later she was greeted by boxes on her desk when she arrived at work and was told she was leaving the company. Her friend, it was revealed, was a direct line of communication to the boss, and used the criticism as a power play. "I was canned," she says, but she points a finger at today's cutthroat job market.
Ellen Lubin-Sherman, author of The Essentials of Fabulous (Because Whatever Doesn't Work Here Anymore), agrees. "When you've got an atmosphere that's rife with competition and you're dealing with people who are trying to make themselves look good, it's unfortunate."
"You really can't trust people. Monica Lewinsky famously learned the hard way. Even if someone seems
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Meet John: An Innovative, Motivated Problem Solver with Extensive Experience, John is a Dynamic, Results-Oriented Team Player with a Proven Track Record in Fast-Paced Entrepreneurial positions.Resume Cliches To Ditch
Sound like a promising job candidate? Or a walking cliché?
We're all guilty of business jargon: "I'll touch base later!" "Let's regroup!" "I'll put pen to paper on that one." "Circle the wagons!" Yet what's simply annoying in the workplace can be just plain hazardous on the job hunt.
According to Kathy Harris, managing director at Harris Allied , an executive recruiting firm based in New York, there are certain words and phrases that are so over-used they become red-flags in the interview process.
While Harris says most resumes are now read by computers scanning for keywords, she would be the first to set aside John's resume in favor of a much-clearer and less jargon-ridden CV. (Click here for tips to makeRead More »from 10 Cliches To Ditch On The Job Hunt
By Jenna GoudreauRead More »from The Best-Paying Work-At-Home Jobs
Across age groups and job categories, demand is growing for good-paying work that can be done right from home. Nervous about falling 401ks, boomers hope to continue earning income without the hours or stress of office life. Gen Xers, often caring for elderly parents or young children, are thirsty for flexibility. And younger cohorts are attracted to "free agency" more than ever.
"There's less willingness today to be a cube-dweller or lifetime commuter," says Michael Haaren, co-director of RatRaceRebellion.com and co-author of Work at Home Now. "Being able to work from home makes life easier and appeals to the latent entrepreneur."
In Pictures: The Best Paying Work-At-Home Jobs
While there may be a trade-off to working at home-a salary haircut and less advancement potential-a surprising amount and variation of well-paying professional jobs have a two-second commute. In the health, tech and creative industries, good at-home jobs are springing up everywhere.
Wouldn't it be nice if everyone came with a warning label, kind of like mattresses or cigarette cartons do? When you think about it, people can be just as dangerous as flammable, addictive, or otherwise warning-worthy products.It would be great if men came with varying warning labels. Of course, women should come with them too. But I don't know much about women, frankly. I do not claim to have run into all of these guys-who-need-warning labels. I've mostly heard about them (over and over).
So here are the warning labels I'd love to see on men:
Warning: "I'm Going To Take Up All Your Fertile Years."
Let's face it, guys read. They aren't complete idiots. They know that women have a certain fertility window in terms of age, and month. So if a guy isn't saying, "Honey, shouldn't we have sex this week?" or "Honey, you're getting up there. Shouldn't we think about a kid before we need the three rounds of IVF?" then he doesn't want a kid.
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- ForbesWoman | Healthy Living – Mon, Oct 3, 2011 7:34 PM EDT
With Listeria suddenly all over today's headlines thanks to the deaths of 21 people sickened by eating contaminated cantaloupes, you're probably asking yourself why you've heard so little about this deadly food-borne bacteria, and how to protect yourself from it.
Sadly, though, Listeria is just one of many types of bacteria that have been sneaking their way into the food supply in recent years, triggering fears of an epidemic of food poisoning.
Here, the 5 deadliest types of food-borne bacteria and how to keep yourself and your family members safe.
Let's start with the one in today's news. While listeriosis, the disease caused by the bacteria Listeria, is less common than some other kinds of food-borne illness and the numbers of people affected are much smaller overall, it's by far the most deadly. Unlike most food-borne pathogens, Listeria monocytogenes doesn't usually cause typical symptoms of gastroenteritis such as stomach cramps,Read More »from The 5 Deadliest Food-Borne Illnesses - and How to Prevent Them
Like just about every media company in the last few years, Forbes has had plenty of staff turnover lately. As the company has let go of some of the old guard, it has been interesting to watch how each person leaving has handled his or her exit.
One staffer sent around a group e-mail that was especially striking in its tone of grace and confidence. In it he wrote of his deep gratitude to the Forbes family, and offered heartfelt praise for the whole staff.
Wow, I thought. I might have just fired off a terse one-liner with my forwarding e-mail address, or not sent a note at all. His high-road farewell, whatever the cause of his leaving, made me wonder, what's the best way to handle a layoff, particularly in the first hours and days after you get the bad news?
For advice I turned to Kate Wendleton, founder and president of the Five O'Clock Club, a 33-year-old national career coaching organization based in New York. The first challenge following a layoff,Read More »from What To Do As Soon As You Get Laid Off
- ForbesWoman | Healthy Living – Wed, Sep 21, 2011 10:48 PM EDT
Most people do what they have to do to get through the day. Though this may sound dire, let's face it, it's the human condition. Given the number of people who are depressed or anxious, it's not surprising that big pharma is doing as well as it is. But for millennia before we turned to government-approved drugs, humans devised clever ways of coping: Taking a walk, eating psychedelic mushrooms, breathing deeply, snorting things, praying, running, smoking, and meditating are just some of the inventive ways humans have found to deal with the unhappy rovings of their minds.
But which methods actually work?
Most people would agree that a lot of our unhappiness comes from the mind's annoying chatter, which includes obsessions, worries, drifts from this stress to that stress, and our compulsive and exhausting need to anticipate the future. Not surprisingly, the goal of most adults is to get the mind to shut up, calm down, and chill out. For this reason, weRead More »from Eat, Smoke, Meditate: Why Your Brain Cares How You Cope
By Jenna Goudreau
Planning A Rich FutureWith all the anticipation and joy that comes with starting a family, having children also marks one of the most significant financial changes in parents' lives. And in today's world, added financial challenges-an uncertain economy, high unemployment, less job stability and more onus on the individual to save for retirement and cover healthcare costs-make careful planning essential.
"There are additional stressors that add a level of complexity to beginning a family," says Linda Descano, the chief executive and president of Citi's Women & Co. "You have to create your own safety net today."
According to a recent report by online parenting network BabyCenter, the average cost of raising a child in the U.S. is $227,000 each-and that excludes college tuition. In a survey, 61% of moms said they worried about having enough money to raise their kids, and two-thirds said that paying for school and college was their top financial concern, followed by housing and thenRead More »from Financial Checklist Before Starting A Family
You can pick your friends; you can pick your job. But you can't pick your colleagues any more than you can the next assignment to come down from upper management. It's no surprise, then, that not every colleague is a good one. A recent study cosponsored by TODAY.com and SELF.com revealed that 84% of women have a friend who is "toxic" in their lives-and many of them are found on the job.
And when workplace friendships go sour, job performance can suffer. One in four people in the survey said that ending a workplace friendship at work left them in a strained "working" relationship as well.Read More »from Toxic Colleagues: Nine Coworkers To Watch Out For
- ForbesWoman | Parenting – Thu, Sep 15, 2011 8:55 PM EDT
By Alice G. Walton
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Most people are aware of postpartum depression as a common and no-longer-shameful problem faced by mothers, and occasionally fathers, in the early post-baby months. In recent years, it's become much less taboo to discuss the mental challenges that one battles during these early days of sleeplessness, worry, and massive life change.
But what many people don't know is that in addition to postpartum depression, almost as many women suffer from other psychiatric problems, like postpartum OCD, plain old anxiety, and, more rarely, psychosis. How do these other problems differ from postpartum depression, and what should you look out for?
Feeling disconnected from those around you, withdrawing, and isolating yourself are common symptoms of depression. With the stresses of new parenthood, it is easy to feel alienated from friends, family, husband, and even the new baby. Severe sadness and hopelessness areRead More »from The Differences Between Postpartum Depression And Something Worse