Q: My husband of many years has just dropped the bomb that he's attracted to men. I'm a mess but sort of frozen in my tracks. What should I do? What should I say?
A: As hard as it is for one partner in a relationship to come out to the other as gay or bisexual, receiving this news can be awful hard, too. No doubt, your husband gave this coming out conversation a lot of thought beforehand, but I am sure the pronouncement caught you off guard - even if you had harbored some suspicions along the way.
If you're angry, my advice to you is to go ahead and let it out, within reason of course. He may insist you "Don't cry," or "Don't be angry," but bottling up your feelings now is a bad idea. On the other hand, after an initial conversation, consider taking a break from each other so that you can both mull over what's happening. You may want time alone or you may want to reach out for the support of a friend or another family member at this point.
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