by Sara Wedman for ParentsConnect
GettyFrom observation at the grocery store and various other outings, I have noticed what I like to call the "Mom Uniform." This uniform includes white tennis shoes, sweatpants, yoga pants or jeans that verge dangerously close to the "mom jean" skit on SNL, a T-shirt of some sort and a baggy jacket. Here's my idea of day-to-day fashion: red heels, dark rinse jeans, a colorful top and my treasured leopard-print trench coat.
Now, I have no problem with what other women choose to wear, nor do I judge them for it. However, I am writing to defend myself. I often get judgmental glances and snickers and occasionally someone will actually open their mouth to express their disdain with what I am wearing, "You can't possibly wear those shoes with your daughter!"
So here it goes, this is why I dress the way I do and refuse to give in and dress the way 95% of the moms in my area do. As a woman, I feel that it is very important to not allow motherhood to consume 100%
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It's not like we're talking about managing a childcare here, I told myself silently. I mean, sure, it would be nice to have some time to myself, but it's not like it's hard to watch one tiny baby for 40 hours a week. I smugly reminded myself that I would never (really, never) enroll my precious son in any sort of school program until kindergarten and would spend every waking moment as a mother providing him with educational activities that would stimulate his development and challenge his mind.
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People always seem to just assume that adolescent boys have to masturbate. They don't! I have three boys and I know that they don't masturbate. And no, they aren't lying to me.
It's no big deal if boys have a wet dream or something happens on its own, but the need for self-stimulation is just another one of those lies that parents and kids have been fed under the umbrella of "tolerance"-you know, "don't tell them no" or you might "harm their delicate psyches," etc.
It's not true. Sex is for marriage, not the shower. (Well, except for in marriage!)
Is masturbation mandatory? Let us know what you think!
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Before I became a mom, I wasn't a big fan of children. I found them loud, mostly smelly, often annoying, dirty little under-your-feet creatures. It wasn't that I could take them or leave them; I could leave them all-in a heartbeat.
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Same with me! It's just like that. Except, er ... not with siblings. It's my son and me.
I don't know when it happened, but sometime between toddlerhood and his current age of 6, we went from being mother and son to brother and sister. We argue over which games to play and where to go. We read together late at night, hours past his bedtime. We both want the last cinnamon roll, the red-not-white gumball, the bigger bowl of popcorn. We even argue in the car over who gets to
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