The Haves and the Have-nots usually refer to socioeconomic classes, but could just as easily apply to women with and without kids. In the interest of shrinking the chasm that sometimes forms between the two, we offer an open letter on behalf of childless gals to their mother-bear pals.
Acknowledge the elephant in the room when you breast-feed in front of us.
Just a simple, good-natured, "Winnebagos, right?" will do, because it's killing us to pretend we're not enthralled and distracted.
Keep track of mileage.
The distance between your place and our place is indeed a schlep, especially with a crabby toddler in tow, and we agree that it's easier for us to come to you. Just please do not take this for granted: Don't make plans with us and then say, "Great, so you can come out here on Saturday the 7th, Sunday the 15th, or any night the following week." Offer to make the trip occasionally--maybe once every four visits. We'll be so bowled over by the gesture, we probably won't even take
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- Glamour Magazine | Parenting – Thu, Oct 9, 2008 5:57 PM EDT
The Haves and the Have-nots usually refer to socioeconomic classes, but could just as easily apply to women with and without kids. In the interest of shrinking the chasm that sometimes forms between the two, we offer an open letter on behalf of childless gals to their mother-bear pals.Read More »from How not to annoy your friends who don't have kids.
Usually when someone wants to take a photo of me, I cringe--I always hate seeing pictures of myself! It's very rare that I look at one and think, "Hmm, not bad." But last night, when I had THE BEST reunion with my childhood bunk-mates from camp last night I had no choice--there was lots of reminiscing and picture-taking going on. As I was posing with my friends, I decided to use a little trick I recently learned from celebrity photographer Patrick McMullan--the "skinny pose."
The party-going shutterbug confided that anyone can look thinner and more comfortable in photos by just angling your legs and body away from the camera, making your shoulders square, and letting your feelings come through! I thought it worked--do you?
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- Glamour Magazine | Fashion – Thu, Oct 9, 2008 5:13 PM EDT
I think the year was 1999 when this regrettable beauty movement swept our nation--or at least the Northeastern region I was living in. My college friends and I would twist the top of our hair into thin quasi-cornrows, securing them with mini claw clips (also referred to as butterfly clips), often arranging them in mix-and-match color schemes.
Advanced followers of the trend, like myself, would often coordinate the colors of their mini claw clips with holidays; on the Fourth of July, I might alternate red, white and blue clips. For a St. Pats' Day pub crawl--you got it, green and white clips. We'd drive out to Wal-Mart to stock up on the claw clips, since it naturally offered an expansive selection (including mini-mini claw clips that were so small you practically needed tweezers to operate them).
The look would have been cute on kids, but we were 20 years old. Sad. No photographic evidence of this phase in my hair life exists (that's probably for the best), and this is theRead More »from Unfortunate Beauty Trend Flashback: Claw-Clip Twists
We've talked a lot about the cost of providing oneself with nutritious food choices, but never before has this been more apparent than this weekend. I was in Utah, which I regularly forget is mostly desert.Read More »from Could you live on $25 of food a week?
I had offered to make dinner one night, so off we went to a regular suburban grocery store with a list of essentials. I was planning a peasant-y autumn meal, but wanted to amp up the vitamin content of the meat and potatoes meal, so I grabbed an organic spring lettuce mix and a largish butternut squash.
The groceries for the meal cost $90, and while granted, one of the things I bought was a $5 bottle of almond extract, I also didn't need to buy things like olive oil or red wine vinegar that were needed for the salad dressing.
The shocker of the trip was that butternut squash, which ended up being $8.70! Um, hello, isn't squash in season right now? Two weeks ago at my own local farmer's market, I bought a similarly sized squash for $1.25. Of course, I live in an area of the
Kim suffers through the trials and tribulations of trying on clothes...but emerges triumphant!
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The word metabolism is thrown around a lot when it comes to weight loss--so much so that most of us don't even know what it means anymore. Simply put, metabolism is the process of converting calories from food into fuel. Your body is always burning calories--when you're eating, walking, working out or just sitting around breathing. Want to get more calorie-zapping power from all of these activities, 24/7? Our experts tell you how.
Eat Several Times a Day: Your metabolism is your body's furnace. Let it go too long without fuel and the fire will start dying down: You'll burn fewer calories all day long. Stoke it regularly with the right food, though, and it will burn happily away. British researchers learned that women who ate the same amount of food as usual but divided it into six mini meals got a small but notable metabolic boost compared to those who ate more irregularly. Why? Metabolism climbs during digestion, explains Roberta
The gourds are just coming out of the woodwork, and the time for savory, hot, delicious meals is settling in and getting ready to stick around. While it is still a pleasure to enjoy chilly winds and longer nights and knee-high boots and the desire for hot and filling foods, why not celebrate with a pie that takes advantage of this time of year? The kitchn's got an easy to throw together, and super-healthy, squash, rosemary and tofu pie (that's even easier if you buy a pre-made crust). The autumny flavors sound perfect right about now. And then how about a hot lunch? The leftovers are easily heated up for a meal that's a couple notches up from your standard pb&j.
And after dinner comes dessert: Try this super easy recipe that turns into a delicious breakfast in the morning.
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- Glamour Magazine | Parenting – Wed, Oct 8, 2008 6:25 PM EDT
Photo Credit: AFP/Prakash MathemaWhen Crabkid one day turns to me and expresses sufferings real and imagined from childhood, I'm well prepared with my responses: "at least you weren't a Chinese gymnast." Not to mention a Hindu goddess.
Yesterday Nepal anointed a 3-year-old girl, Matani Shakya, a "kumari" or living goddess. The deal is that Matani must now leave her parents and go and live in virtual isolation in a Katmandu temple until she menstruates, at which point she loses her divine status and is replaced by another living goddess.
To become a kumari is tricky. A panel of judges evaluates 2-4-year-olds,, and according to this AP article the process is as follows:
The judges read the candidates' horoscopes and check each one for physical imperfections. The living goddess must have perfect hair, eyes, teeth and skin with no scars, and should not be afraid of the dark.
As a final test, the living goddess must spend a night alone in a room among the heads of ritually slaughtered goatsRead More »from Note to little girls: Living like a goddess, not so great
As you well know, I've been struggling recently with the mental hurdles that resurfaced when I started visiting a nutritionist.Read More »from The key to loving yourself, just as you are
I'm feeling better about myself now, especially after kicking so much ass in the Lazy Waister Triathlon (and I'm very positive that I will reach my goal in this next 30 Minute Breast Cancer Awareness Challenge, which you too can join, because it starts today and it's not too late to sign up!), and when I was walking into work this morning, carrying my breakfast in one hand and a low glycemic coffee, I was feeling the muscles in my thighs being all happy and ready to run.
My ten days of traveling knocked me off my feet, as it usually does, but I've never before felt my energy return so quickly, and I can only believe that it's due to the increased stamina caused by regular exercise. So I'm focusing on that, rather than hating my gut for defying the airplane tray tables. And then I read a blog post from Shoshie that was so eerily similar to my own predicament
- Glamour Magazine | Healthy Living – Wed, Oct 8, 2008 5:58 PM EDT
OK, shameless plug time. Have you guys seen the November Glamour issue? You've got to! Remember over the summer I was traveling in "the south" for a "secret" story I was writing? Well, that story is out (and posted online) and I really want you to read it. The title: SHE SAID SHE HAD BREAST CANCER -- BUT SHE LIED. The teaser: This popular teacher told students and friends she was going to die. What no one knew: She'd feigned chemo nausea, shaved her own head and was never actually sick at all. How crazy is that? I spent the entire summer working on the piece and it was by far the most incredible/intense/interesting thing I've ever done (I actually found and spoke to the woman who was faking cancer--you wouldn't believe the lengths she went to in order to keep up her patient persona). It's a long read so maybe wait until your lunch break to check it out (or don't...you won't regret it!), but please do take a look. I would love to hear what you think. Thanks!
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