Dear Dr. Kate,
Is it common for women to pass gas during sex? There have been times when my man is downtown doing a fine job and I lose control of that particular area. Is there anything I can do about it? I'm so embarrassed when it happens...fortunately it doesn't seem to faze my guy. I still would like to know is there a way to stop it? What if the next guy won't be so accepting?
The fact that you're that relaxed during sex (especially oral sex) is fantastic! Unfortunately, when you're relaxed all over, sometimes your sphincter relaxes as well. It's not unusual at all, and my guess is that any guy you're with has had it happen before. There's not much you can do to stop it -- don't eat foods that make you gassy before or on a date night, and chew your food slowly. And if a future partner is not as understanding about how funny sex can be, he doesn't deserve you. Though, is there a chance that the sounds are from your vagina, not your rear? I hear
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One of the things I've been craving, aching, dying for, when it comes to the switch-up of the seasons and the fall rolling in, has been apples, crisp sweet and perfect. (Apparently, they've been on Weet's mind as well.) I've been walking around assuming that, with the cold snap where I am, I wasn't going to get any fresh-picked ones this year, and I had accustomed myself to the (totally brand new, since it didn't bother me so much last year. Or any year, really) disappointment, until I read Sarah's gorgeously sensual ode to the apple, fresh and sweet, and the recipe she posted for Tarte Tartin. She promises that the recipe is not hard, and that the tart is exactly the right thing for dessert, and a snack, and breakfast, and there you have it--a celebration of the season and eating for days, all wrapped up in one lovely package.Read More »from Delicious: The uses of apples
Try a savory way to use your apples with this delicious recipe: Roasted Butternut Squash with Apples.
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- Glamour Magazine | Healthy Living – Thu, Oct 23, 2008 5:41 PM EDT
On Monday, Jendro, a loyal commenter and fellow CML mom asked a really interesting question about a dilemma she is currently facing:
My problem is this...I have CML and don't appear sick (nor feel sick for that matter). My children are so young that I don't think they would understand and it might scare them to hear that I have cancer. So the big question is, Should you tell your children that you have CML (or similar, chronic-type cancer)? And if so, when?
Wow. That is not an easy question to answer. And it's one I will be facing sooner rather than later. Here are my thoughts: I am a big believer in telling anyone who wants to know pretty much everything about me (hence, this blog), but when it comes to kids, I just don't know. For those of us with chronic diseases, we could very easily omit the C word from any discussions with our children--at least until they're old enough to understand fully.Could that spot be cancer? Test yourself with this quiz.
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Growing up, I'd always get reprimanded by my mother for whipping out my lipgloss or lipstick at restaurants for an after-meal color refresher. "It's rude," she'd insist. I never really understood what was so bad about it until the other night when I sat across the restaurant in sight of a woman who reapplied her lipstick after almost every single bite of food she took. It made me anxious just watching this lady and I wasn't even eating with her. (There's a right time for everything--Is Courtney Cox a "don't" when she wears red lipstick to a casual event?)
I can't imagine how I'd feel if I were her dining companion. It just seemed so...I don't know...self-obsessed. Then I started to wonder if that's what I looked like when I applied my lipstick at the table and I cringed. So that night, I did something that will make my mom extremely proud: I excused myself to the bathroom to reapply my gloss.
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This is the game: blindfold your lover. Then, take your time and move from the top of the head down to the bottom of their feet, and do just about anything you can think of to every part that strikes your fancy. Your partner's job is to let you know exactly how good it feels, on a scale from zero to three. It is called "pleasure mapping;" it involves a ratings system, it comes from a book called Erotic Passions and all of it is odd and hilarious. But it also involves a blindfold (whee!) and a couple of hours of someone dedicatedly exploring your naked body, and that's an idea I can so completely get behind.
Have you stopped saying yes to sex? Here's how to recapture that can't-wait-to-do-it feeling.
You're lying there naked and incredibly vulnerable, blind and giving yourself up entirely to touch, and you cannot worry at all about what you look like or how you're presenting yourself or what your partner is thinking about your naked self. You're giving it all up to sensation; you've
- Glamour Magazine | Fashion – Wed, Oct 22, 2008 11:52 PM EDT
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- Glamour Magazine | Parenting – Wed, Oct 22, 2008 7:31 PM EDT
Seems I was a bit too crabby in my last post and quite a number of readers found me to be the rude mommy in that one. Many felt I was being unfairly judgmental of the mom in my anecdote and maybe I was. Certainly it wouldn't be the first time Crabmommy had a seriously crabby opinion of something others see as perfectly fine.
To recap, from my POV the mom in the grocery checkout line didn't appear flustered when I complimented her child. In tone and expression, her response conveyed smugness to me and I found it off-putting and familiar. Apparently a number of us have encountered the smugmommy phenomenon, which can best be described as the mother who seems unaware that there are others around her and other children that exist in the world. Maybe this mom is truly one of them, or maybe she just didn't know how to handle a stranger's warmth. Either way, learning how to be gracious about one's children surely merits discussing on a mom-blog, and I'm pleased to report that even theRead More »from Crabmommy: Accepting compliments without being smug
- Glamour Magazine | Healthy Living – Wed, Oct 22, 2008 7:28 PM EDT
Today I went to lunch with E and two of his former co-workers. It was a last-minute thing--our breaks tend not to sync up, but I had some free time and I grabbed it and went running out the door, even though I had just eaten lunch at my desk and was stuffed all the way full. But I did not care, because I was very pleased to get to spend a lunch hour with my fellow, and to get out of the office for a few split seconds because my eyes were crossing from looking at white papers and sell sheets and PowerPoint presentations.Read More »from Body of Work: Discovering the unexpected awards of being skinny
This is important: his two former coworkers were both small women; one is petite and pregnant, and the other is the sort of slim that comes from just having a small build, being lanky and long in the limbs. We went to a wonderful, terrifying-looking old-fashioned burger joint. They ordered burgers, fries, onion rings, diet sodas, a chocolate shake, and I was very jealous. They said, "You're not eating! Oh my God, I ordered so much food!" and they laughed. They said,
I have a friend who flies 3,000 miles--from San Francisco to New York--to get her hair cut. Granted, it's never the sole reason for her trip, but the point is her loyalty to the salon (Devachan, which specializes in curly hair) is unswerving.
My mother exhibits a different version of hair loyalty; she followed her favorite stylist--a sassy woman who rocked tribal tattoos and a Kool-Aid-colored Annie Lennox buzz--to every dubiously named salon she moved to: 'Tique, BB & Redheads, Bellissime, Elixir ...
I myself have total and complete faith in the not-cheap-but-unbelievably-worth-it Kattia Solano, who runs the Butterfly Studio in Manhattan. Thankfully she's only a 15-minute subway ride from my house--but seeing as how I only need to see her every six months (the cuts are that good), I'd travel a heck of a lot further if I had to.
So, my question to you: What stylist would YOU travel across the country to get to? If it's a Supercuts in Toledo, all the better--we're allRead More »from How far would you go for a great haircut?
Though there are far more important things to think about and put my energy into, I've been pathetically fixated on a small retail calamity that occurred last week. I lost a dress that I really, really wanted on eBay. It was a black, gorgeously tailored, cowlneck sweater dress that looked seriously expensive but was actually super-cheap (it eventually sold for $26; I'd bid up to $25. D'oh!). I had, as usual, pinned all sorts of style hopes on this piece: My new dress and I were going to attend parties and special lunches and an array of cold-weather events all through the season. When I lost it on Thursday, I was actually bummed for the rest of the afternoon, like a kid who lost her favorite toy. Anyway, I went to H&M on Saturday and there it was, almost the exact same shape in black, except lighter-weight, almost crochet, and not (I imagine) as itchy--and for $30. Though you can't purchase this item online, trust me, it's there. You can also choose gray or light purple.Read More »from Ebay in reverse: My perfect new, not-old dress
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