by Rachel Gillman, Glamour
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"It's not you, it's me." "I hope we can still be friends." "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now." Sound familiar? Every relationship is different, but breakups are surprisingly similar. We surveyed men and women on the best and worst ways to end a relationship.
1. DO break up in person, if it's someone you care about.
"Obviously don't do it over the phone, by text, or by email. Talk to the person face-to-face and be honest but decent," says Rob, 34, from Chicago.
2. DO prepare what you'll say in advance of the breakup conversation.
"Write the mental script," advises Mike, 31, from Los Angeles. By planning the conversation ahead of time, you'll be less anxious and more emotionally equipped to end the relationship.
3. DO tell the truth about why you want to break up.
You might be tempted to sugarcoat, but the best approach is honesty. "He has a right to know what went wrong in the relationship," says Laura Berman, sex therapist