"Why is it that middle-aged geezers want to date 20-year-olds?" asked Maria Gonzalez, a 50-year-old divorcée from Southern California. "There are many attractive, sexually active women in their 50s and beyond who would make great mates."
Older men date younger women for many reasons. But one thing's for certain: Most of these relationships won't last. Here's why.
1. Fantasy love fades. Usually within a year. At first, the geezer is in love with her looks and youthful spirit. Eventually, he realizes all they have in common is a roof over their heads, and he'll be off to look for a relationship with substance.
2. Geezers may feel younger, but dating younger women won't make them younger. No matter how hard older men try to make the wrinkles disappear, the darn things keep showing up in the mirror.
3. Older men and younger women use each other, similar to a business arrangement. He's got money, assets, power, and security; she's got youth and beauty. If the money runs out, or someone
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"Why is it that middle-aged geezers want to date 20-year-olds?" asked Maria Gonzalez, a 50-year-old divorcée from Southern California. "There are many attractive, sexually active women in their 50s and beyond who would make great mates."Read More »from Why Do Older Men Date Younger Women?
If you're experiencing a decrease in libido, you are not alone. For most people, sex drive is like a roller coaster -- one minute it's up, the next, it's down. A drop or decrease in sex drive is usually caused by changes in lifestyle or is a side effect of taking certain medication. Here, we've compiled a list of the most common reasons (and remedies) for your sex drive's decline. You may even be able to correct the situation with a few simple lifestyle changes.
Sex Drive/Desire vs. Sexual ArousalRead More »from Nine Sex Drive Killers
There's a big difference between sexual desire and physical arousal: Desire (or libido) refers to your interest in sex, while arousal refers to your body's physical response, such as vaginal lubrication or the ability to have an erection. People with higher libidos often experience an easier time getting aroused; while, conversely, if your sex drive has gone down, you may have a more difficult time with some of the physical aspects of arousal. By increasing your sex drive, your
We all have bad habits -- things we do even though we know we shouldn't. Sometimes, those bad habits come back to bite us. If your bad habits have to do with money, they could even land you in jail.
Forgery. Loan fraud. Counterfeiting. These and other financial crimes might seem like a far cry from most people's everyday lives. But it's surprisingly easy to adopt a dicey financial habit under the guise of "everyone does it," "I was just trying to help" or "it seemed like a good idea at the time" only to discover later that what you've done is in fact, illegal.
Here are six money habits you should quit now.
1) Signing Someone Else's Name on a Check
Signing someone else's name on a check is generally considered forgery and would be illegal in most states, according to Carol Kaplan, a spokeswoman for the American Bankers Association in Washington, D.C. But suppose an adult child signs an elderly parent's name because the parent is incapacitated or a parent signs a child'sRead More »from 6 Illegal Money Habits
If you're talking yourself into buying something that doesn't quite fit, stop right there! Here are some tips to ensure your future purchases won't sit at the back of the closet unused for years. Now you can find flattering duds no matter what size you are.
Shoulder Seam. The seam where a fitted sleeve attaches to a shirt or blouse should make a vertical line from the top of your shoulder to your armpit. This keeps the look feminine and youthful, not slouchy!
Sleeves. Long-sleeved blouses should stop at the bend of your wrist. Three-quarter-length sleeves are universally flattering in knit tops; they cover larger upper arms and accentuate slim wrists.
Bust. The fullest part of your bust should be midway between your shoulders and elbows; get fit for a new bra if yours is anywhere below that. And if a blouse gapes open, skip it: it's too small.
Length. If you plan to wear a shirt untucked, look for a hem that hits above the widest part of your hips or goes aRead More »from How to Buy Clothes that Fit & Flatter
It's less costly to learn from other people's mistakes than to learn our lessons the hard way. When it comes to saving for retirement, once you realize you've made a mistake, it could be too late to fix it.Read More »from 20 Savings Mistakes People Make
Here, several people who have experienced the highs and lows of saving for retirement share their wisdom. See if there are any lessons you can learn so that you can avoid having retirement regrets.
1. Make transfers inconvenient
Pay yourself first. So simple, but our problem was always dipping into the savings for various emergencies. I think if about twice a year we had moved the automatic savings money into another account that was not as easy to use for transferring money to the checking account, we would have thought twice about using that money as often. When we look at what that simple $50 per month would be at this point in our lives, we kick ourselves for not being more disciplined.
-- Name withheld
2. Tithe thyself
I would have saved 10 percent automatically from my
Just in time for Labor Day, we've had some great news. According to data from the U.S. Census Bureau, some young women are out-earning their male counterparts in big cities. These girls are better educated than their male peers, and they're better compensated too.
Yes, it seems that this generation of women is finally seeing (and enjoying) the benefits of all of our work scratching and clawing at the glass ceiling.
Celebrate the day -- and see how far we've come -- by renting one of ThirdAge's five favorite movies about working women. Here they are in chronological order:
1. Norma Rae (1979), staring Sally Field.Read More »from 5 Best Movies About Working Women
Nowadays, more people probably remember Sally Field's acceptance speech at the Oscars ("You like me, right now, you like me!") than the movie she won the award for. But Norma Rae, a film about a textile factory worker in Alabama who becomes involved with the labor union, is very much worth your time.
The movie was shot on location in Alabama, and
People who consume one to two drinks per day are more likely to outlive people who don't drink at all, according to a new study. Even more of a surprise: Heavy drinkers aren't likely to outlive moderate ones, but they have a better chance of a longer life than teetotalers do.
The study, conducted by researchers at the University of Texas and Stanford University, kept track of the drinking habits of nearly 2,000 men and women between the ages of 55 and 65 over a twenty-year period by monitoring which subjects survived longer, according to Wiley Publishing, which distributes health books. The subjects who didn't drink had the highest risk of death: 69 percent. Heavy drinkers had a 51 percent chance of death and moderate drinkers had a 45 percent chance of death.Researchers theorize that the rate of death could be so high among teetotalers because many of them were former alcoholics who might also smoke cigarettes. But even after adjusting for former problem drinkers, the rates Read More »from Moderate Drinkers Live Longer
We worry about big health issues like heart problems or cancer, but sometimes it seems like our efforts to prevent them are few and far between.
Fear not - there are simple and quick things you can do keep yourself feeling healthy and relaxed. ThirdAge offers 10 ways to improve your health in 1 minute or less.
#1 - Kick Start Your Day with Flowers
While daily routines can deflate our energy level and outlook on life before the weekend even arrives, research shows that relief is as close as the nearest florist, or grocery store. According to a recent study at Rutgers University, flowers promote long-term, positive effects on our energy and mood, and can even reduce depression and anxiety.#2 - Get Cozy with Your Man
New research suggests getting cozy with your man will earn you more than just brownie points. Anything from a quick snuggle, to getting busy between the sheets will do the trick, a recent study in Psychosomatic Medicine suggests. For every cuddly minute,Read More »from 4 Ways to Improve Your Health in 1 Minute or Less
We don't doubt that like many women you have your favorite sex toys which you either share with your guy, or you and BOB (Battery Operated Boyfriend) have dates alone. You invested good money in your pleasure toys now how do you keep them clean and make them last?Read More »from 5 Tips for Making Your Sex Toys Last (And Last)
1) Wash your toys immediately after using. Soap and warm water will work for most materials. If you share toys, use a condom on insertable parts. Toys made of latex, rubber, jelly, and "realistic" (e.g. cyberskin) materials are porous and hard to keep clean, so using a condom will help keep them from degrading.
2) Silicone is one of the best materials ever invented for vibrators, but you have to treat it right-no silicone lube (use water-based instead), and don't store it touching another silicone toy or the two can bond, and not in a good way - they'll melt together. Not pretty. If you need to store all your toys together, separate them with plastic baggies, cloth bags, or socks
3) Remove batteries when you store your
Is it just us or are spa deals in the air? September 20-26th is Wellness Week at SpaFinder, and to celebrate they're running a special called Deal Days, where you can get up to 50% off spa treatments. Additionally, September 13-19th (and again October 11-17th) is Spa Week, where participating spas offer treatments for as little as $50!
We thought we'd get in on the action by giving you 7 reasons to treat yourself to a spa day-and maybe making a trip ourselves.#1 - Relax!
Okay, so this is the most obvious reason, but it sure is a good one. Everyone knows relaxation is important, but that doesn't mean its part of all our lives. Taking some time for ourselves-especially in a place with aromatherapy, candles and Enya-can reduce cortisol. Treatments like massage can decrease the stress hormone, which helps bring blood pressure down, tame irritability and even eliminate brain fog.#2 - It Boosts Immunity
A recent study at Cedar-Sinai Medical Center found that the immunologicalRead More »from 7 Reasons to Have a Spa Day