courtesy Simon and SchusterWe think about divorce in terms of "failed" marriages, but author and filmmaker Dana Adam Shapiro's new book is a reminder that often our best shot at finding lasting love comes from the personal growth that occurs in the aftermath of a painful break-up. Over about four years, Shapiro, whose documentary Murderball was nominated for an Academy Award, traveled across the country interviewing hundreds of people who had survived a tough divorce and published many of their stories in the collection 'You Can Be Right (Or You Can Be Married).'
When Shapiro, now 38, hit his mid-30s, he witnessed many of his friends' marriages start to fall apart and wondered why. At the same time, he hadn't been able to sustain a relationship over the long haul. "I've been a serial monogamist for over 20 years," Shapiro tells Shine. "I've had five three-year relationships and one year-long relationship, but I've never been able to make theRead More »from ‘You Can Be Right, or You Can Be Married’: Lessons for Marriage, Learned from Divorce