There's a reason we feel so connected to our best friends.
On May 14, 1998, my life changed quite substantially: "Seinfeld" ended. At that time, I felt like I lost some of my closest friends. In fact, until I discovered that I could watch an unlimited amount of re-runs, I felt like I was missing a part of myself.
Maybe you've felt this way about a TV show-perhaps the recent ending of "The Office" has spurred these feelings. More seriously, I am sure you've felt this sense of emptiness when a friend has moved or when someone has passed away or even after a breakup.
Indeed, psychological science has known for quite some time that we define ourselves-that is, we come to know who we are as a person-through our closest relationships. When the relationships go, so goes a very part of our existence. After a divorce, for example, one of the biggest challenges people face is finding a way to revise their self-concept. I discuss this problem in a recent TEDx talk I gave here in Tucson-you might be interested inRead More »from Your Friends Are More Important Than You Think