We are family.I have two step-kids: Ava just turned 14 and Chet just turned 11 (yes, a congested birthday period). My daughter, Maia, and I met them five years ago. Although the dynamic is not what my 16-year-old self imagined, our blended family feels like it was meant to be.
Since Maia, who is six, moved in with Ava and Chet before her second birthday, she fully considers them her brother and sister. But she also understands they have another mom. The other day I heard Maia's friend ask why her brother and sister had brown skin and she did not.
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"Trey used to be married to another lady who is the 'big kids' mom. They came out of her butt, not my mom's butt. That lady has brown skin. She lives far away, but they talk to her on the phone a lot."
"Oh, ok. Can we get a snack?" her friend said, not missing a beat.
I was impressed by Maia's uninhibited recounting of this part of our family dynamic. Because of the differences in skin color, allRead More »from "You Can't Tell Me What to Do, You're Not My Mother"