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    • Healing the Family After a Miscarriage

      The Duggars' healing process.

      When we realized that Jubilee was not with us we wanted to honor her little life with a memorial service because every life deserves to be recognized. We felt like she had been a part of our lives for 18 weeks and we had so rejoiced when we found out God had given us another baby, and then our family needed to grieve and to be able to take a sigh and bring closure to that when we realized what happened.

      We had our dear friend play for the service, and the music was heavenly. We had a harpist (she taught our girls how to play harp), and she offered to play at Jubilee's funeral. It was just the most beautiful, honoring memorial service that I've ever seen. We played the song "I Will Carry You" and another song called "Blessing."

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      After the service we had people come up and other mothers that had experienced a miscarriage, and they said, "Michelle, I cannot tell you how this memorial service has

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    • How to Expand Your Picky Eater's Palate

      Would your kid eat sushi?

      Mac and cheese, hot dogs, chicken nuggets, PBJ, and spaghetti and meatballs are classic kid's meals. Yes, these foods are tasty and that is one reason kids love them. However, they also become favorites simply because the are often offered repeatedly. Some kids are picky eaters. These kids get into food ruts and declare they will eat no other foods. Eating the same few foods over and over may be okay for the inexperienced eater, but most adults crave a little variety and variation of different cultural cuisines.

      Read More: 10 Vegetarian Meals Your Kids Will Love

      As a foodie and dietitian, it pains me to see kids limiting their foods for whatever reason. I know that when given the opportunity many children will expand their palates. It may take some creativity and determination on the parent front, but it can be done! Kids have the ability to enjoy spicy foods, sour fruits, sushi, stinky cheeses, and many ethnic foods.

      I have often caught myself skimping on the spices while

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    • Can Your Child Have Too Much Self Esteem?

      Is self esteem overrated?

      We know that positive reinforcement can help kids' brains grow bigger, but there's a flip side to building up self esteem. Julie has already explored how praising your kids as smart can backfire, creating a sense of complacency that leads to a lack of effort. (Praising them for their efforts, on the other hand, encourages hard work.)

      Family psychologist John Rosemond explores this very topic over at The Star Press, suggesting that self esteem is seriously overrated, and that we should learn to value humility once more:

      Researchers have discovered that people with high self-esteem tend to overestimate their abilities. If anything, they are over-confident. As a result, they don't cope well when life deals them a bad hand or their performance doesn't live up to their self-expectations. For those reasons, they are highly prone to depression. Because they believe anything they do is deserving of reward, they also tend to underperform. Ironic, since high self-esteem was

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    • Why Giving Unsolicited Parenting Advice is a Very Bad Idea

      When advice isn't welcome.

      "That baby is spoiled," said the waitress as I rocked our fussy 3-month-old. I smiled politely and hoped our burgers would arrive soon.

      "Seriously, if you pick a baby up too much, they'll never let you put them down. I KNOW what I am talking about."

      Sadly, this was one of those restaurants where you order and pay before you are seated - otherwise this waitress would not have received a tip. Sites like STFU Parents may be designed to stop parents sharing too much information on Facebook, but we may need to start another site dedicated specifically to naming and shaming those parents who think they know how to parent everyone else's kids too.

      Sure, we all have opinions about other peoples' parenting styles, and public discussion about these views is an important part of how we operate as a culture. Despite my observations that judge not should be the first rule of parenting, I have plenty to say about the dangers of smacking or using a firearm to discipline your child, but

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    • 10 Things You Should Never Say to a New Dad

      The author's husband as a new dad.The author's husband as a new dad.
      If you're reading this, chances are good that you've read my previous posts on stuff you shouldn't say to people, particularly pregnant women and new moms. In my effort to help society (and myself) stop saying boneheaded things all the time, here's a cheat sheet of comments we should all avoid saying to another key group: new dads. Feel free to add your own ideas and experiences in the comments section below, so that we may all be further enlightened!

      Read More: 25 Things You Should Never Say to a New Mom

      1. "Are you sure he's yours?" That's a great way to call a man stupid and his wife a slut at the exact same time. I don't care if the baby comes out looking exactly like his best friend. Unless you are extremely close with a person you should never voice concerns over his child's parentage.

      2. "Sorry you had a girl." I've actually heard this one said before, although not to the dad's face. It seems that some people think that men are disappointed by any baby that

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    • The 5 Most Surprising Things that Happen After You Give Birth

      Sleeping newborn.Sleeping newborn.For nine months, we pay careful attention to taking good care of our bodies and unborn child. We decorate the nursery, make sure we have all the gear, take birthing classes, and mentally prepare ourselves as best we can for the grueling hours that we will spend in labor and delivery. But what a lot of people don't talk about is the things that happen after the baby has arrived. Sure, we all know that there will be sleepless nights, nervous moments wondering if we're doing things right, and there's a good chance we won't be getting anything done beyond taking care of the baby, but what about the things your girlfriends aren't telling you? Warning: Most of this is not pretty.

      1. Insignificant Weight Loss. You just gave birth to an eight pound baby, a placenta, and a whole lot of fluids left your body. You must have lost at least half the baby weight you gained, right? Wrong! Do not, I repeat, DO NOT step on a scale for several weeks. It seems like a fun thing to do to see how much

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    • How 18 Kids Under One Roof Celebrate Spring

      The Duggars welcome spring.The Duggars welcome spring.During playtime it can get loud in our house, especially during the colder months when the kids are playing with toys that beep, blink and play music. Sometimes we'll gather up a few of the toys and put them away and bring them back out when spring comes around. That way they seem like they're brand new again and they can play with them in the yard.

      When it's pretty weather the kids are able to really get out and play; they just have at it. They love to play basketball and they enjoy playing broomball, a game that's played by setting up hockey nets and hitting the ball back and forth with broomball sticks -- it's a lot of fun and gets rid of a lot of energy!

      More from Michelle: Michelle Duggar's No. 1 Exercise Motivator

      One of the kids' favorite places to hang out is on our tree swing, although the trampoline and the slides are usually the first place that they head. But mostly I think it's just the fact that they're outside enjoying the sunshine after so many winter days

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    • Does Jailing Parents for Hot Car Deaths Really Save Lives?

      Parking lotParking lotI wrote previously about the case of a father who left their child in the car by accident, only to discover his tragic error when he left for home after work. At the time, I argued that such events call for empathy, not judgement. Sadly, this topic is cropping up again as a Virginia mother was sentenced to serve six years of probation and to perform 400 hours of community service on account of leaving her son in the car one morning. Janice D'Arcy over at the Washington Post writes about the futility of using the law to "punish" parents who are suffering unimaginable trauma already, and she cites a separate case to prove her point:

      "Just look at the case of Kevin C. Kelly, another Virginia parent convicted of involuntary manslaughter in connection with his baby's hot-car death in 2002. Kelly, who lives in Manassas, was ordered to serve one day in jail every year for seven years and to perform community service around the date of his daughter's birthday.

      "Did we

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    • Daisy Duke Disses Dieting to Her Daughters

      Catherine Bach with her daughters, Sophia (left) and LauraCatherine Bach with her daughters, Sophia (left) and LauraThe National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders (ANAD) estimates that 50 percent of teenage girls and 33 percent of teenage boys will go to unhealthy measures to control their weight. They list such extremes as skipping meals, taking up smoking, or popping laxatives to attain the "ideal" body image.

      This idea of the perfect body can be seen in many places: on TV, in magazines, online, in the movies. It can be perpetuated by dance teachers, bullies, advertisers, fashion designers, and even a child's own parents. Unfortunately for a child's self esteem, it's not reality for most kids: The ANAD states that this ideal body type is only possessed naturally by 5 percent of females in the United States.

      And it would stand to reason that the obsession over attaining the "perfect" body would be much more common in places like Hollywood, where the streets are full of thin women with perfect figures. But one actress, who herself was a pin-up girl in the early

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    • Michelle Duggar's No. 1 Exercise Motivator

      Texting during a workoutTexting during a workoutLike all busy moms I can't always jump on the phone when I'd like, so texting is a great way to touch base with people. I communicate with my best friend on a daily basis by text. She has six children and she homeschools, but we live three and half hours away from each other. So we don't get to see each other as often as we'd like, though we do make it a point to see each at last two to three times a year.

      She's my exercise buddy. We both have elliptical machines, and we text each other at 6:15 in the morning, and we both get on our ellipticals at the same time and then we do our little arm exercises. And we change up our workouts, and we encourage each other.

      It's really neat because while we're exercising we listen to some of the same preachers, and we text back and forth about some of the messages we hear. It's a great way to stay connected. And having my best friend as my long-distance workout buddy is motivating!

      This post was written by Michelle Duggar.

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