Photo credit: mettamatI'm sure you know what it's like: that horrible moment of having to peel my kid off my leg, hand him over to the nursery school teacher, and leave the room while listening to his screams of rage. It's so upsetting to me that I fight back tears as I walk to my car. I know he'll be fine - he loves nursery school - but he needs me gone in order to remember that.
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Psychotherapist and parent educator Andrea Nair has a solution for this kind of situation. She calls it 'attachment bridging.' By following a few simple steps, our kids can feel secure attachment to us when we're away, reducing the number of times we drop them off to the sound of wails. Nair writes, "An attachment bridge is using some form of object or words to connect the time you are together over the time you are apart, to the next time you are together again." It's important to choose an attachment bridge that doesn't increase the child's anxiety about being away from
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Photo credit: mettamatI'm sure you know what it's like: that horrible moment of having to peel my kid off my leg, hand him over to the nursery school teacher, and leave the room while listening to his screams of rage. It's so upsetting to me that I fight back tears as I walk to my car. I know he'll be fine - he loves nursery school - but he needs me gone in order to remember that.Read More »from 3 Tips for Happier Preschool Drop-Offs
- Parentables | Parenting – Mon, Feb 4, 2013 2:17 PM EST
Photo Credit: bionicteaching / Creative CommonsParents often think they have a lot of control over their child, but ultimately the child has the final word - just ask anyone who's gotten into a power struggle with a toddler. We set limits on what they can eat, when they should sleep, and in so many other aspects of their life. Our goal is to provide a safe environment and the proper resources for them to be happy and healthy little people. However, even with all the direction we provide them, they still ultimately have the freedom to choose whether they are going to close their eyes to welcome sleep or whether they will eat the spinach on their dinner plate.Read More »from 5 Tips to Protect Your Child from Sexual Molestation
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As frustrating as it can be at times, by honoring these choices we provide our kids with the opportunity to learn how to listen and respect their own bodies. This builds a foundation where they have the tools they need to take care of themselves when a parent is not around- such as when they are at
Image: Mark Karrass/CorbisQuestion from a "19 Kids and Counting" fan: How do the kids keep entertained inside during the long winter months? Do you have favorite family activities?Read More »from Favorite Indoor Activities at the Duggar Home
Michelle Duggar: My kids love to play games. Recently, they've become four-square champs! We've got a tile floor on the downstairs level of our home, and there's an area by the front door that doesn't have anything on the floor - no furniture, just an entryway. My children have put up a small four-square court. They put masking tape on the floor and have sectioned off a little play area. I tell you what, we have played more four square right there in our house than outside. Typically, I'm the one who says, "No balls in the house because you're going to break something," but we've had so much fun with only a few casualties: They knocked over a cup of hot cocoa when a ball bounced, but that's it. We've done pretty well with it so far, and the kids love it. They have had so much fun.
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- Parentables | Parenting – Fri, Feb 1, 2013 2:13 PM EST
Image: iStockphoto/ThinkstockRockhurst High School in Kansas City, Missouri is taking the well-being of their students to a new and ridiculous level. Starting this fall, the Jesuit school will subject their students to mandatory drug testing. The testing will be random, but students are required to participate if selected, and those selected will have a piece of hair collected from a staff member who also happens to be a barber. But the purpose of the testing is not to discipline the students, but to get them help and alert their parents to their drug or alcohol use.Read More »from High School Makes Drug Testing Mandatory so They Can "Help" Kids Who Are Using
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"Our point is, if we do encounter a student who has made some bad decisions with drugs or alcohol, we will be able to intervene, get the parents involved, get him help if necessary, and then help him get back on a path of better decision making, healthier choices for his life," Rockhurst Principal Greg Harkness told news channel KSHB.
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Photo: Matt Romack PhotographyWith Valentine's Day around the corner, many of us have romance on our minds. For those of us in marriages and committed relationships, there can also be a tendency to compare ourselves to other couples. "What's normal?" is a question I've been known to ask my husband on occasion, and that's exactly what researchers and psychologists have asked several thousand Americans in an attempt to define 'normal.'Read More »from Would You Say Your Sex Life is Normal?
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The online study, which forms the basis of a book called The Normal Bar, to be released on February 5, surveys almost 100,000 self-professed happiest couples. Co-author Pepper Schwartz explains, "This normal is different from most normals... What we want to know is which normal is correlated with happiness." In other words, they're looking for that magic formula guaranteeing marital bliss that we'd all love to find.
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- Parentables | Parenting – Mon, Jan 28, 2013 9:30 PM EST
Photo credit: ThreelfbyBike / Creative CommonsWhen a list of age-appropriate chores for kids appeared on Facebook, I realized my three-year-old son isn't doing enough to help out around the house. The list for 2- to 3-year-olds surprised me because it included tasks such as making the bed and unloading the dishwasher, which seem complicated for a clumsy toddler. On the other hand, he is very precise and careful when playing with his Playmobil, so surely those skills are transferable to housework.Read More »from Check This List of Age Appropriate Chores to See How Your Kid Stacks Up
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So I tried it. I told him to make his bed. After initial shock, he headed into his room and did it, copying the motions he sees me do every morning. It didn't look right, so I fought the temptation to fix his lumpy result, but he was so excited to show his dad that I didn't mind. No doubt the novelty will wear off, but for the past four mornings he's been eager to make his bed.
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I think kids nowadays aren't given enough responsibility around
- Parentables | Parenting – Fri, Jan 25, 2013 12:43 PM EST
Michelle Duggar. Photo credit: DCLQuestion from a "19 Kids and Counting" fan on Facebook: With such a big family to care for, how do you work to save money on things like water, electricity and heating?Read More »from Michelle Duggar on Heat for Her Home and Hot Water on a Budget
We have two things that really help keep our heating bills down in our house: a radiant heat floor and a tankless water heater.
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When we built our current home, we installed a radiant heat floor before we poured our concrete. The hot water runs through pipes in it during the winter, and it heats the whole house. Installing that was really something! Everybody that was old enough to help got out there and laid that PEX pipe -- even the little ones were out there tying down the pipe in the floor before we poured the concrete.
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We have furnaces and the ability to turn those on when we want them, if we need them. But the radiant heat floor saves us a lot, because it's just circulating that hot water under the
- Parentables | Parenting – Thu, Jan 24, 2013 6:00 PM EST
Photo Credit: Life Mental Health/Creative Commons Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) is a misnomer, and as a result of it's misleading name and paradoxical symptoms it's one of the reasons I went undiagnosed and untreated for the better part of my life.Read More »from How Living with Undiagnosed ADD was Detrimental to My Life
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I write this for those who may also suffer but have never before considered it as the possible root to what ails them. If you suffer from chronic fatigue, malaise, depression, moments of brilliance followed by moments of sheer incapacity- you may want to read on.
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I should begin with the admission that I was completely ignorant and thought that the term "Attention Deficit" meant exactly what it implied: that a person who has ADD is incapable of sustained focus or concentration. Herein lies the foundational flaw of naming, rather it should really be called: The Disorder Of Paradoxes. ADD is not a deficit in attention but instead
- Parentables | Author Blog Posts – Wed, Jan 23, 2013 12:36 PM EST
Image: eAlisa/VeerLike many mothers, I'm not one to spend a whole lot of time on my beauty routine. A quick glance at my roots is evidence enough to prove it. But in the late fall I won a raffle prize at a fundraiser to a local salon for a month's membership in their Blow Dry Club. What the heck was that I wondered at the time? But now that I've given it a go, I'm hooked, and it's actually not that surprising as salons that only do blowouts have been popping up in droves across the country.Read More »from Take a Cue from Grandma and Add This Little Luxury to Your Life
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Remember how your grandmother used to go to the salon once a week to have her hair washed and blown out? It seems as more women started working and burning the candle at both ends to take care of their house, kids, and work that they stopped this habit. But these blow dry only salons are creating a resurgence of it. The salon that I go to is a full service salon that offers a Blow Dry Club. As it's a resort area, in the "off" season I
- Parentables | Parenting – Mon, Jan 21, 2013 2:26 PM EST
Kyle May / Creative CommonsI decided early in December 2012 to give up drinking for a period of one year. I wasn't a huge drinker (by my own standards), but I drank frequently: about a glass or two of wine per night on a semi-consistent basis, plus the occasional unflinching punch to the liver at a party or when having dinner with friends.
I really enjoy wine, but I had accumulated enough reasons to choose to take a break from it. Topping the list of motives are a desire to lose weight and get in shape, a wish for better sleep and more energy, and the motivation and focus to help my business, The Monarch Company, thrive.Read More »from 5 Amazing Lessons I Learned by Giving Up Alcohol for One Month
Although I'm sure I will learn much more as my wine-free year progresses, I was very surprised to learn these five truths in only the first month:
1. I hadn't allowed myself to enjoy drinking.
Christmastime is one of my favorite times of year to get totally hammered. I enjoy sitting in front of a fire with loved ones while I enthusiastically swill my wine. This year I thought it