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Avoiding labels like While celebs like Anna Paquin and Tom Hardy have embraced their bisexuality, a new study has cast light on the problem with the label itself. In research studies, bisexuals are commonly lumped with homosexuals. But this newest study, from researchers at Indiana University, uniquely targets women who identify themselves as bi, and just how that identification affects their overall health. They studied more than 2,500 ladies who have had attraction to or sexual encounters with other women, asking questions about their mental, sexual and physical wellness. The findings showed that "women who identified themselves as bisexual or lesbian reported the best health when their sexual identity matched their recent sexual history."

But the researchers still warn against sticking to strict labels. Rather, they believe allowing for flexibility in terms of labeling sexual identity will help maintain the health of these bisexual women. The head researcher of the study specifically pointed out women

First things first: "Why You're Not Married ... Yet" is not "The Rules." It does not teach you how to "catch" a husband. Rather, Tracy McMillan opens our eyes to the negative habits, attitudes and behaviors that have been sabotaging the relationship you seek. There's no sugar coating here: According to McMillan, if you're not married, you're either a bitch, a liar, crazy, selfish, shallow … you get the picture.

But let's break down an example: What does "crazy" really mean? In a word: intensity. This includes "stoking lots of drama, being needy, easily hurt, jealous, insecure," and my personal favorite, "anything you can easily picture Courtney Love doing." But thankfully, the thrice-divorced McMillan says we can be fixed.

McMillan is brutally honest about the state of women's psychology - and men's as well. In each chapter she offers "Some Relevant Stuff About Men," golden nuggets of information about what men really want, how they think and make decisions. These are invaluable

This number of babies is NOT something I want to be dealing with.Even though my fiancé and I are still months away from walking down the aisle, the inevitable question has already come up: When are we going to have kids? This is totally exacerbated by the fact that my younger sister just had a baby in April, and in some cases, the question is annoyingly accusatory (as in, how dare you let your little sister have a baby before you?)

As a 23-year-old with pretty extensive world-travel goals and a life partner who is more than willing to tag along, I usually evade the question with a vague "we're still young" type of remark (I'm not even old enough to rent a car!)

There's no way I'm trekking through the Andes with a baby in tow - I'm already amazed at the super-patient parents who lug their Maclaren strollers up and down the NYC subway stairs. Now that's dedication. Read More: I'm Planning My Dream Wedding In Three Months!

While my fiancé and I have no plans of conceiving any time soon, we've definitely discussed how many kids we want. An article

Being a more relaxed mom benefits both you and your kids. Find out how.Does your child's behavior, the choices he or she makes, and fears about how he will turn out weigh you down, making you feel like it's all somehow a reflection on you?

When our kids don't act in ways we think they should, it's natural to feel anxious and responsible; we're only human. But, when we do this, we stop seeing the boundary between where we end and where our child begins. We become fused with them.

The more we parent them out of anxiety, the more we feel responsible for the choices they make, which leads to that panicked, out-of-control feeling and knee-jerk parenting. In effect, your parenting becomes about needing your child to behave so you can feel okay. This causes parents to hover, nag and get in their kid's box.

When your well-being lies in your child's hands, the more invested you'll become in him or her, and the more anxious you'll feel about his every move. Read More: Tips for Single Parents Looking To Date

The behavior of difficult, acting-out kids makes us

Why do some couples sleep together so soundly, while others get on each other's nerves?If sharing a bed with your snoring, sheet-stealing partner has you reconsidering moving in with your beau, fret no more - a growing field of research suggests that couples actually enjoy health benefits from sharing their sleeping space.

Past studies have highlighted the downsides of sleeping with someone else, such as the sleep disruption often caused by different bed times or different preferences in temperature.

The good news is that the psychological benefits of being close to someone at night outweigh the costs of sleeping with a partner, according to Dr. Troxel at the University of Pittsburgh. One hypothesis is that shared sleep promotes feelings of safety and security.

Still, it's nice to maximize shut-eye. Here are some tips for sleeping through the night when you have a guy by your side:

1. Invest in a new mattress that doesn't transfer motion when your man tosses and turns, like the Tempur-Pedic. Or get a king-sized bed - my fiancé and I share one, and sometimes I don't