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There are advantages to waiting out your twenties and thirties."Marriage is more than finding the right person. It is being the right person." -Unknown

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I used to wonder if I would ever find true love. When I was in college, I thought I'd be married by the time I was 25. When 27 rolled around, I thought I would get married in my early 30s. Then I thought I'd be married by the time I was 35 years old. In hindsight, it's easy to see why it took so long for "the one" to find me and me to find "the one." I wasn't being the person I needed to be in order to have the love I desired.

I focused on my career for so long, assuming that my love life would fall into place. When I was in my late 30s, I began to understand that having a successful love life required conscious effort and focus. This was the beginning of many firsts: focusing more on my love life than my professional life, understanding the unhealthy relationship patterns I was repeating, learning to love myself and accepting my self-worth.

Kirstie Alley has opened up about two different men she fell in love with during her marriage.Over the past two days, Dancing with the Stars contestant Kirstie Alley is coming clean about quite a bit of history. In her new book The Art of Men, she goes into detail about the difficult times she went through in her love life. But you don't have to pick up the book, out today, to get all the dirt about how Alley fell in love twice while married.

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On an interview with Barbara Walters-which will air in full on Friday- the star revealed that the "greatest love of her life" was not with either of her two husbands. Apparently, in 1989, during the filming of Look Who's Talking, Alley fell hard for her costar John Travolta. Although the feelings she had were strong, she resisted them because she was married to her second husband Parker Stevenson.

"Believe me, it took everything that I had, inside, outside, whatever, to not run off and marry John," Alley told Walters. "And be with John for the rest of my life."

A Muslim woman gave up her past to provide her family with a future. It was during my second month of medical school-as I was cutting anatomy class-that I met Ron. We bonded over our mutual dislike of the subject, and I felt like we had an instant connection.

In the course of that first conversation we also wound up discussing our backgrounds: Ron, I learned, was Israeli-Jewish; I was Iranian-Muslim.

The relationship grew serious quickly. Ron proposed a year and a half in, and we planned a Jewish-Persian wedding, where we drank wine, did readings in Hebrew, and let my relatives grind sugar over us to add sweetness to the marriage, according to Iranian/Persian tradition.

Then, six months after we married, we began discussing the idea of conversion. Ron and I had both been raised in secular homes, and he felt connected to Judaism on a cultural, rather than religious, level.

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I, on the other hand, have never really felt tied to Islam. I believe in gay marriage-and I believe that a woman can do anything a

Is he more into himself than he is into you?Healthy folks mostly stay in a good mood. They can ride life's bumps in good humor. They also have open ears. When you say something to them, they seem to hear it and take it seriously. They succeed in watching out for themselves and, at the same time, responding with generosity and compassion to you.

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Narcissism is a clinical term for what generally boils down to selfishness. Narcissistic people want their way, pay insufficient attention to what others want and can be pretty tough to get along with because if they don't do what you want, they are likely to get angry.

That's the short explanation of narcissism. Here are the details: six signs to pay attention to. If you are dating someone who exhibits these signs, you may have a narcissist on your hands:

1. Deafness to what others feel, want or think. "What I want, feel, think or believe is all that matters so I don't bother taking seriously what you say, especially when it

This is not how it has to be...Everyone has dealbreakers.

They're the unalterable qualities in your prospective partner that eliminate the possibility of a happy relationship. Some are shallow: gnarly feet, freakishly small hands, a CD collection that's a little heavy on the Limp Bizkit. But others are critical indicators of compatibility: he doesn't want kids and you do. Or his deeply held religious convictions don't mesh with your own.

But one potential dealbreaker defies categorization: bad sex. Is it a shallow concern that shouldn't matter if two people care about each other? Is it the ultimate indicator of compatibility because it's so primal? Or is it not a dealbreaker at all because, with enough time and effort, it can be fixed?

"Sometimes people just need a little physical training," says Barbara Keesling, PhD, author of Sex So Great She Can't Get Enough. "But since passion is practically a philosophical concept, bad sex almost always results from emotional, mental, and physical issues."

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Believe it or not, there's an upside.Breaking news: Divorce is difficult.

Now, we're not trying to minimize that undeniable fact, but we do want you to know that there are benefits to enduring a marital dissolution as well. Like, remember when your mother told you that anything that doesn't kill you makes you stronger? Well, she was right ... but that isn't the only upside to the end of your marriage. In fact, our experts came up with quite a list of advantages to your divorcee status, and here they are:

1. You will become a stronger person. As the saying goes, if you can get through this, you can get through anything. -Carol Ferguson

2. You will become closer to your friends and appreciate them more. They can be a shoulder to lean on, a sounding board for advice and a date when you want to go out. -Carol Ferguson

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3. You now control your life. You make the decisions you want to without having to consult with someone else. -Carol Ferguson

4. You are

Do you and your husband argue about money? Is it starting to take a toll on your relationship? If so, help is on the way.

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In this video, psychologist, therapist and YourTango Expert Tina Tessina assures us that it's common for couples to fight about money. Money is usually a heated topic because of our symbolic and emotional ties to it.

"Sit down with your husband in a more business-like manner ... put papers in front of you; make it feel more like business and it'll go more like business. And, if you have to talk about the emotional parts of money - I feel guilty about spending money on this, or I feel scared that we don't have enough money - talk about that separately from making the money decisions. The money decisions are just math."

To learn more, check out the video above!

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