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A new study shows that a poor, dangerous environment makes bad boy, masculine men attractive.
It seems like there's a new study out every week that aims to explain why we like what we like when it comes to who we want in our beds. A couple of findings have stuck around, becoming somewhat common knowledge-for example, men drooling over curves because they signal fertility, and women being suckers for masculine features like strong jaws because they're linked to health and virility.

We'll continue waiting for science to explain just how those of us without the perfect hip-to-waist ratio still manage to get laid, but in the meantime, it seems we've been wrong about why we dig that perfect jawline. Researchers at the University of New South Wales recently found that we're not just looking for signs of virility-we're looking for a badass, according to The Economist. Is this why Denise Richards is dating Motley Crue bassist Nikki Sixx, another in a long slew of bad boys?

Okay, "badass" is my word, not The Economist's, but they did say this: Women living in countries

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It's not easy to get yourself back in the dating scene after a divorce. Not only do you have to get in the single mindset again, but now you're also competing with women who've never been married before. Are they more attractive in a man's eyes than someone who's gone through a divorce?

In this video, Image Consultant, Matchmaker and YourTango Expert Kimberly Seltzer helps a woman who's self-conscious about her divorce. She's worried that she's not as dateable as a single gal who's never been hitched before. While Kimberly points out that there's no universal answer to her concern, she does offer some tips for this reader to feel more confident and secure about what she has to bring to the table.

In fact, Kimberly lists several reasons her male clients have told her why they actually prefer dating divorced women. Find out all of them and more by watching the video above.

Written by Kimberly Seltzer for YourTango.

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74% of men say they notice a girl by because of her beautiful hair!
Good news for those of us with lingerie drawers full of push-up bras! It's not your cleavage he's looking at instead of your face...it's your hair! According to Glamour, a new survey found that what men really want is silky, healthy hair. The hard numbers:

74% of men indicated that they notice women because of their hair.

44% of men surveyed said that hair is the first thing they notice about a woman, more than her clothes (26%), legs (25%), or makeup (4%), and most men surveyed would be more likely to approach a woman at a bar with great hair than a woman wearing a low-cut shirt.

82% of men indicated that sexy hair is a key element to a woman's overall sex appeal.

60% of men surveyed say they would rather date a woman with great hair than a woman with big breasts.

78% of men surveyed consider healthy hair to be a turn-on.

But wait...I thought we were taught that we can have it all! Love and a career. Great hair and great boobs! Now we have to choose?

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These tips will have you seeing colors in no time!
When it comes to getting 'turned-on', men are mostly driven by visual and physical stimulation. For women, sex is much more of a mental and emotional experience. Stress is the most common obstruction in being able to feel optimum sexual pleasure. If your mind is full of distracting thoughts or if you're upset about something, you may be unable to fully experience all of the magnificent sensations your body is capable of. It is imperative to reduce stress, tension and disturbance before embarking on a sexual journey...with or without a partner.

"Electric flesh-arrows traversing the body. A rainbow of color strikes the eyelids. A foam of music falls over the ears. It is the gong of the orgasm." - Anais Nin

Most women enjoy a combination of mental, emotional and physical stimulation to feel aroused. Although there are numerous erogenous zones, the clitoris is the main point of interest that evokes the most pleasure when stimulated. The clitoris is a complex network with over

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Your parents divorced when you were just a kid. You remember the arguing, then the moving out and eventually going to two separate places to celebrate the holidays. It's a tough thing for any son or daughter, young or old, to go through. Now, you're worried that your parents' problems will crop up in your own relationship and everything will end the same way. How do you avoid this?

In this video, Therapist, Social Worker and YourTango Expert Elisabeth LaMotte helps a reader who is worried that she's doomed to repeat her parents' bad divorce in her own relationship. Elisabeth actually wrote a book about this exact subject and found that men and women who come from divorced families can and do find successful and lasting relationships.

To make sure this reader finds the long-lasting marriage she's looking for, Elisabeth offers her some helpful advice and tips. To find out what they are, watch the video above.

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A new survey finds women think more about food than sex, and 60% hate eating in front of their men.

Before committing to that crazy one-pea-a-day diet you promised yourself you'd try this year, why not take a moment for an eye-opening reality check? You can file this one under majorly depressing: Women think about food more than sex.

Although we already know that men tend to think about sex more frequently than women do (one in 20 men think about sex once a minute-wow!), a new survey of 5,000 people shows that women crowd out their sexy thoughts with worries about what they're eating. The British survey found that 25 percent of women think about food every 30 minutes, while only 10 percent report thinking about sex that often.

The sadder finding: They may actually be thinking more about what they're not eating. Four in 10 women say they're always either dieting and/or concerned about their weight, and more than 60 percent confess that they don't like to eat in front of their partners. And it seems like a few of us haven't yet gotten over our high school cafeteria habits: When

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Attracting a man is not rocket science. Attracting the RIGHT one however can be a little trickier.

I'm frequently approached with the question "Kim, I really want a man in my life and I just don't understand why I'm not meeting anyone!?"

Attracting a man is not rocket science. Attracting the RIGHT one however can be a little trickier. Most women I coach are dating at a later stage in life - often after long marriages that kept them off the dating scene

If you're in this demographic, re-entering the dating arena may seem like a daunting task. All kinds of issues can come up around age, body image and availability of good men - something the younger set won't necessarily be concerned about in the same way.

The advantage you have over most 20 something's is your level of confidence. Life experience has helped you get clear about who you are and hone in on exactly what you want - including where you will no longer compromise in relationship with a man.

The challenge for women in late 30's and 40's lies in your ability to receive. You've spent most of your adult life getting

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All you and your husband seem to do is fight. You fight over breakfast, over the phone, when you come home from work, and before you go to bed. Will it ever stop? Is this a sign that your marriage is crumbling?

In this video, Coach, Healer and YourTango Expert Louann Schwager Tung helps a reader who's been having this problem in her relationship. She and her husband can't stop bickering, and she's worried they're on the fast track to a split. What does Louann suggest?

Louann says she's on the right track just by recognizing that their fighting is damaging their connection. By changing some of their behavior and taking themselves out of a situation filled with anger, this reader and her husband may be able to break their fighting habit for good. Find out exactly what Louann suggests by watching the video above.

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