Dancing out a fight and more oddly wise, happy couple tricks to maintain your relationship.
Every now and then, we browse Metafilter, a huge community question board, to stave off our boredom. When we came across a board titled, What Clever Relationship Hacks Have You Come Up With?, we couldn't help but be grateful that we learned something in the process of passing the afternoon hours. To clarify, by "relationship hacks," the original poster meant clever or unconventional ways to maintain a healthy relationship. Shortcuts, in other words. Since the forum received so much feedback, we've narrowed down eight funny and wise relationship tips from real-life couples from around the web. Let us know in the comments whether or not you agree with these:
1. If you and your partner are indecisive about where to eat or what movie to watch, play the "5-3-1" game. One person names five choices, the other vetoes two of them, and then the first person eliminates the remaining two. Ta-da, no more "Where you do want to eat?" "I don't care, what do you want to do?"
2. The person who cooks
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Sometimes we have to treat our relationships like a business arrangement. When traditional, lovey-dovey methods of communicating don't seem to get the job done, it's time to get formal. It's time to use things like "agendas" and "action items."
Since the start of my relationship-and especially because we are long-distance-we decided communication was crucial (my boyfriend is a lot better at it than I am). In order to keep the ideas flowing we have mandatory "check-ins" every other month. These meetings tend to be very formal (yes, we often have agendas typed up), sometimes include written questionnaires, and can cover serious topics like abortion. We set up this system so that all the big questions or issues that tend to build up in a relationship get released and resolved. Then, like any good team we have action items to work on until the next check-in.
Enter Tokii.com's TradingPost feature, which encourages you to haggle in the name of love. "I'll wash your car on Saturday, if you
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Who needs a man when you have an Oscar, right Charlize?Read More »from Charlize Theron on Her Love Life: From High School Crushes to Present Day Exes
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Over tea at the Ritz Carlton Hotel in New York City, 36-year-old Theron laughs and shakes her head. She's miles of long legs in person, which are wrapped in black tights. She wears a tight black skirt and a gorgeous white cashmere sweater. Her hair is glossy blonde and just graces her chin.
An edgy Grace Kelly comes to mind. But this princess is prince-less these days.
"I don't know if it's a good or bad thing to call up an old love. I've never done it. I certainly wouldn't do it if they were married with a newborn baby," Charlize says.
That's what her character, Mavis Gary, an author of young adult novels, does in the new movie, Young Adult. Theron plays a semi-famous author who is divorced and living alone in the big city. She decides to hightail it back to her hometown in Minnesota and reclaim her high school boyfriend. The
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Most of us have heard the expression that "all disease is stress related", but what does that really mean? The changes that take place in our bodies are certainly real. Our diagnosis is real. So, how does 'stress' contribute to DIS-EASE in the body…DIS-COMFORT?
Ponder this: if we do not listen to our thoughts and feelings, then our issues will haunt us in our dreams. If we continue to ignore the messages that our dreams are attempting to deliver, these 'issues' are likely to SOMATIZE. In other words, we develop physical symptoms. Which ones, where, who? We all have inherited from our families a weakness in some organ or system in our body that seems to take the brunt of our stress. Under prolonged stress you may develop
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The working mom vs. stay-at-home mom debate is one that has gone on for decades. Which situation is ideal for the child? Which is easier on mom and the family? And of course, which is more challenging? As a work-at-home mom, or WAHM, I lie somewhere in the middle. In the six months that I've been a mother, I haven't had to say goodbye each morning (or any morning) as I reluctantly drop my daughter off at daycare. And while I am very, very thankful for this, I also want it to be said: WAHMing ain't easy.
Prior to the birth of my daughter, I worked from home for close to two years. Even though I've never mastered the art of the perfectly disciplined work-from-home schedule, I had a routine. That routine included waking up around 7am and working all day, just as if I were in an office somewhere. I almost never quit before 5, and because I love my role as a freelance writer and blog editor, sometimes I worked well into the evening.
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My first clue that the night was not going to be one of my brighter moments was when I discovered she had never met the guy in person. They had met online in a chat room. Red flag #1. She assured me he was OK. She had seen his picture online. Red flag #2.
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There's no other time like the holidays to examine your life and how lucky you are to be surrounded by friends and family. While you're at it, you might as well take a look at your relationship with your significant other and see just what makes you click. We're not suggesting you sit down and have a deep, intense one-on-one under the mistletoe (although that's always fun, too), but instead make a game out of it. Tokii is here to help.
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Gifts are not the only ways to show generosity in your relationship.Read More »from 4 Signs that You Are Generous in Your Relationship
Studies show that being a generous partner not only makes for a happier relationship, but actually provides health benefits for both partners. But how can you tell how generous you are? Many people have trouble assessing this personality trait, and tend to overestimate their own generosity. Others are chronic "givers," letting their significant other walk all over them and often not even knowing it.
How does your relationship stack up on the generosity scale? The New York Times recently posted a quiz of four questions that researchers from the University of Virginia's National Marriage Project used to measure generosity, higher levels of which predict a stronger and happier relationship. The questions are:
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November and December are a time when we come together to catch up with loved ones, enact family traditions and celebrate life. But the season of good cheer is not always cheerful. Between selecting the perfect gift, booking expensive flights and dealing with the in-laws, people get stressed and, unfortunately, the closest vent for those frustrations is typically one's partner. Here are ten common holiday fights couples have during the holidays and how to avoid them.
1. The mother-in-law fight. His mom hates your cooking-he says she's just being helpful. How to fix it: Address her directly, with this non-threatening formula: "I feel insert your feeling here when you her action here. Please what you want her to do." Example: "I feel bad when you criticize my cooking. Please don't tell me my food is awful, even if you don't like it."
2. The money fight: You want to throw a holiday party; he says you can't afford it. How to fix it: Create a budget in advance that takes into account all
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