It feels sometimes like the world is cold and things are un fair
however don't forget the beautiful things, people, reasons and experiences to smile
most of all true love you can find within yourself"
I have always had trust issues and maybe it's mostly my part however some people
that crossed my life didn't help my commitment phobia with their lies and mind games
I have gone through it all with dating, i have heard the most creative stories that
it makes me wonder when i really do meet someone that is keeping it real will i know?
I found myself going into self destructive mode not wanting to deal with the emotions
and i noticed that it was only giving satisfaction to the ones that screwed me over
the best way to get through life's disappointments is to learn from them and improve you!
I myself felt lost so i went to a known psychic that i had went to before the weird thing is that
I hadn't mentioned anything yet as to what i
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They're moments that we adapt to certain friendships, relationshipsRead More »from misery loves company but you don't have to be it
because out of comfort or fear of being alone
but even when having certain people in your life they can bring out
the worst in you
like a bad mojo
because if you notice their actions are screaming louder than their words
it's freakin sad that even you closest "friends" are the worst
whether they lack confidence that you have
or just because they want to see you miserable
you have to take control of your life and cut people that
don't deserve to be there
and the hardest thing to do is let go
I didn't ever have the best relationships with my parents however being a parent myself of 4 kids
I would do anything to make sure that i have a closer bond with my kids
recently i have found out some disturbing details about my father
that i won't say however when i confronted this information to my mother
she too hurt me in the worst way possible
by not believing me
and justifying for it
i felt such
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I find that i feel more secure in the feelings of seduction, lust , passion
when i sense that it's getting serious my mind freaks out
and i start to over analyze the person
getting scared of the what if's
I find reasons or pick at their flaws
so that i give myself space from that person
it's not easy to let myself be loved
it's easier to be wanted
do you blame me: my first marriage was domestic violence, mental abuse, verbal abuse
then when leaving that unhealthy situation
I found myself meeting someone that i thought was normal
only to finding out that they lived a secret meth life
8 yrs with him that went no where
I know to that it's in our choices who we choose to invite into our lives however
I find myself asking could i let someone love me
or would i rather play it safe and block my emotions and feelings
I want to be loved by the right person someday i just don't know who that is
Do you find yourself unhappy in your relationship and are contemplatingRead More »from When you know it's time to hit the road
should i stay or should i go?
Ask yourself these things:
1. Are you happy together? if not have you both made an attempt to work things out more than 3 times?
2. What are you fighting for? Love conquers all so why not love yourself more to let them go
3. How do they make you feel? do they bring out the best of you or are you simply a carpet that is being walked on?
4. Do you recognize the person in the mirror?
being in an unhealthy relationship will take it's toll on your health from loosing your hair, acne, weight gain, and even more serious health issues
think of how you look and feel when you're in love and happy: glowing skin " you get the picture
How do i know this : because when i was in my unhappy 8 yr relationship I was so stressed out that I was diagnosed with thank god a non cancerous tumor the size of a melon to top it off when i went in for surgery to have it removed he wasn't there for me he
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I remember the 2 worst things that my parents ever told me
1. That a man will promise the stars and the moon in the beginning then show his true colors
2. That no man would want to be with me because I am a single mother with 4 kids
After my 8 year relationship went no where I made a promise to not ever make excuses for anyone and to have boundaries
the dating scene is pretty scary I met several liars, manipulators, wannabees
I still keep hope that I will come across someone someday that understands me and values me for who i am and not for who they would want me to be"
I really wished that instead of being fed these romantic chick flicks, Hollywood really made a movie on just how scary, lonely,disappointing it is to date
we as women either get told stories of how we imagine it would be but in reality they are either after one thing or playing the field
You ever find yourself saying " i just want to be happy"!
Take a look around at what is preventing you from being happier:
1. the circle of friends that you surround yourself by: if they put you down or bring you down by their negative vibes then stop contact with them "Don't make excuses regardless how long you have known them
2.Your sanctuary aka: your home is it clean or is clutter everywhere ? start donating items or trash it
3. Everyday be thankful for everything that you have specially life"
4. Start focusing on ways to release any stress you might have by working out
5. You are what you eat : therefore start eating food that is great for your mood and body
Salmon, Fruit, H 2o
6. Create a dream box or board by cutting out images , or placing photos that make you smile even if it's stilettos !
7. Always remember to pay it fwd : do unto others as you would want done to you=)
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whether it's an obsession or love for money
I thank the stars up above that i was raised with learning the value of food, clothing, shelter
I grew up with 3 siblings and both parents my father being the main bread winner
my parents didn't spoil us they simply gave us the bare essentuals
the enviroment was pleasant
now being a single parent to 4 wonderful kids I understand all that a mother does for the happiness and health of their children
I haven't ever expected anything from their father but to be responsible and put his kids as priority
however some people aren't meant to be parents
his biggest concern has always been money
and giving me as little as possible to the point where he always has some reason why he is broke I became numb to the stories and excuses however, not to where I ignored the fact that children should be provided for and taken cared of therefore opening and establishing a child support case
When you get in the dating scene, you come accross many sale's menRead More »from Don't loose track of who you are
and i call them that because you are being sold a certain character
you might even be groomed" by them telling you all the things that others didn't
making it like you're on cloud nine
however don't loose track of who you are!
sometimes people tend to get wrapped up in a bow and forget to remain true to themselves
i have learned from my mistakes
i have discovered that when i date someone exclusively i tend to want to prove to them that i'm unique and that i'm not like the rest
i know that about myself to know now that you should only have to be yourself
and nothing else
but you live and learn that's how you grow
when me and my friends have the talks about dating i hear it over and over how they can't believe they did so much and received not equal
i guess what it comes down to is " what you see is what you get" from the beginning
and it should be equal and if anything amazing from the start
to keep getting
Because of society the picture of sexy tends to be images of "Slim & skinny" though it doesn't appear to look healthy when all you do is count calories or focus on the size of your jeans.....Read More »from Healthy sexy
I remember looking at a painting of voluptuous women and that image being beautiful & sexy
why? because in the image the women appeared Happy"& confident...
Everytime i go to the store i notice there is a new diet pill" ..promising to make you shed pounds quickly..and from experience i used to think i had to go to that point ...only to shed my temper quickly...these pills may help you loose the weight but they also mess with other things in your body that aren't healthy...
To be honest i would constantly think that i was fat if i gained 5 pounds because maybe certain comments that people have said " that i should have disregarded.....i remember being a teen and my bf at the time had asked me" if it's true that Latin girls grow up to be fat"?
for the record latin women happen to be 1 of the
How you allow yourself to be treated from the start is how it will be always"
No one can want the red carpet but you ...more than anything showing the other person that you love & respect yourself"
If you allow the first profanity to be said to you, guess what you just gave that person the 'ok to keep it coming with more BS"
and most definitely if you allow a push it will turn into a punch!
And don't go disrespecting "Love" because that ain't "Love"
That is unhealthy, possesive,Crazy & non sense!
hate to break it to you that it's time to move on...Honeymoon's over!
If i was to write all the excuses, lies,BS, reasons,that people have said " as to why they stay in a un happy relationship" i would have flipping chronicles....
& I was one to talk because 4 yrs ago I was in a long term relationship that went to nowhere land
not only did i make those pathetic excuses but most of all i waisted those years that i won't get back
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