Do you explode easily or take things personally? Whether you've got a brief bout of road rage or an irritating long-term grudge, use this "framing" technique to manage it in a sane way. From The Art of Falling in Love, by Joe Beam.
Imagine that you are driving along in traffic on the way to a meeting. Suddenly, a little red sports car pops right in front of you and you have to hit the brakes to keep from hitting it. The red car slows down a couple of times, looking for a turn, but remains in front of you. Then it slows down as you approach a traffic light, and takes just enough time passing under it to make you miss the light.
How would you react? You may be irritated at the beginning, and then become more and more angry. If incensed enough, you may even run the red light to catch up with this automotive persecutor and shake your fist at him!
The irritation you feel is normal, but whatever anger you feel is yours, not that of the driver of the other car. You may shout,Read More »from At the End of Your Rope? Try This Great Trick for Defusing Anger