By Dwayne Ballen
Author of Journey with Julian
One recent morning I watched my son, Julian, walk down our driveway and get into the van that takes him to school every day. As the van disappeared from view, my thoughts ran to how far he has traveled in his brief 19 years. From a diagnosis of autism at age four to high school graduate, it's been a journey of twists, turns, reversals, forward leaps, and ultimately triumph. All of it, I strongly believe, has been made better because my wife Martina and I made the decision when Julian was a toddler to address obvious signs of his slower than typical development.
Unfortunately, our situation is not the norm in the black community. The reality is that African-Americans lag behind greater society when it comes to dealing with autism. The facts make this very clear. According to a study by Florida State University professor Martell Teasley, black children with autism are diagnosed on average at age five, compared to age three for their white
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- Tips on Healthy Living | Author Blog Posts – Wed, Jul 31, 2013 3:22 PM EDT
By Dwayne BallenRead More »from The Importance of Addressing Early Signs of Autism in Children
Email can be a huge source of time-wasting clutter. These rules from organizing guru Barbara Reich will help you stay on top of it more efficiently. From her book, Secrets of an Organized Mom.Read More »from How to Waste Less Time on Email
Most of us spend a large percentage of our time on the computer either writing or responding to emails. Email is a huge source of clutter (and time-wasting) in our lives. Here are my rules for more orderly emailing:
• Consolidate your accounts. If possible, have all of your personal email accounts come into the same program.
• Answer your emails daily, and open each only once. In your personal life, you can get away with checking email once a day-first thing in the morning or at the end of the day, whatever works for you. In truth, if you have a smartphone, you're likely checking email all day. Either way, the key to staying on top of correspondence is to make a decision and respond. Then there are only three options once you've responded: Delete the email, put it in an email folder, or print
- Tips on Healthy Living | Author Blog Posts – Fri, Jul 12, 2013 9:10 AM EDT
Translated from Vonnadorian by Matt Haig
Author of The Humans
If you are ever unfortunate enough to find yourself on the mediocre planet known to its inhabitants as Earth, then I recommend that you fall in love. Love is just about the only thing that makes life on Earth bearable for more than, say, fifteen minutes.
Here are some ways to make a human fall in love with you.
1. Be incredibly good looking. Humans are quite superficial, so being very physically attractive (by human standards) is a major asset.Read More »from 21 Ways to Make the Average Human Fall in Love with You
2. Be incredibly rich. See point 1.
3. Be incredibly famous. See points 1 and 2.
4. Sing songs in the key of G. This seems to work.
5. Take a human to a restaurant, and buy them food, and listen to them talk about themselves for at least three hours.
6. Act like you care.
7. Don't yodel. Yodeling generally doesn't help.
8. Generally, on Earth, quadratic equations and vertex configuration does not have the same erotic effect as it does on Vonnadoria.
By Elizabeth Dunn
Co-author of Happy Money
Now that the average American wedding costs almost $30,000, some of my friends swear that when they get engaged, they'll just tie the knot at a courthouse and spend the money on a down payment for a house. As someone who's usually careful with money, I think this sounds sensible. But as a happiness researcher, I'm not so sure.
Surprisingly, research suggests that owning a home has almost no impact on happiness. Instead, it turns out that people typically get more happiness from buying experiences than from buying material things. And a wedding can be one of life's great experiences. Of course, it's easy to get sucked in to spending lots of money on wedding expenses that won't make any difference for your happiness. Drawing on two decades of scientific research, here are a few tips for squeezing the most happiness out of every dollar you spend on your wedding.
Harness the pleasure of planning. Many couples say that the day ofRead More »from 3 Steps to a Happy, Budget-Friendly Wedding
- Tips on Healthy Living | Author Blog Posts – Tue, Jun 25, 2013 3:41 PM EDT
Claire Cook wrote her first novel in her minivan and walked the red carpet at the Hollywood premiere of the adaptation of her second novel, Must Love Dogs, starring Diane Lane and John Cusack. Her new novel Time Flies centers on a high school reunion, and she shares her insights and her characters' here.
She makes an entrance at every high school reunion. Impossibly tight dress, no visible movement to her face, elaborately foiled platinum hair, her emerald eyes a color that occurs naturally only in cats. She looks like she hasn't eaten since the last reunion five years ago, and you wonder if her ordinary-looking husband is walking a few steps behind her to catch her if she falls off her 12-inch heels, or because his job is to record the stunned reactions of her classmates with his iPhone and play them back to her later.
She hasn't changed a bit. She's changed completely. But guess what? She's not having any fun. Her classmates check her out from a distance, and keep thatRead More »from 5 Solid Reasons to Go to that High School Reunion You’re Dreading
- Tips on Healthy Living | Fashion – Wed, Jun 19, 2013 4:13 PM EDT
By Julie Inzanti
It seems like our carefully curated transitional wardrobe may never see the light of day, literally. April showers have decamped to June, extending or our seasonal affective disorder. We haven't had the necessary handful of balmy days of May and June to brown our gams for the general public. And we can't just unsheath our bottom half all at once-it happens inch by inch. For capricious climates, call on these essential ankle-length pieces.
The maxi: Dress or skirt, A-line or full-circle, classic, or Boho, the maxi is another perfect transitional piece. Don't go too long (you will pick up all sorts of unwanted debris on the city streets) or too short (that lower-calf region is prime for a matronly look.)
You can wear a maxi skirt or dress with layers and sandals on hot days or with boots or wedge sneakers for cold days. Tall or short, curvy, or straight-the long sweep of a maxi is slimming and flattering for all.
Nadia Tarr is the master of the maxi. HerRead More »from Get a Cute Summer Transitional Wardrobe that Starts at the Ankle
- Tips on Healthy Living | Author Blog Posts – Thu, Jun 13, 2013 3:02 PM EDT
By Michael GurianRead More »from Is Grandpa the Target of a Financial Scam? 7 Ways to Protect Your Elderly Loved Ones
Author of The Wonder of Aging, with Jay P. Gurian, Ph.D.
My 83-year-old father lost every cent he had. It happened slowly, and he never knew it was happening. Neither did his kids (myself included)-nor did his two sisters, my aunts, nor the staff or his friends at the retirement community he lived in. When everything unraveled and the police and I talked, a detective said, "It'll take a while for us to get this criminal charged. We have so many of these cases a day to deal with. This is going on everywhere."
Here is what happened: A few months after the passing of my mother at my parents' longtime home in Santa Rosa, Calif., my father (a retired university professor and state department official), was told by his doctor that he needed to move to a drier climate because of his respiratory issues. He sold the house and moved to a retirement community in Las Vegas, where he had been raised decades before. His life was going well and he enjoyed relatively good
Tired of your clothes? From a classic trench coat to a statement necklace, getting dressed for work or play is made easy with these essentials, says Barbara Reich, author of Secrets of an Organized Mom.Read More »from The 15 Wardrobe Basics Every Woman Needs
Shari Schmeltzer has been a personal shopper at Bergdorf Goodman for the past fourteen years. Not only is she enviably stylish herself, and endlessly patient in teaching others, she's also admirably practical. She knows that no matter how expensive or stylish an item is, if it's not wearable and versatile, then there's no point in having it. Shari is a big fan of having fewer items in your closet and having them all work for you in a variety of ways. Here is her list of what every woman should ideally have. Your individual life and work might require some alterations (and you might prefer red pumps to leopard-print), but consider this list an excellent starting point:
• Two pairs of jeans, one skinny or straight, and one flared or boot-cut
• Basic black cardigan
- Tips on Healthy Living | Healthy Living – Thu, Jun 6, 2013 4:54 PM EDT
It's the time of year when we all want to look our best, fast. Juice fasts, colonics, and similar cleanses may be popular, but in The 17 Day Plan to Stop Aging, author Dr. Mike Moreno shares why you're better off without them.Read More »from Why Doing a Detox for Your Summer Slimdown is a Bad Idea
There are a lot of products, diets, juices, and clinics out there these days that claim to have the definitive answer on how to rid your body of all the toxins we encounter daily in order to reverse aging. But many of these trends can be dangerous. Here are some examples of potential dangers. Consider yourself warned!
Colonics: This is a type of "detox" that is essentially like getting a massive enema. During the procedure, the technician will pump up to 20 gallons of water into the colon to "clean" out the rectum. It really scares me to think about people having this done, especially patients who have any type of digestive disorder. So much can go wrong! The risks include perforation of your bowel wall, electrolyte imbalance and dehydration, infection
Sloppy seconds? There's something really wrong with a woman who dates her friends' exes, says Big Ang, star of the hit reality show Mob Wives and author of Bigger Is Better: Real-Life Wisdom From the No-Drama Mama.Read More »from Girl Code: 1 Rule You Should Never Break
No matter how handsome or rich a man might be, if he's been with one of my friends, he is off-limits. I don't care if he was with the friend ten years ago, or twenty years ago. If she says she doesn't care who he gets in bed with, it doesn't matter. She might even believe it to the bottom of her heart. But if her pal got with the guy, and she found out-even if she hasn't thought about him in years-she'll feel betrayed, which will turn into anger. And, guaranteed, she won't be pissed off at the guy for putting his dick where it doesn't belong. She'll be furious with her girlfriend.
Men think they're the territorial ones. But women are much worse. Once a woman has been naked with someone, it's like she's put her mark on him. No matter how many other women he sleeps with, has