When men are unsettled by women's higher earnings, envy or resentment aren't always to blame, says Liza Mundy in The Richer Sex. Men continue to place intense pressure on themselves to earn-here's what's really driving them to do so.
Men still think of breadwinning as an obligation. Men feel they should contribute as much as or more than women do, and blame themselves when they can't. This, for men, is probably the greatest reason they struggle with women's earnings. Men have changed their minds about what's okay for women, but not about what's okay for men. If there is a double standard, it's that men are easier on women, in terms of expectations
for earnings, than they are on themselves.
Sociologists Ilana Demantas and Kristen Myers illuminated this mind-set when they interviewed a group of men who had been laid off during the Great Recession. Many were being supported by wives or girlfriends. These men were full of appreciation for the women they lived with. TheyRead More »from The Real Reason Why Men Are Uncomfortable with Women Making Big Bucks