Read More »from Should You Confront The "Other Woman"?
Not too long ago, a friend of mine, Addie, received a phone call at 4:00 in the morning. The caller was a woman who demanded to know the nature of Addie's relationship with her --the caller's-- boyfriend. (No one in this story is 17 years old, btw).
We are still laughing about this. It's a shame when a woman feels she has to make a call like that. And too bad for this chick that she didn't know better than to make that call to Addie. Addie's x-rated response can't be printed here but it went something like this: "I blank his blank every chance I get, and then we blank. He really likes it". The caller cried.
Here's the thing: Addie's relationship with this guy, the woman's supposed boyfriend is strictly platonic. Boyfriend would like it to be more, but Addie Read more http://www.thespinsterliciouslife.com/2011/10/should-you-really-confront-your-mans.html
Blog Posts by Spinsterlicious
Read More »from Should You Confront The "Other Woman"?
There's an article in New York Magazine that is causing lots of discussion everywhere. On TV talk shows, the news, Twitter, all over the blogosphere. It's about women over 50 having babies. Not adopting. Giving birth.
My gut reaction was "Ewww. Gross!" But then, when I gave it another thought I realized even my reaction is more complicated than that. Because who has the "right" to be a parent can be a very complicated discussion.
Obviously, there's a lot of science and technology involved here. It's pretty tough...almost impossible...for a woman over 50 to give birth without some help. So while most of these women may actually give birth, it's not usually with their own eggs. Even then, they sometimes require a little boosting from other medical advances.
It's easy to go to the place of saying "if she's too old, she'll die while the kid is young". But sometimes even young parents die. So since we don't really know when a person will leave this earth, that's more of aRead More »from User Post: Is That Your Ma...Or Your Grandma?
When I was young(er), I think I might have been crazy. Although I didn't think so at the time, here's why I say this now, looking back: I was planning a visit to my dear friends in the midwest and the Husband offered to set me up with a guy they knew. I asked his Wife why she hadn't mentioned this guy to me before and she said something like, "well I'm not sure he's right for you". When I asked why she said "I think he threw his last girlfriend out a window!". Allegedly. It hadn't been proven and he wasn't arrested...but still.
A story like that should have stopped me, even if it was just a rumor. But it didn't. Other than that probably-not-so-minor-detail, he seemed interesting. I said I wanted to meet him.
Over dinner, I asked him about the incident. He denied throwing her out the window, claiming that she climbed out (2nd floor, I think). Sounded fishy...so why did I go out with him the next night? And the night after that? In fact, we dated for a few months. We even tookRead More »from Are You Any Smarter About Men Now?
- Spinsterlicious | Love + Sex – Wed, Sep 21, 2011 1:49 AM EDT
This is actually a kinda boring blog post, but it's National Single and Unmarried Americans Week, so I felt compelled to write something in my own defense. Yeah, I know; you didn't know such a week existed. Me neither, until very recently. And I'm not sure, yet, what it really means but I wouldn't mind if it somehow involved gift-giving to Singles...kinda like other "holidays" do.
Anyway, are you tired of people acting like your life is "less than" because you're not married? (Of course you are). Well, here's a little ammo for the next time you're engaged in one of these tedious conversations and want something new and different to say. A recent article in the New York Times reports that Singles actually make more of a contribution to society, their communities, and their families than married people do.
That's right. A study by the Council on Contemporary Families found that Singles are:
• More likely to take care of their parents
• More connected to their niecesRead More »from Hey, It's National Single and Unmarried Americans Week! (About Time)
A good friend and regular reader of The Spinsterlicious Life sent me an article about the growing number of women who are leaving their marriages because they are "bored". That's right. According to the article (that I've re-titled Boredom-Driven Divorce), adultery and money issues are no longer the major reason for divorce; "growing apart" is...a euphemism for "I need something different".
These boredom-driven divorces are usually initiated by women...who are, apparently, married to perfectly decent husbands...who they don't dislike...but with whom they are finding their married life unbearingly dull.
As one woman put it, "I just wanted to change my life"...
Read more: http://www.thespinsterliciouslife.com/2011/09/is-boredom-good-reason-for-divorce.html
...and other cliches. And now for today's rant. I hate trite comments, especially when the speaker is acting like we haven't heard it 10,000 times before. So when a woman I know was trying to explain the concept of Spinsterlicious to a friend, and said "it's about being single and "living every day to the fullest", I groaned (inside), smiled a weak smile and said kinda quietly "well, not exactly"...when I really meant "not even close".
Here's why: Banalities like "Live every day to the fullest" make my eyes glaze over. What does "to the fullest" really mean, anyway? It sounds exhausting to me. If I had to live Every. Single. Day. To the Fullest, I think I'd just go back to bed. It's too daunting.
When people say that, I know think they mean well, but it just feels so empty to me. I want them to be more present in the conversation.
Living every day to the fullest sounds extremely stressful to me. Does that mean I can't take a nap? No Judge Judy in the afternoon? NoRead More »from Enough With The Platitudes...