There are so many women I care deeply about -both friends and clients - who are holding themselves back from bringing love into their lives. Are you one of them? Are you saying "I want a fabulous man in my life" and "I know I'm a catch," yet not doing much to actually reach your self-described all-important goal? Are you doing the same routine each day, expecting things to be different? Are you staying closed in your head and your heart, unwilling to learn to better understand and love men...and yourself? If that's you, I can bet you haven't found him because of "Fear of Fill-in-the-blank." We all have different fears, but it comes down to the same thing: a big wall between us and what we want in life. And for you, it is to love and be loved.
Well, the New Year is starting. Let's face it, girls; the clock is ticking. I'm here to encourage you to get laser-focused on this goal and go for it. And the best way I know how to help you do this is to help alleviate your fears.
That's where
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Read More »from How to Decide when to Have SexDeciding when to sleep with a man is important, which is why you have to talk about it first.The ladies in my Master the Mystery of Meeting Men telecourse have been talking about S-E-X. When is it okay to have it? How do you decide? This is such an important conversation! You may think "I'm not even dating yet...who cares!" But the decision may be closer than you think, and I want you to be prepared. Sex can be a glorious part of a relationship. But for women, it can also wreak havoc on your emotional state. Having sex too soon can also mess up an otherwise budding relationship.
Getting this right is about clearly defining the boundary and behavior you will follow under all circumstances. This is key to maintaining your dignity and confidence, not falling for the wrong guy and keeping safe. Here's some advice:
1. Know what you want and keep your eyes on the prize
Are you looking for frolic with a great orgasm or for a loving, decent man to spend your life with? Figure it out and always head toward that goal. (Just like you do in the other aspects of your life.) And be sure
Read More »from Why the Gracious Needy Gal Gets the GuyIf you're the gal who doesn't need anything (or acts like she doesn't), the kind of guy you want will NOT pick you as a partner.Needy women attract good men.
"Low-maintenance" women attract jerks…or no men at all.
Is this counter to what you've always thought? Did you think that the less you expected from a man, the more he'd like you? Well, consider this:
A Good Man - one who is confident, mature and relationship-minded - wants to give to a woman and make her happy. He needs to know that you need him and that he's enhancing your already-great life.
A good man also wants to know that you respect and love yourself. He does not want to be completely responsible for your happiness. (That's why I said he wants to "enhance" your life, not "be" your life.)
Now, say you're the gal who doesn't need anything (or at least doesn't act like you do). Mr. Good Man will NOT pick you as a partner. He may sleep with you…but he won't marry you. If you don't leave room for him to be your hero, and you don't show that you know you're worthy of him, he will leave before you can say "Why didn't he call?"
On the other hand,How to Talk to Men (in a Way That They Like!)
By Bobbi Palmer | Author Blog Posts – Mon, Sep 19, 2011 9:52 PM EDTNot only is it okay to talk about yourself to men, but it is 100% essential to getting first dates and future dates. When I tell women that it's GOOD to talk about themselves, it's generally met with complete shock. But don't guys love it when we let them do all the talking?
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Well, yes. Who doesn't like talking about themselves? But unless "good listener" is on the top of his must-have list for potential mates - and I've never met a man who places it there - he's not going to pick you. Imagine him driving home and saying to himself, "That Susie was such a good listener. I can't wait to see her again!" The only guy who does that is the me-me-me-me guy. And who wants him, anyway?
When you meet a man you like, I want him driving home saying to himself, "That Susie is so interesting/fun to be with/positive/thoughtful/clever…and we both like (fill-in-the-blank). I can't wait to see her again!" He can not do this unless you give him the information to form the opinion, right?
If you're one
