Have you ever thought about what kind of first impression you make on the telephone? It's been on my mind since I hung up the phone yesterday with a guy who called to interview me. I thought afterward, "Yuck, I didn't like him…" Of course we'd never met, only exchanged words through the receiver for about 15 minutes. But it got me thinking: why didn't I like him? Would he be different face-to-face? Maybe there's a disconnect between his phone manner and his live personality. But whatever the perception versus the reality, I think phone charisma is something you should master if you want to be successful in life (and especially in love).
Too often someone can get a negative impression about you from what you say (or don't say) on the phone. They can't see your body language or facial expressions, which might lead to false assumptions about what type of person you are. Whether you're chatting with someone for business or personal reasons, you should always "give good phone."
After a
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Will.I.Am Calls for Education Reform During Super Bowl; Christina Aguilera Wows Despite Lyric Flub (VIDEOS)
By genConnect.com | Work + Money – Mon, Feb 7, 2011 5:28 PM EST
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Black Eyed Peas star Will.I.Am took the opportunity during the band's performance during last night's Super Bowl halftime show to insert a little self expression into the festivities.
During the group's performance of "Where is the Love," the singer interjected: "In America we need to get things straight / Obama, let's get these kids educated / Create jobs so the country stays stimulated."
The Black Eyed Peas also performed their rendition of Guns and Roses' "Sweet Child o'Mine," with Fergie singing the lead.
This is not the first time Will.I.Am has tried to make a political statement. During the 2008 presidential campaign between Obama, Hillary Clinton and John McCain, Will.I.Am led a star-studded cast in creating a YouTube sensation, "Yes We Can" music video espousing Obama's campaign theme of change. Watch the video below:Touchdown Nutrition at Your Super Bowl Party
By genConnect.com | Healthy Living – Sat, Feb 5, 2011 3:16 PM EST
Super Bowl watchers fall into two categories: first, there are the football fans that actually watch the game, and then there are those like me, who busy themselves during game time but run to the sofa to watch the commercials. Regardless of your Super Bowl type, there's one thing we all have in common: food. What do you think about when you think of Super Bowl food? Buffalo wings, pizza, chips, dips? Really anything covered in sauce, filled with fat, and dusted with salt.
Here are some no-fail tips on maintaining traditional Super Bowl snacks without consuming a week's worth of calories.
Chips & Dips
- Stick with any baked chip. Personally, I think they taste better and they have less fat. My favorite brands are Food Should Taste Good and Mary's Gone Crackers.
- Don't leave the bag out! Use those bowls and dishes you haven't used since Thanksgiving. Not only will your table look pretty, but you'll also be less inclined to eat the entire bag.
- Offer
Tips for Parents Raising Their Own Justin Bieber
By genConnect.com | Parenting – Thu, Feb 3, 2011 7:29 PM EST
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Bieber Fever. The phrase alone induces heart palpitations in every tween, teen and parent alike. Come February 11th, their prayers will be answered when Justin Bieber's movie, "Never Say Never" hits theatres. The movie documents Bieber's career, which began when his mother, Pattie Mallette, video taped his renditions of various R&B songs and uploaded them to YouTube. His mother continues to be a positive driving force in his career, and we must say, the kid seems to have a good head (and hair) on his shoulders.
For parents who also have a talented little one, clinical psychiatrist and parenting expert, Dr. Janet Taylor, shares tips on raising a well-rounded child star.
1. Prioritize Education. Most child stars are not celebrities forever. They still need exposure to a fundamental school education. Schooling fosters confidence, increases social awareness and gives them a plan for the future.
2. Teach them to choose their friends wisely. A good friend keeps secrets, is not awed by fame
My ValentineValentine's Day is two weeks away and you're without a date. No need to fear. There are plenty of fish in the online dating sea who are also in your position. To find a Valentine for February 14th, try these tips from cyber dating expert Julie Spira:
Initiate contact. I have a saying, don't wait, initiate. I truly mean it because a man sometimes will be flattered when he sees your email in his inbox.
Log on to your dating website or social network in the morning, and keep your account open all day long. By the time you come home for dinner you might have quite a few emails there. You might be surprised.
Update. Men love to gravitate to the new fresh face. Log on to your profile, and just tweak a few sentences here and there. Upload new photos and change the order of your new profile photo to refresh the look of your profile. If you've done something interesting recently, such as returning from a trip or seeing your favorite band in concert, add it to the profile, as
Read More »from How to Land a Valentine OnlineWant to Land a New Job? Channel Your Inner Bahamian
By genConnect.com | Work + Money – Mon, Jan 31, 2011 1:56 PM EST
When you arrive in Nassau, the capital of The Bahamas, you're greeted by a pirate in the airport, along with a reggae band. Yes, a reggae band. So, when it comes to their slogan that reads, "It's better in the Bahamas," life should be this good, right? I couldn't help but wonder how we can all channel this relaxed state of mind to our careers as well.
Here are four tips to channel your inner Bahamian:
1. Relax. Have you ever worked yourself into a severe state of an anxiety for a recruiter to call you back and schedule an interview, only to discover they not only didn't call you back right away, it took them three weeks to reach you? Or maybe you're gunning for a promotion at work, doing everything in your power to make it happen? And then you realize, certain things such as budgets and big decisions are ultimately out of your hands anyway? One word of advice: Breathe.
2. Don't look for it. It's an interesting thing about island hopping through the Exuma Islands, an
Read More »from Want to Land a New Job? Channel Your Inner BahamianI am a firm believer in "Investment Dressing" and this time of year couldn't be a better time to pick up those more costly pieces that make a wardrobe. So, which items - based on trends and need - are the most valuable ones to have in your closet? Here's a list that I think is sure to make your investment dressing pay off huge dividends for your personal style:
A real or fake fur vest a key piece for the cold weather months. A fur vest makes every outfit look put together and current. You can't go wrong with either brown or grey because they are colors that go with anything, whether bold or monotone.
Scarves are my absolute favorite accessory whether winter, spring, summer, or fall. Scarves make for a perfect way to inject color and an element of chic into your outfit. The best part is that no matter what color you like best, you can't go wrong with a scarf as an accessory. Just make sure you choose a medium length or long scarf that you can
Read More »from Investment DressingBehind Gabrielle Giffords Exceptional Recovery
By genConnect.com | Healthy Living – Mon, Jan 24, 2011 6:08 PM EST
Mark Kelly at the side of wife Gabrielle Giffords in the University Medical Center/ U.S. Rep. Gabrielle Giffords' OfficeIn an interview for The New York Times on January 18th a woman faced with metastatic breast cancer made the following comment: "You always hear stories about women who 'battled it' and how 'courageous' they were. Cancer doesn't care if you're courageous. It's an injustice to all of us who have this. There are women who are no less strong and no less determined to be here, and they'll be dead in two years." You might wonder what that has to do with what has been reported to be the exceptional recovery of Representative Gabriell Giffords following a gunshot that traveled through her brain. The fact is that there is an important connection.
The woman who made this comment is herself someone who was diagnosed with breast cancer of a metastatic form, meaning it had already spread to other parts of her body-in her case, her spine. It is not hard to imagine how such a diagnosis can be emotionally and cognitively overwhelming. In comparison to other diagnoses-Stage 1 or Stage 2 cancer-it
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I promised to be a little more patient and my husband promised to be a little faster. That's the compromise we reached once it became clear that I had gotten used to barking orders: "Get the washcloth! Bring me the bottle! Go find him the tiny little stuffed dog he loves that is usually in his crib but not here right now!" Yes, I mean those exclamation points.
According to new research that I wrote about in a post on my Expecting Words blog, 90 percent of couples say their relationship is worse since they had a baby. I suspect it's because life tends to feel like an emergency all the time when there's a baby or toddler around. The sense of urgency means many of us push niceties, tactfulness and respect to the side for the greater good (the child).
I read a story a few months ago about a mom who was bathing her three young kids in the tub, and once they were nearly all clean, IT happened. The youngest pooped in the tub. I can only imagine what the mom yelled to her husband in
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Why did he cheat on me?
Do I have to get married?
Is it okay to engage in a "Friends With Benefits" relationship?
This is your chance to ask your love and relationship questions to a premier expert on monogamy. Dr. Marianne Brandon will be answering questions live on Thursday, January 20 at 3:30 pm EST, 12:30 pm PST on genConnect.com.
In addition to the live Q & A, participants can enjoy a fun video conversation, where Dr. Brandon addresses the rising trend of "Friends With Benefits" relationships - as seen in the upcoming Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher movie "No Strings Attached." In the video, she is joined by Dr. Alan Altman, President of the International Society for Women's Sexual Health. Hosted by Plum TV's Ramona Bruland, you'll discover why more people are opting for casual hookups rather than committed, monogamous relationships.
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