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Working as a sex therapist is a fascinating career. It is intense work, talking about the intimate aspects of people's lives every day. People ask me if I get depressed, hearing about people's problems. I can understand why people would ask that question, but the truth is, it is much more depressing for me to be around people who need help and aren't getting it, than to be with people who are reaching out and getting the assistance they need. I also find that I learn a tremendous amount about life, working so intimately with others. These are just a few lessons I have learned from my clients over the years:

1. Sexual problems are not one person's issue. Often people come to sex therapy believing that they, or their partner, have a sexual problem that needs to be fixed. It takes two to tango ... Sexual concerns are an amalgam of two people's sexual connection - their unique struggles, challenges and concerns. For example, a woman's low libido may be the result of her own disconnection

Two days after I gave birth at a hospital in Manhattan, my husband and I joyfully embarked upon our taxi ride home with our new baby boy. As I tended to my baby in the back of the cab, everything was wonderful, until I overheard the driver joke to my husband sitting in the front seat, "When she's due? She looks like she still has a bun in the oven." NOT FUNNY! My husband didn't miss a beat admonishing the driver. But, having been through nine months of pregnancy, I had already heard it all. I don't know of any pregnant mom who doesn't have a story that begins with, "You won't believe what someone said to me!" Often, I couldn't.

1. "You look like you're getting fat."
My friend, who avidly reads my blog for expecting couples and new parents (www.expectingwords.com), announced her pregnancy at work about four months in. She called to tell me her boss's response: "Oh so that explains your belly bulge. I didn't think you were the kind of woman who would let herself go like

As recruiters scour through an abundance of resumes of qualified job seekers for 2011, all a candidate needs is to make the smallest of snafus and bam! Rejected.

Here are some pointers to stay off the red flag list with your prospective employers.

1. Not following protocol.

Some candidates try to expedite the process and circumvent the hiring manager but that will only become a blatant red flag in terms of being a loose cannon. Don't be that person. Follow protocol.

2. Typos on a resume.

This one is a no-brainer but you'd be surprised by how many people submit resumes and cover letters with typographical and grammatical errors. One word: PROOFREAD.

3. Being rude to the receptionist.

During an interview your entire behavior is analyzed, including how you treat people from the moment you step in the door (and before that, actually in terms of phone etiquette and e-mail correspondence). If you're not nice to someone, trust me, it'll get back to the

Want to give your style a face lift in 2011? Then follow these simple tips for a look that will be forever fashionable and always turn heads.

Do what your mother told you to do on cold winter days: put on a scarf before you go out. Wearing a scarf exudes confidence and demonstrates an elemental flare of chic while adding a fashion layer to an outfit. When layers are done properly they are a great touch on any woman, regardless of her size or shape. It says that she knows how to accessorize and will absolutely turn an average outfit into a true winner. A great scarf also says you're hip.

I'm one of those women who loves to wear black. At Barneys New York - the place I've worked styling people for more than 14 years - black seems to be the standard uniform of choice for me and my colleagues. Black certainly makes any woman look thinner, but so much monochrome can sometimes look boring and dull. On those days when I wear black, which is nearly every day, I head straight to my closet

Here are some of my secrets.

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"Make a New Year's resolution? Why bother - most people don't keep them anyway." Yes, I can read your mind. You are correct that resolutions typically go unheeded. BUT that doesn't mean yours has to. With a little effort, a year from now you might ring in 2012 hoping that it brings you as much pleasure as 2011!

Did I get your attention? Let's make 2011 a year to remember!

Whether you are coupled or single, here are a few resolutions to get your "Year of Pleasure" started.

First of all, do some redecorating. Look around your bedroom - does this room make you feel sensual and sexy? If not, it's time to spruce things up. Our surroundings can have a significant impact on how we feel. Think about it - we spend time in nature or go to a house of worship to feel connected to something greater than ourselves. In contrast, when we want to let loose and have fun, we go to a bar. In this way, we use the energy around us to help create a different mindset. So make use of your

It's that time of year again. Christmas and Hanukah music are playing on the radio and at the malls. Everyone is getting ready for the big event and cheerful greetings abound. This is the toughest season of the year for those who are grieving a loss of a loved one. Cheerfulness doesn't resonate with grief, sadness and the pain of loss. It only further serves to isolate and differentiate those whose lives have been turned upside down by loss.

Talking to Children About Loss and Sadness

So how does one cope with the holidays when grieving? How do you celebrate and not let your grief steal all the joy from your family? Holidays tend to exacerbate our feelings of loss as memories and "triggers" surround us. The fact that holidays occur in the midst of grief means that the celebration for years to come may be bittersweet. Given that things will never be the same, the grieving family will require some changes in tradition. Grief is an adjustment process that takes time. Traditions will

Before you head off to the airport, don't forget these important things ...

1. Bring on the plane a small carry-on bag with your essentials (toothbrush and bathing suit) just in case you arrive before your luggage does.

2. Take out trip insurance for the holidays. You never know if there will be a family emergency, flight cancellations or unfortunate business matters that prevent you from going away.

3. Keep a copy of your passport separate from the passport itself and leave a copy home with someone you trust. If you misplace your passport, you have all of your information readily available.

4. If you're traveling internationally, make sure you have extra pages in your passport. Immigration rules are being strictly enforced and you need those empty pages for exit and/or entry stamps.

5. Wear socks. When you take off your shoes to go through security, it gets mighty cold and dirty walking barefoot.

6. Bring your own food and blanket on the plane. This will