I got into a discussion with a female friend about the phrase "dating" versus "seeing someone". My take is there is a difference - if you''ve "dated" someone, you've had sex with them. If you were "seeing someone" then you haven't. She thought I was crazy.
Then I went on jury duty and we were handed a portion of California law that actually defined "dating" as one that included a "sexual relationship"....sweet - I was right (seriously laughed when I saw that).
BUT - if you're now starting something with a new person and past lovers or bf/gf's come up - how do you frame that?
This person I've started dating (yep - my definition) keeps telling me about some of the guys she's "dated" and I keep telling her that I don't really need a chronicling of all the guys she's slept with...to which she keeps telling me she never slept with them. So I've asked her to make the distinction between "dating" and "seeing someone" or I'll start to think she's slept with everyone in the
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I got into a discussion with a female friend about the phrase "dating" versus "seeing someone". My take is there is a difference - if you''ve "dated" someone, you've had sex with them. If you were "seeing someone" then you haven't. She thought I was crazy.Read More »from Dating landmines - talking about "the past"
Earlier today (scroll down) blogger Latina Libra posted some of the initial qualifications for the "Standard" Man Card which was outstanding. But as she posts in "Girl or Grown Women" this card might only get you into the "Girls Club". Grown Women really require the Gold Version of this Card…..and the qualifications are free…but require effort:
1) Know when to shut up and listen. If she shares some of her problems with you it doesn't mean she wants you to solve them necessarily.
2) If you find a Grown Woman, appreciate her as an equal. Especially as it relates to time and sex…we ALWAYS get ours - you better make damn sure she gets hers.
3) You can make time to hang with your boys or check out the game….but that might mean you're taking her to watch "Precious" the next night or that you're cool with her going out with her friends.
4) Gold Card members don't need to be "playas" - Girls aren't good enough for you and if you don't clearly understand that a GrownRead More »from Man Card - Gold Version
I've tried to be good all year...didn't always work but I tried hard. I'd really like you to leave me a girl that is warm and giving. One that appreciates that I give her my time as a choice, and not because I'm "needy". One that I can worship and let know how much she means to me everyday because there may be a day that I won't be able to tell her and I wouldn't want to miss an opportunity.
One that is beautiful on the outside, but more importantly, is beautiful on the inside as well. One that I long to be with when we're apart and ache to see. One that I love, lust after and respect. One that is strong and confident but isn't afraid to ask for help or cry on my shoulder that will always be there for her.
One that has eyes I could stare into for days and lips that I could kiss all day. One that I can laugh with and talk to for hours.
Santa, if you leave this under my tree I'll promise you one thing - I'll be on the "Naughty" list next year for sureRead More »from What do you want Santa to bring you?