Blog Posts by Em and Lo

Very rarely are other people's dreams interesting...except when they're about sex. This week dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg helps a man who just can't stop dreaming about the woman who broke his heart.

I am a 27-year-old grad student who has been happily married for two years. I pay for my studies by working as an assistant instructor at the university where I study. The other night (while lying next to my husband) I had a dream about one of my students who is about seven years younger than me and a bit of a class clown. He is not someone I would have found attractive in college, so it was a complete surprise to see him appear in a dream in which we had a lot of really satisfying sex. The next day in class I felt really awkward and since then he has reappeared in a couple more dreams. What is going on?

Does she want to give her student a lesson in bed or does she just really like that Police song, "Don't Stand So Close to Me"? Find out after the jump (right after you send us your own

Alison Tyler has edited more than forty-five books of erotica, but perhaps more impressive than that is the fact that she's been married for 15 years and says that her relationship is still "filled with extreme, kinky, varied, crazy, never-have-the-same-sex-twice sort of sex." For both feats, we reckon she deserves some sort of medal. Her latest book is Never Have the Same Sex Twice: A Guide for Couples, which features advice, stories from her own life, plus some of her favorite erotica from over the years...

After 45 books of erotica, what made you decide to write a how-to book?
In a way, all of my collections are how-to's, sexy jumping-off points for readers who might want to "try this at home." If you flipped open G is for Games, you could be inspired to try your own version of sexy Twister, featured in Madelynne Ellis's "No Limits." (At least, you could be if you were me.) Or if you paged through Love at First Sting, you might just consider buying a handful of colored ribbons and

On top? On bottom? Em & Lo ask New Yorkers about their favorite sexual positions.

And what exactly is he thinking while you're naked.

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So, we were doing a little wholesome holiday shopping the other day at a typical American mall when we walked by this mannequin outside a Hollister store. heck-oh! Is that visible stem? Um, yeah. This couldn't be the work of pre-teen prankster mall rats, or else the pants would have been pulled down to reveal the entire anatomically incorrect package. No, this had to have been art direction sent down from corporate. Official penile cleavage. And we couldn't help but think that this was at once a step forward toward true equality between the sexes (i.e. equal opportunity objectification, yay!) AND a step back toward Idiocracy, where pervasive advertising appeals to the lowest common denominator of our reptilian brains (it's the caveman club bonking us all on the heads, making us stupider and stupider, crasser and crasser). Titillated, disappointed, and confused, it was time to get a Cinnabon to make ourselves feel worse.

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Feeling down in the dumps because you're going to be single for Christmas and New Year's?

You're not alone. Well, sure, you're alone in the sense that you don't have a cutie to go ice-skating with while clad in matching striped scarves from the Gap. But you're not alone alone. Despite the onslaught of trailers for overly sentimental flicks featuring inspirational sports teams/family reunions/elf costumes, all those extra Kay Jewelers commercials (that actually make us pine for the Coors twins), and the music about love and joy that's piped into every pharmacy--despite all that, love is not, actually, all around. There's war and infidelity and existential crises and depression and recession and people in those pharmacies fighting and pushing to get to the front of the line with their gift wrap, emergency box of tampons, and prescription meds. It only feels like love's all around because single people don't spend as much money on holiday gifts and activities, so as far as Madison Avenue

Very rarely are other people's dreams interesting...except when they're about sex. This week dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg deciphers a creepy gang-bang of sorts:

I just started my new job about four months ago and I work for a lawyer who is not too much older than me. I had this dream that we were having very kinky sex in my husband's childhood bed with every guy I have ever slept with watching and it seemed they were waiting in line for their turn. Weird. My husband and I have only been married for two months and I love him more than anything and would never cheat on him so I am confused... What does it mean? (Video: Would You Participate in an Orgy?)

Is she having buyer's remorse or does she have an inner exhibitionist dying to get out? Find out after the jump (right after you send us your own dreams!):

Lauri Loewenberg: Your dream takes place in hubby's childhood bedroom because, at the time of this dream, perhaps he was acting a bit childish about something...or maybe he's just

If you read ourguide to sex-toy gift-giving etiquette last week, then you know it's best to go for nicely designed, higher-end prod. Of course, in this economy, who can afford a $175 Swarovski-crystal-encrusted vibrator with a pink feather tail on a silver stand? But that doesn't mean you can't find an affordably lewd and luxurious present for the fellow-perv in your life. Here are a bunch of cheap(ish) gift ideas from 10 great places -- all are as classy as sex toys can be, and each is under 50 bucks:

1. Jimmy Jane (pictured above) has 9 nice gifts all under $50, including the Pocket Pleasure set, the Iconic Pocket, and massage candles with body brushes.

2. Even though Coco de Mer carries the likes of the crystal and feather Minx mentioned above, they've got some affordable, beautifully packaged stuff on their Gifts for Her / Gifts for Him pages, including CdM Milk Bath ($25), In Fiore Decollete Balm ($50), Ginger & Date massage candle ($48), Ruby Sunrise Lubricant for her and

We have an article in December's Glamour magazine called "Guys' Weird New Habits: Why? Why?" One new habit we looked into were vasectomies for the under-30 -- it seems a small but growing number of men are doing it. Not only did we speak with urologists who perform them (like Dr. Doug Stein) but also with those who undergo them, like Jeremy Youngman, a single, childless tattoo artist outside Chicago who got snipped at age 27. He gave us a long and colorful list of reasons why (without skipping a beat), which we couldn't fit in the feature, but wanted to share since he was so fun to talk with:

• I think one of the world's biggest problems is overpopulation and I will not contribute to it

• I love dogs and would rather have a lot of those

• I find it hard enough to make my own good decisions, let alone instill morals and scruples in another person

• I can't make doctor / dentist / hairstylist appointments regularly for myself, let alone someone who needs them

• I don't eat right, and