This week's bucket list edition goes out to a whole bunch of women who have written in to say that they're straight but fancy getting jiggy with a lady. Take this note from Allie, for example: "Before I die (actually, before I settle down), I want to sleep with another woman. How do I tap into my bi-curious side, and how do I even find someone to experiment with?" Oh, and if you're on the fence about attacking your own bucket list, consider this: Dave Freeman, co-author of the original 100 Things to Do Before You Die book, died this week at age 47, after hitting his head in a fall (his family says he got through about half his list). So here are a few tips for all you post-college L.U.G.s out there. Go on, do it for Dave!
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- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Fri, Aug 29, 2008 5:15 PM EDT
Q: Why doesn't my boyfriend like to cuddle?Read More »from Advice from our guy friends: My boyfriend won't cuddle. Help!
Gay Committed Guy (Terence): Boys don't like to cuddle 'cause it rarely means foreplay. Cuddling is an
end to itself. You cuddle, and that's it. No climax. And half the time you wind up with a kink in your neck or trying to ignore your arm that fell asleep half an hour ago. Have you tried following up your cuddles with a happy ending?
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Straight Married Guy (Frederick): I dunno. He should. Cuddling is nice. What's his problem? Cuddling is the physical manifestation of intimacy. Sometimes guys have issues with that. I don't know why. I guess some guys just want to have a zen experience after sex, and intimacy complicates the feeling of freedom. Try to be cool with no touching after sex for a while. Then sneak in a cuddle in a different setting, in front of the TV, waiting for a flight. Then try working a little cuddle back in after sex.
The seven levels of love: Want to know where exactly your
- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Thu, Aug 28, 2008 6:28 PM EDT
Rachel Kramer Bussel is a prolific producer of erotica anthologies--the last time we spoke with her, we marveled that she was the editor of not one but two anthologies just on spanking alone. Well, turns out that she still had more to show and tell when it comes to spanking, because she just put out her third anthology on the topic: Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica. We figured it was about time with sat down with Rachel for a good ol' natter about the art of spanking.
Read an earlier, tantalizing Bedpost interview with Rachel here.
What makes a good spanking story?
Buildup and anticipation. You have to show the reader why the person wants to spank or be spanked, what about their partner drew them in; is it a case of them just needing to be spanked, or is there something about this particular person that makes them want to bend over? Creativity is key too; there are so many ways you can get spanked, so many implements and scenarios. Yes, some may be clichéd (schoolgirl, punishment, etc.)
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Dear Em & Lo,
I have genital herpes and rarely have breakouts. I just started dating someone. How and when do you recommend I address the issue? Oh, the stigma!
Here's how you know if you have herpes.
First of all, we'd like to give you a Golden Dildo Award for bravery and honesty in the face of danger (or, at least, in the face of temporary chastity). If only everyone felt as compelled as you clearly do to offer up the full scoop on their sexual histories. Unfortunately there are too many people who don't understand that if you've got something, you gotta tell. Sex is not a right, it's a privilege, and you've got to earn that privilege via honest communication about your bod and where it's been. If more people fessed up to STDs, then we'd all know a little more about them--and probably not be so freaked out. Knowledge is power, and power is sexy...
Unfortunately, honest communication isn't always the quickest route to the most sex. (Hence, so many
- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Wed, Aug 27, 2008 6:51 PM EDT
Read More »from Sex Advice: How should I store my sex toys? (Part 2)
About a week ago we began answering this question in a post and asked you for other bright ideas. Well, we got some great suggestions in the comments. Plus, we did a little more investigative research of our own. And so we've decided to do a more comprehensive list of sex toy storage solutions -- here are 17. Just remember to abide by the storage rules we outlined before...
1. Devine Toy Storage
This is probably the most stylish line of purpose-made sex toy storage containers available. They've got a lockable toy box, a carry-on, a condom cube (which could be used for a little bullet vibe or vibrating ----- ring), a satchel (pictured above) for bigger items like a paddle or a bunch of stuff for a naughty weekend, even a lingerie envelope. The site is cool, but you can't get a great feel for what they really look like until you visit other sites that have them for sale, such as Babeland and Feel Your Passion.
Video: A trip to Babeland yields demos of unintimidating, kinky toys.]
- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Wed, Aug 27, 2008 6:30 PM EDT
Very rarely are other people's dreams interesting...except when they're about sex. This week dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tackles a sex nightmare:
Current dream is my husband cheating, woman is always super nice, he is never apologetic and defends her. I smack him around but my blows never touch him.
- Glamour has gone inside the guilty mind of the other woman: How and when women decide to cross the line and cheat.
Lauri Lowenberg: Unless you have a really good reason to suspect hubby of getting his pleasures elsewhere, I wouldn't start snooping through his pockets and his drawers (either kind) just yet! Ask yourself what he is doing that is causing you to feel "cheated" out of your time with him. He must be giving his time, attention, and possibly even his affection to something that does not involve you. Is it work? The Read More »from Sex dream analysis: My husband's a lying cheating b*stard
Just last week we were tickled neon pink to find one of our favorite sex scenes on YouTube (in English): the dueling glow-in-the-dark condoms from the otherwise horrible Skin Deep. Well, now you too can recreate that hilarious scene in all its radioactive glory. The Night Light is the first and only FDA-approved glow-in-the-dark condom! They say its non-toxic (hope, hope) and "will glow after a few minutes exposure to ordinary light (be sure to do this before you roll down or apply the condom)."
[Video: Everything you ever wanted to know about condoms.]
Condomania's got them for sale at 20 percent off their usual prices: one condom is two bucks (down from $2.50) and the three-pack is $4.76 ($1.59 per condom, down from $5.95 for all three). A fairly cheap way to brighten up a dull sex life.
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Stylish sex-accessories designer Jimmyjane (one of our faves) has just released a pocket-sized portable pleasure set with the unfortunate name "Indulgences." It's got the basics you've seen before in pleasure packs: the waterproof mini vibe, the little feather tickler, the lube and the two condoms in a carrying case.
[Video: Claire from Babeland helps you find the perfect vibrator that's right for you!]
But what sets this one apart is the "Love Decoder" that decides what comes next -- you know, just like those silly paper fortune tellers we made in junior high that looked like origami called cootie catchers. Wicked! What can we say, we're suckers for nostalgia.
[Video: A trip to Babeland yields demos of unintimidating, kinky toys.]
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- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Mon, Aug 25, 2008 6:09 PM EDT
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aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th)
This is so like you: The person on your romance plate both stimulates and repulses you, kind of like meatloaf. You won't know what to do. So instead of just gracefully putting the napkin on your lap, picking up your silverware and taking slow, small bites, you'll probably freak out and end up rubbing the meatloaf all over your naked body right there on the dining room table. Which may or may not be a bad thing.
taurus (Apr. 21st-May 20th)
We're all for a little domination in the bedroom: the ropes, the outfits, the humiliation. All good stuff! But as soon as you open that door and cross the threshold into the real world for some fresh air, it ends right then and there. Nobody puts Taurus in a corner. At least outside of a BDSM scene.
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gemini (May 21st-June 21st)
You will be unusually stimulated by someone you meet this week--and we don't mean like with a spatula or an egg beater or anything.
- Em and Lo | Love + Sex – Fri, Aug 22, 2008 8:17 PM EDT
Dear Em & Lo,Read More »from Ask Em and Lo: My amazing sex life leaves me black and blue
I've been dating this amazing guy who has just turned my world upside down for the better. Out and about, he's bright and funny and warm and kind. In the bedroom, he is attentive and focused and devotes an incredible amount of time and energy appreciating every inch of me.
Not to look a gift horse in the mouth or anything, but the caveat is that every inch of me is literally covered in bruises! Not hickeys, bruises. They start out mouth-shaped and identifiably sex-markish, but eventually the edges fuzz out and I just look like I've been battered! Either way, it's terrible!
To avoid questions at work, I wear long sleeves and pants even in sticky July heat & humidity (and then I get questions anyway: "Aren't you hoooooot?"), but the bruises are unmistakeable when I'm running in shorts or swimming laps in a regular racing suit. I'm now running after dark, which isn't safe, and skipping my swims, which isn't satisfying and puts a crimp in my training program.
What to do?